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okasantina
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Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« on: Jan 6th, 2006, 7:44pm » |
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A man who cant shell out money shouldnt be goin out on a date in the first place eh.... Eventhough i can pay for my share, i want to see his initiative 
But...relationships should always give and take its unfair for men to always foot the bill eh 
ok vote and posttt awayyyyy!!! 
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thebeast
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #1 on: Jan 6th, 2006, 10:02pm » |
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It doesnt matter to me who pays but I usually like to take care of the first few myself after that if she absolutely insists that she has to pay, I have no problem with it. Hell... I am not going to argue about who gonna pay a silly bill. I do not do what they call dutch either where each pays half or for what they ordered. I dont think its appropriate to do that in an establishment. Just let one person buy and then you pay him or her back later. If you ladies want to pay for your man but you have one of those kind of dates that refuses for you to pay...do what I do when my parents come down to see me...just get up after you eat before the waiter brings the bill and act like you are going to the rest room but then go find the waiter and tell him you want to take care of the bill but not at the table...that way its already taken care of and there isnt a whole lot the person can do. Plus you save a fuss over who is paying for the bill. My parents are bad about paying for everything. It makes me feel like a little kid sometimes. So I have to do that sometimes.
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Wicked_Witch
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #2 on: Jan 7th, 2006, 3:05am » |
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I would always expect a guy to pay on a date. I'm not a material girl but one of the first thing that I look for in a date is his mannners. He doesn't have to wear a necktie if he's uncomfortable with it but sheez...I expect him to act the gentleman. Pull my chair, open doors for me, hold my elbow, those kind of things. 
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Justine
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #3 on: Jan 8th, 2006, 3:59pm » |
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on Jan 7th, 2006, 3:05am, Wicked_Witch wrote:| I would always expect a guy to pay on a date. I'm not a material girl but one of the first thing that I look for in a date is his mannners. He doesn't have to wear a necktie if he's uncomfortable with it but sheez...I expect him to act the gentleman. Pull my chair, open doors for me, hold my elbow, those kind of things. |
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Hehe there are still men like that in here sistah. A man who would ask me for a date should be prepared to spend for that date. If I would make the call and ask a man for a date then that will mean I am prepared to spend too. Thing is, when you ask for a date, you are expressing interest for that person and in doing so, you would want to impress and let that person know you are capable of taking care of everything.
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Wicked_Witch
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #4 on: Jan 9th, 2006, 3:05am » |
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on Jan 8th, 2006, 3:59pm, Justine wrote:
Hehe there are still men like that in here sistah. A man who would ask me for a date should be prepared to spend for that date. If I would make the call and ask a man for a date then that will mean I am prepared to spend too. Thing is, when you ask for a date, you are expressing interest for that person and in doing so, you would want to impress and let that person know you are capable of taking care of everything. |
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Be that as it may, sistah....if it's me I would still expect him to at least offer to pay. Afterall, it's a date so when he says yes to my invitation, he should at least be ready to pay. It's a date afterall. I will always feel bad if I have to pay for anything on a date  Unless it's a male friend that I bothered so I can have a shoulder to cry on?
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astrobloke
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #5 on: Jan 9th, 2006, 5:57am » |
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Wow this is a political minefield for guys.
In my country, many ladies will refuse to allow the guy to pay for everything in thinking that they dont want to feel indebted in any way to the guy. Some are even affronted by the suggestion. Damn womens libbers 
On the other hand, some have a more conservative viewpoint and are happy to accept chivalry.
From my perspective, once it gets to the 3rd,4th date, I would expect the lady to offer to share costs , or treat me even, if she had a job and the means to do so. If the lady has an income similar to mine, is it fair for me to pay everything always ?
Maybe Im going to alienate some ladies here in speaking from my own cultural viewpoint, but I tell things as I see them and wont BS to impress anybody
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Justine
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #6 on: Jan 10th, 2006, 5:42am » |
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on Jan 9th, 2006, 5:57am, astrobloke wrote:
If the lady has an income similar to mine, is it fair for me to pay everything always ?
Maybe Im going to alienate some ladies here in speaking from my own cultural viewpoint, but I tell things as I see them and wont BS to impress anybody |
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If you're trying to win the lady's heart, it shouldn't matter.
We all get to learn things from interactions like this, Astro so it is always best to say what you really think minus that BS
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okasantina
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #7 on: Jan 10th, 2006, 6:13am » |
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I do still believe in old fashion-courtship rituals, especially on first dates...BUT i have this generosity thang attitude in me..wherein i need to cash out in dates especially when he becomes my bf you know...to see that were not just after their money
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nOrKAy
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #8 on: Jan 10th, 2006, 7:01am » |
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Ofcourse, I want, but it doesn't mean he has to pay all the time we date or give him as a responsibility to handle all the expenses. I would appreciate if I know the man has money and willingly take incharge of the expenses. Unfortunately, not all men are capable and if a woman think a man should ALWAYS be responsible for the date expenses then it would be too heavy for the man to take, and that, you wouldn't be dated often which possibly cause disappoinments or negative thoughts , like, "he's not that into me or not really interested".
As a woman, I don't really mind much who is going to pay the expenses. Well, on the first date, I think a man should take it as a prerogative for him to handle the first date's expenses. But on next dates, I won't allow him to always take all the expenses, I think I should share,too-- especially if I like him, enjoy his company-- that even makes me think he deserves an invitation from me sometimes.
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Wicked_Witch
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Re: Do you still want guys to pay for u on a date?
« Reply #9 on: Jan 10th, 2006, 7:01am » |
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I guess if you both have been in the relationship for a long time and are both comfortable with each other already then i guess acting like husband and wife will not matter anymore. You know...like the wife picking the tabs? But on a date with someone you are not related with? That's a no-no-no-no for me!
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