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Here’s a primer on men to avoid and how to spot them.
Power Players. Power players cover a broad range of good-hearted and not-so-good guys. Power players have themselves in mind most of the time. A Power Player may casually ask you what you are doing Friday night, and then fail to follow-up with you if something better comes along. When you ask him to a concert, he may respond that he’s got another item on his agenda, “But let me see if I can’t move it around” or other vague answers. He’ll then keep you hanging until the last minute. He’ll play you like a cheap violin if he can get away with it. Otherwise, he’ll move on. Signs to watch for? These guys are characterized as opportunistic and have a larger-than-life quality. He’ll exploit a situation to aggrandize himself, to make himself him look better, more powerful, etc.
Schmoozers. While a Power Player might actively engage your affections, schmoozers are less concerned about what they really want to do on a Friday night, but more concerned with where they should be. They are the social climbers who seek to attend the best, toniest functions. “It was too late before I realized what a schmoozer he was because I was caught up by Peter’s charisma,” says Mindy, 42. She regrets that as a third date, she asked him to join her for her fortieth birthday party on a limo ride. He then proceeded to try to pick up all her single girlfriends. Mindy puts Patrick in the Jerk category, too.
The goal of the schmoozer is beyond just traveling in high-profile social circles; they’re users. They might glom onto people with boats, country club connections and other accoutrements. How to know you’ve got one? These guys drop a lot of names, possibly own or lease a high-end car, frequent bars and restaurants, and party a lot.
Jerks. Jerks are one of the broadest categories, covering a range of bad behavior. For starters, try chauvinistic men who make passes to cold-hearted guys without a clue on how to treat a lady. Consider the bad boys who don’t call to cancel a date, they simply stand you up. Consider the cheapskate. Serena, 40, recalls a guy she recently dated. “We dated for several months. He would just happen to show up late on the date, like at a coffee shop, just as I was paying for my coffee and scone.” That was nothing, Serena says, compared to the time they attended a concert. “At the door, he stepped quickly in front of me and paid for himself and then looked back at me and said he’d meet me upstairs,” she recalls. Fortunately, Serena didn’t get physically involved with the cheapskate and eventually broke it off.
Sometimes it’s only a small aspect of a guy’s behavior that puts him in the Jerk category. Other times, his Jerk actions go global. How to spot the quintessential Jerk? They haven’t had a girlfriend in years, and are incredibly tight with their wallets and their affections. On the other hand, the Jerk might act affectionate, coming on very strong with inappropriate or rude behavior. Nip these in the bud immediately.
Betrayers. Hopefully, you’ll catch on to the Betrayer’s little deceptions before he burns you with big indiscretions, like going out behind your back or even sleeping with another woman while you are dating. The skilled ones might be so covert, though, you may not even know what hit you. Consider the case of Wendy, 32, who found a phone number belonging to another woman in the pocket of her long-term boyfriend’s jean shorts when she offered to do his wash. “He was a disrespectful guy who was starting to live off of me, you know, the slacker type. I just wish I would’ve seen the writing on the wall earlier when things weren’t going well between us.”
Ways to spot the betrayer? Listen hard. Sometimes they’ll even spill the beans and tell you of indiscretions in past relationships while pointing the finger at her, or jokingly chalk it up to their bad behavior. They may not totally honor you in other ways, such as lying about small things, or blowing you off when they’ve got something else going on.
by: Marcia Jedd
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killerabbit
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #1 on: Oct 3rd, 2004, 5:39pm » |
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Gee nanay.I think all men fit into one of those categories.If not women would feel unchallenged and bored.A more interesting question would be...which one would you pick out of all of them and why? 
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #2 on: Oct 6th, 2004, 12:21am » |
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Wow mymy i cant think of anything else to say.. you've covered everything here ...
Sad to say that there are so many girls who notice these things early on but refuse to acknowledge the fact that there is something wrong...
Girls... do not allow yourself to be played like a fool. If you notice any of what mymy said early on in the relationship, do something about it before you get trapped in a relationship that you are not happy with but cant do anythign about it....
the best way to burn the the hell out of a man is to give him a dose of his own medicine ... But be carefull in doing so. Before you attempt to play fire with fire make sure you knwo what you are doing 
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #3 on: Feb 24th, 2005, 1:55pm » |
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IF men loves to lurk or loves gossips...avoid them!
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #4 on: Feb 25th, 2005, 3:40am » |
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make sure about everything b4 u fallin in love cuz when u did, no matter how bad ur man treated u, u wont acknowledged it cuz u were 'blinded' by something called 'love'...
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #5 on: Feb 25th, 2005, 6:26pm » |
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this thread about types of man to avoid?  or types of woman to avoid ?
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #6 on: Feb 25th, 2005, 6:42pm » |
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I dont think nanay has answered my challenged yet.must be busy. 
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Re: Types of men to avoid
« Reply #7 on: Mar 2nd, 2005, 5:17pm » |
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if d men is a big flirt then avoid em!
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Re: Types of men to avoid
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if d men is a big flirt then avoid em!
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Re: Types Of Men To Avoid
« Reply #9 on: Mar 17th, 2005, 8:22am » |
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Men to avoid:
gambler
drunkard
lazy
flirt
killer
drug user
saddist
violent man
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