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(Message started by: kim on May 3^rd, 2005, 10:42am)

Title: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 3^rd, 2005, 10:42am

I have long been hearing different rumors and gossips about several ppl in AC1. Some are good n some are bad. But some are just too disturbing... I think we need to find a way to deal with this or atleast help those who are caught in it. I know of some ppl who had chosen to stay out of AC1 coz of these. If AC1 means anything to us we should do something about it.

What do you think is th best way to deal with gossips n rumors spreading in the grape vine?

I say if you hear a rumor about someone n not sure if its true.. ask the person involved directly. If someone sent you a pm n say that its a copied n pasted convo of someone it may not even be true. Its easy to create your own n say that it was some one elses convo...

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by beth on May 3^rd, 2005, 2:04pm

well l agree witcha kim, lotsa ppl dun wanna come to room cuz of being gossiped, even myself sumtimes.
but then l guess it how it goes, ppl like gossiping grrrr...

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by gracia on May 4^th, 2005, 4:52am

leave it as it is KIm....it will die down in time....but then if you have to defend yourself and explain then do it...gossips were either fabricated or just ur luck that the person u think u can be trusted turns out to be not. [smiley=gossip.gif] If u done nothing wrong, nothing to defend at all....well they say, if people gossips at you, meaning u are important and popular...better enjoy the spotlight [smiley=icon_super.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 4^th, 2005, 9:44am

thats a nice way of looking at it grace ;D actually i only heard one gossip about me n i find it very funny too :P... i just feel sorry for those who really gets too affected with all this gossips. :(

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Need4Speed8DaleJr on May 5^th, 2005, 6:58am

Hmmm...To be honest I just can't STAND Gossip. It's mostly totally crap that some other jealous people create to make themselves either feel better or seem more important.

The REAL problem I think is when some of the Regs in AC1 in real life have no friends, no great job, no great BF-GF WIFE-HUSBAND, no dream house, no money....Just a great big pile of NOTHING. They just sit there for hours in front of their comp trying to get some Glimmer of acknowledgement from someone who may or may not know they even exist. All they have in the World is their online ID and nothing else. They will scheme, lie, and generally try to do or say whatever they feel like to make believe that AC1 is their own personal playground. Mostly those people will use the Mic as a tool of importance. They can't type or spell worth a lick, but hey guess what...They can use their tongue to try to create Gossip or try to Belittle other people who come into AC1 on a regular basis. It's rather Sad that their lives have been reduced to such a minimal slice of the World. but I digress.

*Disclaimer* I don't consider anyone who posts here, to be put into that group of people. LOL...It's only a select few who somehow feel threatened by someone who can spell or maybe seems to get some attention from a few of the Gals in the room. They can get very defensive of their turf.

I know that some of you right about now are thinking to yourself..."Gee...Dale seems to be rather harsh" LOL Well...maybe cynical...is a better word. But my Grey Matter is well versed to the subtle verbal or writen indications when someone is putting me down...or trying unsucessfully.

I do find that my best defense is a good offense. If I think that someone I am chatting with is creating Gossip about me or is spreading things I have told them in confidence to others. I simply create a False bit of Gossip about me and I only tell it to that person. If I hear it from someone else, then I know for certain where the leak is. I then fix that leak with a little click and delete them from my Virtual World.

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 6^th, 2005, 8:01am

how nice of you to say that dale.... I couldn't have said it batter myself... i can think if ONE person that fits all the above. But then i dont hate her/him (playing safe.. hehehe). I feel sorry that they have no real life and that they find comfort in making others look bad.

i still say, ask the person involved directly about the rumors you hear ;) then decide for yourself who you want to believe or if you even want to be involved in the issue... Heck they say me n nitro are lovers n that i go to subic just to get fawked by him ;D... Ask me if its true n i'll tell you the truth about this rumor... bwahahahaha!!! ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by beth on May 6^th, 2005, 4:41pm

ahahahaha kimmy babe, sumtimes l just laff at ppl that like gossips so much, its like they dun have "life" to takin care of...

for me if there's a gossips, and its good, when l find out, l'll wish d best for em, but if it was bad, then forget it, dont make it worst by mentioning it n spread it.

as a matter of fact, if the gossip wasnt right.... it will go away fast ;)
the best way is ask the person involved, not hearing it from others ;)

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Need4Speed8DaleJr on May 8^th, 2005, 10:27am

on 05/06/05 at 08:01:19, kim wrote:

how nice of you to say that dale.... I couldn't have said it batter myself.

Yah, Sorry about that. I guess I was a little pissed when I wrote that post. LOL. You know what, that person is in the room on the Mic 24 hours a Day. Anyways....To each there own ehh!

