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Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« on: May 17th, 2004, 12:29pm » |
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well, have you? 
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #1 on: May 20th, 2004, 3:25am » |
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a faithful wife wont do that .....NONE here!
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #2 on: May 20th, 2004, 9:42am » |
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an old farting virgin grandma wont do that too....
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #3 on: May 24th, 2004, 12:47am » |
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Heck yah I've done that!! Chickens!! I know that alot of you have done that too!! 
And I don't regret it a bit, then or now. I learned alot from my first relationship. LOL, and how I wasn't the only person in her life, or bed. Now if I know the relationship is just a here-and-now type of thing, hey why not. If she knows up front that I am not serious about her, why not.
You only live once, and I don't ever want to regret not doing something. Live life like every day was your last, and let the chips fall where they may, and all that other proverb BS.
I mean come on people. A guy is a Fisherman . He puts out his worm for any and all fish to nibble on. He sets the hook, and sometimes they put up a good fight, but he reels 'em in, puts them in his net, unhooks 'em, gives them a good look over, then lets 'em go. Simple. And when he catches the one he wants to keep, he brings it home for his Mom to admire. She takes a few pictures and cooks up his prize Tuna for him to enjoy.
Now the fisherman knows his fishing days are over, and that he should savor this Tuna, because it has to last him the rest of his life. Ohh Dear, now I am going straight to Hell, do not pass Go, do not collect $200 dollars. 
As for the women, please don't give me the ol' song-and-dance!! I know you gals do this too. You just don't talk about it. What about that guy you met at the club one night, what about that guy at work, or the dude you met while on vacation.(Ok, different area code, so that doesn't count) Girls do these things, but they don't EVER, EVER talk about this. Only a select few friends know the details, and know if they talked, you will talk about her flings. What a double-edged sword.
No live fish were harmed in the making of this post. All puns were intentional, and any reference to Actual fisherman and their Mothers was simply coincidental. 
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #4 on: May 24th, 2004, 2:22am » |
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on May 24th, 2004, 12:47am, need4speed8dalejr wrote:Heck yah I've done that!! Chickens!! I know that alot of you have done that too!!
And I don't regret it a bit, then or now. I learned alot from my first relationship. LOL, and how I wasn't the only person in her life, or bed. Now if I know the relationship is just a here-and-now type of thing, hey why not. If she knows up front that I am not serious about her, why not.
You only live once, and I don't ever want to regret not doing something. Live life like every day was your last, and let the chips fall where they may, and all that other proverb BS.
I mean come on people. A guy is a Fisherman . He puts out his worm for any and all fish to nibble on. He sets the hook, and sometimes they put up a good fight, but he reels 'em in, puts them in his net, unhooks 'em, gives them a good look over, then lets 'em go. Simple. And when he catches the one he wants to keep, he brings it home for his Mom to admire. She takes a few pictures and cooks up his prize Tuna for him to enjoy.
Now the fisherman knows his fishing days are over, and that he should savor this Tuna, because it has to last him the rest of his life. Ohh Dear, now I am going straight to Hell, do not pass Go, do not collect $200 dollars.
As for the women, please don't give me the ol' song-and-dance!! I know you gals do this too. You just don't talk about it. What about that guy you met at the club one night, what about that guy at work, or the dude you met while on vacation.(Ok, different area code, so that doesn't count) Girls do these things, but they don't EVER, EVER talk about this. Only a select few friends know the details, and know if they talked, you will talk about her flings. What a double-edged sword.
No live fish were harmed in the making of this post. All puns were intentional, and any reference to Actual fisherman and their Mothers was simply coincidental.
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 Whoze chicken ? infidelity and fraud.....I NEVER EVER HAD ANY SEX OUTSIDE A RELATIONSHIP!!! And what is this fisherman and tuna thing?? ewwwww im allergic to fish!!!  wwwwwwwaaaaaaa...i didnt get it Dale  This makes me sad....not all ppl can do shit! Men can easily talk about it cuz theyre man and w regards to us...i have nothing to tell am not being hypocrite im just tellin the truth. Maybe what u had b4 is like a monogamous relationship and not a serious one...or maybe your just allowing your partner to occazionally have sex w someone else cuz u do it too right? "If sex is seen as largely a form of fun, then sport-f**king will have less impact on their feelings for each other than if one or both partners always connect sex with love."
For me sex is not like that just to f**kkk?? nahhh...for me sex is makin love i cant do sex to someone whom i dont feel or know him i cant! i just really cant. My parents dont breed me that way....i remember one guy asked me why im not into one night stand.....and i was shocked! jesus! i cant do it w a guy just to satisfy myself! I just cant do it! Culture is different!
Maybe your not that satisfied w the relationship your having or maybe your just avoiding the difficult work of initimacy by gettin some of their needz met elsewhere... Im talkin about reality here....feelings are not toys! sex is sex and its not love. Love is sex but sex is love? never!
If outside sex is an indication that one party or the other is withdrawing emotionally, the relationship is in trouble...so why go sex outside relationship? better to cut it or end it....Bounderies are important i know but compromising works well i think.
It’s likely to be a much bigger deal. Honesty really is the best policy. Some couples find it useful to make a distinction between emotional faithfulness and sexual monogamy. its like for example....
“I don’t care who Dale has sex with,”.... “as long as I’m the only one he’s in love with.” ( That cannot happen by me nor ever spoken by me in real!)
