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nOrKAy
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OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« on: Nov 30th, 2004, 8:31am » |
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Well let me share first how i understand about open relationship. I think when you say open, everything yours is mine, mine is yours.Both has the freedom that you're able to do what you wanna do and no control made by both sides.It's like "do whatever you want to do as long you dont forget your obligations or part to me".
Do you like this kind of relationship?
Do you think this is a good idea when having a relationship?
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nOrKAy
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #1 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 8:39am » |
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I'll put it like this...a relationship is between two people who want to be together. If you have an open relationship, whats the bloody point in actually "being together" with a boyfriend or girlfriend? Why date at all? Why not just sleep around, not be tied down, and do what you want? Because to me, thats the idea of an open relationship. COMMITMENT is the key word here when you want to be in a relationship. If there is no commitment at all,then theres no point in an open relationship. If you like the guy/woman, great, stay with him/her. If you want an open relationship, you're asking for him/her to go out or you want to go out, sleep or be with another girl/man you may or may not know, then come back to you like nothing happened, or you may do the same to him/her. I think that's no longer a relationship, it's just messing around! Because when we say relationship, this includes commitment. 
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Need4Speed8DaleJr
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #2 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 9:08am » |
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Ya....I was in an "Open" Relationship once....only I didn't know about it. Lmao.
She fooled around with sooooo many guys, and of course I didn't know about it until after I got rid of her, sometimes Love blinds you so much you can't see straight. 
I think the only way I would be involved in an Open relationship, would be if I trusted the other person, and everything was talked about and agreed upon before the relationship started.
A friend of mine was involved in just such an open relationship. He started to date an airline stewardess who only stayed in town maybe once or twice every couple of weeks. They got together whenever she was in town, and they agreed that what happened when they were apart was none of the other person's business. They seemed happy until she lost her job, then she wasn't able to come see him...so they broke up. What a shame. She was a real cool chick.
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nOrKAy
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #3 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 10:52am » |
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on Nov 30th, 2004, 9:08am, need4speed8dalejr wrote:
I think the only way I would be involved in an Open relationship, would be if I trusted the other person, and everything was talked about and agreed upon before the relationship started.
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Yes Dale but huh, don't you think it still sucks and very uncomfortable thinking that she still can do what she wanna do since you both agreed to make the relationship "open"? 
In this kind of relationship, it would come out to be like this....truths are free,lies are expensive.....lmao!
So for me, i'll make it this way.If you love me,be sincere,be honest and stay with me.If you want to be with another girl,leave and dont expect me to feel fine and go on with the relationship with you,because if you really honest with the relationship,why did you go see another girl which you know this would put the relationship into a risk situation?Hmmm 
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #4 on: Nov 30th, 2004, 6:36pm » |
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on Nov 30th, 2004, 8:31am, norkay wrote:Do you like this kind of relationship?
Do you think this is a good idea when having a relationship?
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For those who are afraid of commitment, open relationship is the best solution. Some people just love their freedom to much that they can't compromise. If you are not committed with a guy meaning if you date or flirted with other guys that doesn't mean that your cheating. See! that is one of the best thing of not being committed.
Why do we need to be committed in a relationship if we're not even sure that we can be faithful. For me, there is a two types of relationship: relationship with future(potential permanent partner) and the one with no future at all (fun to be with, but not to marry).
If I'm not inlove with the guy, yes I will have this kind of relationship, an OPEN one.
I like the idea of open relationship meaning no exclusivity but nobody even wants to have a open or close relationship with me...yay!
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nOrKAy
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #5 on: Dec 2nd, 2004, 5:21am » |
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on Nov 30th, 2004, 6:36pm, mylane wrote:
For those who are afraid of commitment, open relationship is the best solution. Some people just love their freedom to much that they can't compromise. If you are not committed with a guy meaning if you date or flirted with other guys that doesn't mean that your cheating. See! that is one of the best thing of not being committed.