Quote:

Heck they say me n nitro are lovers n that i go to subic just to get fawked by him ;D... Ask me if its true n i'll tell you the truth about this rumor... bwahahahaha!!! ;D

OHHHHH....And here I thought I was the ONLY ONE! Lmao...Ohh...Kimmy...How could you? You told me you were only going fishing...And now I know just what that meant. lmao... ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by mylane on May 8^th, 2005, 11:36am

kimmy we all know that u dont need to go to Subic just to get or have a guy..... ;)

lol...I havent heard any rumors from ac1 really ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Norkay on May 9^th, 2005, 11:28am

I hate rumors too, but I don't really give time finding out who or where the rumors came from.But if I see the person who I heard said the story,I will take the chance to confront her.

However,I'm not used of confronting if the rumors are true and there's nothing bad to confront if it's not.It also depends on how bad the rumors are.

But hey.....I dont mind as long as the romur invloves me and Dale. I will enjoy it [smiley=icon_dance.gif]

[smiley=huepfenicon111.gif] [smiley=silly.gif] [smiley=crazysmile.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by beth on May 9^th, 2005, 10:50pm

ahehehehe ;D new rumor now ;D krissy n dale sittin under d tree.... 8) who wanna spread it? lol lol lol hahahahaha [smiley=roll.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 10^th, 2005, 5:11am

Dale i said u was going fishing... fidhing for nitrofishes ;D ;D ;D

Nahhhh... to set the records straight i've never been with nitro n we were never a couple ;) But he is a dear friend of mine ;)....

kriss... i heard a rumor about you n Dale :o... I heard that dale is preggy n you are the mommy of Dales child :o ;D... jk :-*

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Need4Speed8DaleJr on May 11^th, 2005, 8:46am

on 05/10/05 at 05:11:26, kim wrote:

kriss... i heard a rumor about you n Dale :o... I heard that dale is preggy n you are the mommy of Dales child :o ;D... jk :-*

Well...You know I was planning on going and getting that Lipo-Suctioned Off...Ohh my poor Love Handles. They Need to Go! ::)

Kriss....It's All Good Baby! :-*

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by mylane on May 11^th, 2005, 9:14am

how come there no rumors about me and dale? lol lol joke

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Need4Speed8DaleJr on May 11^th, 2005, 7:20pm

Ohhh....That's Because We never See Each Other Any More. What With Our Busy Lifes...We Just Don't Make Time Anymore For Those Hot Cyber Sessions. LMAO ;D ::) ;D

Ohh.....And The Baby Might Be Yours. [smiley=baby.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 12^th, 2005, 5:17am

mymy i heard a rumor about you :o

I heard that you were dating Foo :o... n i thought i was the only one :'(

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 12^th, 2005, 5:18am

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
[smiley=huepfenicon111.gif] [smiley=huepfenicon111.gif] [smiley=huepfenicon111.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Norkay on May 12^th, 2005, 6:15am

FOO :o :o :o..........I'm sorry then for my misconception of FOO,I really thought he was scary. :P

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by mylane on May 12^th, 2005, 8:20am

on 05/12/05 at 05:17:30, kim wrote:

mymy i heard a rumor about you :o

I heard that you were dating Foo :o... n i thought i was the only one :'(

ahihihihi...somehow that kind of humor is cool since foo is cute and about my age...lol lol.... ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on May 12^th, 2005, 9:16am

ya mymy he is one hot asshole ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jul 7^th, 2005, 6:29am

Grapevine....humnn...if its true i dont make comments..if its not true i just laugh my ass off! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by phyllisx06x on Aug 12^th, 2005, 2:37am

Wow!! Kim, since when did you become such a witty advisor??? lol....thumbs up kimsky! reason i dis appeared that room because it was becoming upleasantly disgusting full of gossiper and low life scum bags... chatting suppose to be fun and eases each others homesicks or being to each others in times of downfall of day to day lives, but instead it wasnt what i expect it to be..But to those who i met the day i existed to AC1 I STILL KEPT THEM RECORD IN MY HEART AND MIND!...Gossip is daily habbits of each and everyone of us, no one tells here they dont, cos thats absolutely rubbish. To goss is ok, as long as you dont cross the boarder line and ruined someones minds and names , cus thats different story. As what i can say; Let them bad mouthed keep talking until they finally smell that their breath stinks!

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 12^th, 2005, 9:02am

Rumos.... ahhhhhh.... isn't it a refreshing thought for me to know that its not just the other room that has rumors spreading around.

Well, I was a victim of rumors in that other room thats why I don't frequent it much anymore and now I'm here but not so very often at AC1 coz well I thought no sour graping people come here or not 24/7 like in the other room lol.

Just deal with it... If you are the one being talked about confront in PM those who are spreading rumors about you and settle the score...that is if the person is not so chicken to talk to you.

But yes its true it will die down anyhow coz people tend to find something new to talk about if it involves you you better clear it out to those involved.

I can't really understand how one live a lie or spend 24/7 infront of the PC and all they wanna do is hmmmm spread gossip... jealousy? what for? there's this PC screen in between... no matter what that other person in the other line say it can't hurt you nor affect your life in any possible way... think!!!

Get a life and live.

Chat suppose to be fun :) I think. Its something to do while waiting for something.

