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He's Just Not That Into You.....
« on: Sep 20th, 2005, 7:13pm » |
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Someone shared with me an e-book yesterday, (and I will be forever thankful to her for this, really.) with the same title and I was like "This is unfair! How come this book hasn't existed before! It could've save me a lot of heartaches and wasted emotions...."
So,.... for guys: Would you be kind and honest enough to share with us, your view on this? How can a woman tell that you're just not into her? DO you tell her straight out? or do you sometimes send mixed signals and tend to leave her out in the cold figuring things out herself?
for girls : How can you tell if a man is "just not that into you"? What are the signs that cries out "I AM JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!"? (I'm sure there are, but women are just too blind sometimes to take notice). DO you acknowledge the fact that a man doesn't really care, doesn't really give a damn, and move on with your life, or do you tend to hold on hoping that he'll eventually come to his senses?
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #1 on: Sep 21st, 2005, 2:12am » |
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Hmmmm...well from a guys perspective I would say if he isnt looking, talking, chatting, walking, kissing, listening, or around you...chances are he is not into you.
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #2 on: Sep 21st, 2005, 2:59pm » |
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Kianna
I could write my own book and tell just how he is not that into me. For starters, I know he's just not that into me when he asks for my girl friends' digits! He'd rather talk about them and appear solicitous about their well-being but he's actually NOT. He's scoping them out for the kill. LOL. Ah well.
Another clue would be this: My phone remains silent. If he's the kind of guy who wants to be with me every minute of the day but can't physically, then he'd text me or call me inventing reasons why he called but we both know that he just wanted to hear my voice.
And the most important clue: He's cold. No matter how you are at your wittiest, prettiest, eager to please self, he's just not interested.
Shrug. At any rate, its useless beating yourself over with a stick and lamenting why he can't like/love you. So, it's time to pack up and move on. Life goes on, eh? All you've lost is just someone who doesn't love you, while HE has lost someone who loved him very much.
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #3 on: Sep 21st, 2005, 6:01pm » |
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on Sep 21st, 2005, 2:12am, thebeast wrote:| Hmmmm...well from a guys perspective I would say if he isnt looking, talking, chatting, walking, kissing, listening, or around you...chances are he is not into you. |
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Hmmm, but do you tell a woman that you're just not into her? 'Cause you see, sometimes a man does look, talk, chat, walk, kiss, listen and is around you, but then a woman soon finds out that amidst all these, he is actually still really not that into her. It's just so vague.
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K....
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #4 on: Sep 21st, 2005, 6:14pm » |
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on Sep 21st, 2005, 2:59pm, Darjeeling wrote:
And the most important clue: He's cold. No matter how you are at your wittiest, prettiest, eager to please self, he's just not interested. |
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This one's so true. Sometimes it's even pathetic because you feel like you're overdoing things already, but then all you get in return is coldness.
on Sep 21st, 2005, 2:59pm, Darjeeling wrote:
Shrug. At any rate, its useless beating yourself over with a stick and lamenting why he can't like/love you. So, it's time to pack up and move on. Life goes on, eh? |
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Right. That's the spirit. 
on Sep 21st, 2005, 2:59pm, Darjeeling wrote:
All you've lost is just someone who doesn't love you, while HE has lost someone who loved him very much.
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Wow, Teamay. This just blow my mind away. A very meaningful phrase. I'll put this in my 'Thoughts To Ponder' list. Thanks. 
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #5 on: Sep 21st, 2005, 6:35pm » |
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The following are excerpts from the e-book, taken from a man's point of view:
'When a guy is into you, he let’s you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can’t keep his eyes or hands off of you'...
'Men are not complicated, although we’d like you to think we are....'
'We would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you simply, “You’re not the one.” We are quite sure you will kill us or yourself or both—or even worse, cry and yell at us. We are pathetic. But the fact remains, even though we may not be saying it we are absolutely showing you all the time. If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him, his actions are screaming the truth: He’s just not that into you'....
'Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved? Yes, but there are so few of them that they should be considered urban legends. For as already suggested, a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he’s just not that into you'....
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #6 on: Sep 21st, 2005, 6:40pm » |
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'Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. If we want you, we will find you'....
'If we’re really excited about someone, we can’t stop ourselves—we want more. If we’re friends with someone and attracted to them, we’re going to want to take it further'....
'If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away'....
'If he likes you, he’ll still remember you after the tsunami, flood, or Red Sox loss. If he doesn’t, he’s not worth your time'....
'Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one'...
"When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you’d like us to be.” I know it’s an infuriating concept—that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It’s insulting. It’s frustrating. It’s unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he’s just not that into you"....
Hmm, any reactions from our guys here? For the women, how do you feel 'bout this? Are these statements true, I wonder,.... there's more but I am just soo sleepy, I can hardly open my eyes. Time for bed....
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #7 on: Sep 22nd, 2005, 3:11am » |
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on Sep 21st, 2005, 6:35pm, Anani Kalea wrote:
The following are excerpts from the e-book, taken from a man's point of view:
'We would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you simply, “You’re not the one.” We are quite sure you will kill us or yourself or both—or even worse, cry and yell at us. We are pathetic. But the fact remains, even though we may not be saying it we are absolutely showing you all the time. If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him, his actions are screaming the truth: He’s just not that into you'....
'Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved? Yes, but there are so few of them that they should be considered urban legends. For as already suggested, a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he’s just not that into you.'
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Kianna, this one hits me dead center, it takes my breath away. While I'm still gasping, I'm also made aware how these words are true. Painful, but true. It's like a douse of cold water that wakes me up to reality.
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #8 on: Sep 22nd, 2005, 6:21pm » |
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on Sep 21st, 2005, 2:59pm, Darjeeling wrote:
I know he's just not that into me when he asks for my girl friends' digits! He'd rather talk about them and appear solicitous about their well-being but he's actually NOT. He's scoping them out for
the kill. LOL. Ah well.
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LMAO.I think I met someone who has this practise.You met too,May ? LMAO.
on Sep 21st, 2005, 2:59pm, Darjeeling wrote:
All you've lost is just someone who doesn't love you, while HE has lost someone who loved him very much.
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Thanks for this statement.So ,he's the loser then.LMAO.Wether he admits it or not.Bweh.Hehehe.
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Re: He's Just Not That Into You.....
« Reply #9 on: Sep 24th, 2005, 7:59am » |
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on Sep 22nd, 2005, 6:21pm, Sweet and Sour wrote:
LMAO.I think I met someone who has this practise.You met too,May ? LMAO.
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LMAO. Oh yeahhhh.
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