The rub is that it can be tough to build a wall between sharing erotic desire and experiencing romantic feelings. Jealousy happens. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Relationships with no potential for a little jealousy are often boring or shallow.
And i believe few men are goin to be satisfied if they feels that he is a part of their stud stable. Whether a relationship is open or monogamous, it is crucial for each partner to feel that his lover puts him first and above all others.
My sense of what my relationship is about, the compatibility of my shared desires, the level of intimacy with which I am comfortable and my personal sexual ethics. Whatever choices I make, I keep first things first. My relationship with my partner is what is most important. And i Keep that in mind when I consider your options. 
uhhhhhhh im in a heart attack!
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #5 on: May 25th, 2004, 1:22am » |
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Ok, let's get a couple of things straight right now. I know that all women and men don't act like this, and I wasn't referring to anyone in particular, it was more a comment on women and men as a whole, rather that just one person.
Having said that, Tina, I believe that your not like that, and think maybe you should calm down a bit. LOL.
However, Tina, I am sure that you do know women who are like that, and they have done some of the things I described. Maybe these women choose not to talk about it, but who's to say it didn't happen? Many people hold secrets about events in their lives, often never telling anyone. I also think this isn't a question of morals, it's a question of desires.
Tina, I am sure, as a women, that you have had desires to be with someone else while you were involved with your husband/BF, even if that was only for one night. These desires reside in all of us, men and women. I am guilty as charged of these same desires and wants. You choose not to act on those desires, many others of both sexes, have choosen to proceed with them to the next level.
In my previous post, I was simply telling you the truth, that I have indeed acted on those desires, and that there was no difference in my desires and actions as a man, to those desires and actions of some women. 
Throughout the World, women are not treated with respect, and in some places women are not seen as equal to men. I disagree with that view, and the point I was trying to make with my post was simply that women are no different from a man in aspects of human behavior.
Maybe I put too much emphasis on the desires and actions of the women I am exposed to on a daily basis, but I believe that desires are pretty much the same the World over. As for the women I described that do fool around, they do exist and there are more out there than one might think.
The one thing that I didn't state in my previous post was that when I was in a serious relationship, I too held my desires in check and did not act on them, even if given a net and the fish were swimming freely around me and almost jumping into my boat. If I ever did want to act on them, that was a sign to end the relationship and not to play games behind their backs. I don't do that.
Anyways, it's the choices that we choose to make that also define who we are as a person. I may elect on occasions to give in to these desires if I am not in a serious relationship, other people may choose to do things differently.  
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #6 on: May 25th, 2004, 2:32am » |
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Hahahah dale....im all calm down LOL! i do believe in what you said...i am not referring to any women or men particulary to you...well im just ztating some factz. I do know zome women do go that kind of thing and i know there are zome reazonz why they gone through that....one is maybe they are not sexually satizfied w their partners....ehh Sexual inactivity may indeed be a good warning sign that something else is wrong.
Men seek casual sex and have more outside partners; women seek emotional attachment and have fewer outside partners....men claim many more sexual partners than women. 
Dale does this mean a small number of highly sexy women have sex with a lot of men, or does it just mean that men are lying? (Or does it mean that I have never been to the right clubs and bars?)
Why do men use the term "having sex" while women often say "making love"? Does this just mean that men and women attach different importance to intercourse?  And even if some women like sex for its own sake outside a long term relationship, do women generally prefer sex to be with someone they love, whereas will men generally take it wherever they can get it?
Well me do understand changes in sex drive, which is called libido in medical terminology hehehe ... one must understand that every person, and every couple, has a different level of desire. Desire meaning fantazy? I can fantazize Ben Affleck... while ure desiring J LO eh
How can i desire someone if im alwayz zatisfied w my partner?? as in ALWAYS SATISFIED.....
Sexual relations should be a time to share, care and enjoy each other, at a time and place agreeable to both partners. Partners must talk with each other, and plan to enjoy the time together. Then, sexual desire should not be a problem for the couple. A long and happy relationship takes commitment from both partners to keep it exciting and interesting. Once person cannot do it all. I believe SEX ...MAKING LOVE whatever..is the most wonderful gift that GOD ever given to us 
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #7 on: Jun 7th, 2004, 1:09pm » |
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on May 24th, 2004, 12:47am, need4speed8dalejr wrote:
You only live once, and I don't ever want to regret not doing something. Live life like every day was your last, and let the chips fall where they may, and all that other proverb BS.
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I agree we only live once but all I can say is WRONG is wrong even everyone is for it and RIGHT is right even everyone is against it.
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #8 on: Jun 8th, 2004, 2:09pm » |
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on Jun 7th, 2004, 1:09pm, mylane wrote:
I agree we only live once but all I can say is WRONG is wrong even everyone is for it and RIGHT is right even everyone is against it.
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So MyMy,
Say what?? Didn't understand your last message at all. LOL So just what where you sayin' there anyways? 
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Re: Have you had sex outside of a relationship?
« Reply #9 on: Jun 10th, 2004, 2:21pm » |
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Sad to say...lol...but i never had sex outside my relationship.
I respect my gurl alot. But I have to admit that i do fantasize other women.
Tina is correct, if you are happy in a relationship with your partner ofcourse, there is no way you can think of having sex with other person than your significant one.
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