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by sweetmelissa1979 on Aug 15^th, 2005, 2:57am

That is one reason I think a lot of people leave advice central 1 on yahoo because of the bad talking. I know for me the bad talking got to the point where I felt it was crazy for me to become upset by people who were online. Its funny even if it is just a computer some people still have a way of getting under your skin.

Mel ???

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by CooCHie on Nov 27^th, 2005, 6:53pm

on 05/05/05 at 06:58:32, Need4Speed8DaleJr wrote:

Hmmm...To be honest I just can't STAND Gossip. It's mostly totally crap that some other jealous people create to make themselves either feel better or seem more important.

You got that right Dale.

on 05/05/05 at 06:58:32, Need4Speed8DaleJr wrote:

The REAL problem I think is when some of the Regs in AC1 in real life have no friends, no great job, no great BF-GF WIFE-HUSBAND, no dream house, no money....Just a great big pile of NOTHING. They just sit there for hours in front of their comp trying to get some Glimmer of acknowledgement from someone who may or may not know they even exist. All they have in the World is their online ID and nothing else. They will scheme, lie, and generally try to do or say whatever they feel like to make believe that AC1 is their own personal playground. Mostly those people will use the Mic as a tool of importance. They can't type or spell worth a lick, but hey guess what...They can use their tongue to try to create Gossip or try to Belittle other people who come into AC1 on a regular basis. It's rather Sad that their lives have been reduced to such a minimal slice of the World. but I digress.

*Disclaimer* I don't consider anyone who posts here, to be put into that group of people. LOL...It's only a select few who somehow feel threatened by someone who can spell or maybe seems to get some attention from a few of the Gals in the room. They can get very defensive of their turf.

I know that some of you right about now are thinking to yourself..."Gee...Dale seems to be rather harsh" LOL Well...maybe cynical...is a better word. But my Grey Matter is well versed to the subtle verbal or writen indications when someone is putting me down...or trying unsucessfully.

I do find that my best defense is a good offense. If I think that someone I am chatting with is creating Gossip about me or is spreading things I have told them in confidence to others. I simply create a False bit of Gossip about me and I only tell it to that person. If I hear it from someone else, then I know for certain where the leak is. I then fix that leak with a little click and delete them from my Virtual World.

Great point Dale... [smiley=icon_super.gif] [smiley=icon_super.gif] [smiley=icon_super.gif] [smiley=icon_super.gif] [smiley=icon_super.gif] [smiley=icon_drink.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by nelson3082000 on Nov 28^th, 2005, 8:41am

but ya all lost the point, everyone does it in every day life its a human trait adn by the way its called chat is that the name that we all forgot.whether ya chat about simple things or about one another all people are all different and its funny we can all sit here and dont like it me epsecially but no matter what we do its goin to happen am i not correct ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 29^th, 2005, 1:34am

on 11/28/05 at 08:41:35, nelson3082000 wrote:

How very true, Nelson...but the question is how do you DEAL with it? Do you sulk the whole day? Do you cuss and rant at the people who gossip about you? Do you threaten to murder them or kill yourself just to get even? [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by kim on Jan 9^th, 2006, 9:47am

hey i heard a new rumor.... Kimmy gave birth to tim's baby last decemder :o ;D ;D LOOOKYYYYYYYYYYY i need child support here!!!! ;D ;D ;D

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by nelson3082000 on Jan 9^th, 2006, 12:18pm

dealwith it is easy dont listen to it and ignore that then that person will go away if there is no one debating the gossip.

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 10^th, 2006, 1:35am

Now that sounds like a good plan, Nelson. It only gets worse when people starts talking about it.

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Justine on Jan 10^th, 2006, 5:02am

Laugh about it hehe we all know who we really are

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by feso on Jan 14^th, 2006, 8:57pm

grape vines eh?.............what is this?.....hollywood?....were all stars and we have poporazzis.......all over?......man.........like justy said........just laugh at em........ive never been part of gossip but its funny to notice how sum people are like dogs when u call em...there ears go up and they stop what there doin just to see whats up...........people hear gossip and its like........whoaaa....who did what to who??.....and how what???........well all i know is im the guy in the back not listening eating a sammich...............*munch munch*............what ever!!!.....OH DID U HEAR THAT ANGELINA JOLIE IS HAVING BRAD PITTS BABY???...MCH AWWWWWW

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 16^th, 2006, 5:08am

Quote:

OH DID U HEAR THAT ANGELINA JOLIE IS HAVING BRAD PITTS BABYHuh...MCH AWWWWWW

So it's true after all the denials they made, eh?

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by cazna_c on Jan 16^th, 2006, 11:43am

Ignore it.. Vindictive people are everywhere. I'm sure the people that cannot live without creating drama in peoples lives are lacking something in their makeup. Karma is an amazing thing. You get back what you give out.

Title: Re: grape vine.. how to deal with it
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 19^th, 2006, 5:21am

I completely agree and believe in that, Caz...the only trouble is...when are they going to get their bad karma, in this life or the next life? Do we have the patience to wait? Or we take the law in our hands now? [smiley=whip.gif] [smiley=whip.gif] [smiley=whip.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]