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But i never believe this kind of relationahip will work,you allowed your self to be in a relationship because you love him or her,why then that you want to put the relationship into a risky situation?I wonder if you won't jealous if you see him with another girl.  For me,if we want to get into relationship,that means love from each other is there,the effort from each other to work it out should always be there and one of the most important thing to consider in order to make it work is honesty.It is simple,if one of you wants to leave,for some reason,then be honest.I am sure it hurts for the one who will be left but at least after the break up,you can accept and both say,"Anyway,we have done everything to save the relationship but still it didn't work so we really dont mean for each other".
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For me,i advice not to allow a relationship with a guy whom you are in love with.Why dont you just enjoy his/her company and go out for a date sometimes,i am sure you both can.
Quote:| I like the idea of open relationship meaning no exclusivity but nobody even wants to have a open or close relationship with me...yay! |
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Maybe because they dont want an open one with you.He wants you to have him ALONE.
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Lynlyn
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #6 on: Dec 2nd, 2004, 8:18am » |
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not for me... if we go into a relationship it has to be you and me only... if you can't do that...better we part before hurting each other...I'm a faithful woman...so when I go into a relationship then you will be my world, my life and my all...so don't dare look or be with another if you don't want to lose me, for once I'm hurt you will never have me again 
open relationship for me is when both of you didn't mention love and didn't have sex...in short just MU... no commitment...unexpressed feelings... he can't claim her as his nor you can't claim him as hers...whew, that's really hard..i've been there but in the end i made him expressed his feelings ... action is better than words...but sometimes words mean a lot to me..hehehe...but still in the end, it didn't work ...but at least our open relationship became a "close one"
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #7 on: Dec 2nd, 2004, 8:52am » |
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on Dec 2nd, 2004, 5:21am, norkay wrote:
But i never believe this kind of relationahip will work,you allowed your self to be in a relationship because you love him or her |
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You don't but some do believe in this kind of setup. Love is not always the reason to be in a relationship, theres is other things than love though mostly love is the greatest reason. Sometimes spending time with each other, being funny and silly doesn't mean love. Remember, being comfortable with someone does not mean you two are also compatible.
Quote:| effort from each other to work it out should always be there and one of the most important thing to consider in order to make it work is honesty. |
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Most of the time no matter what you do, things will not work as you want it to be. Thats why there is a song " I did my best but I guess my best wasn't good enough". Relationship is a big gamble either you win or the other way around .
Quote:For me,i advice not to allow a relationship with a guy whom you are in love with.Why dont you just enjoy his/her company and go out for a date sometimes,i am sure you both can.
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But then again it will lead to a relationship. Much better to be in a relationship to know your partner better. If things didn't work out then no problem. Don't play if you don't know the rules. Like I said two types of relationship one with future and no future. Have fun with the wrong ones while your waiting for the right ones. Life is too short.
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nOrKAy
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #8 on: Dec 2nd, 2004, 10:10am » |
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on Dec 2nd, 2004, 8:52am, mylane wrote:
Most of the time no matter what you do, things will not work as you want it to be. Thats why there is a song " I did my best but I guess my best wasn't good enough". Relationship is a big gamble either you win or the other way around .
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No further comment but since you put relationship like a gamble let me tell how i think about gambling which has some similar things that are to be applied in a relationship.
Thats why we need to give efforts on the relationship in order to see and no blames after it didn't work.It's a big gamble,you said, but in gambling needs a lot of concentrations too or you will lose,or no matter how much concentrations you give,if your cards are not good,you can't do anything but then you still have to fight,who knows theirs are even worse than your cards.If in the end you still lose,atleast you have played your best and no one can't blame you,because you did your best.If you didnt do your best,well,naturally you will say because I wasnt concentrating or whatever reasons after.
Well,i'll have to accept i am totally against about open relationship because I'm a very jealous type of person.
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Lynlyn
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Re: OPEN RELATIONSHIP
« Reply #9 on: Dec 2nd, 2004, 12:47pm » |
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a relationship minus love is an open relationship... how can you let someone you love be with another or let the one you love see you with another? once i commit it's forever...if something happens on the way, so be it..as long as while it's still "us" it has to be you and me only... we go into a relationship because we want to be with each other forever and not to test each other and just be there when you need or want each other when no other another is around...so NO NO to open relationship
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