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(Message started by: Wicked_Witch on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:05am)
Title: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:05am
People has various reasons for wanting to go online chatting. For some it's the way to get connected to people they are fond of whom they have met online over the years. For some hardworking people, it's a form of relaxation after a hard day's work, especially for those who enjoys being alone, or for some reason, by choice or not, are living alone. For some again, it is a very interesting and easy way to meet and communicate with people from all over the world and to find out about their cultures and ideas. These are only some of the reasons...what's yours? Care to share them??
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by CooCHie on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:15am

on 01/11/06 at 03:56:12, Wicked_Witch wrote:
In a recently published article about online relationship, it has been qouted as saying that non-chatters think of online relationships as something "pathetic". That people behind this relationships have nothing else going on in their lives and are afraid to face the "outside" world. How much truth is in that?

Personally, I think that most of the people that come onlines are those that have MORE time in their hands to mingle socially with friends online. They have a good job and are just too tired to go out anymore. Some too prefer the solitary confinement of their homes rather than mingle with friends and chat and/or drink after a day's work. And if in one of these times they are online they come to meet someone they find interesting, I think that is as normal as finding/meeting someone inside a bar or bumped into in some public places like the mall or comfort rooms. And too, most often than not, people that are not into things that others are, like smoking, drinking, dressing up outrageously etc..etc..think that these things are "bad". I say each to his own..


i could agree more Witchy.  In addition to that, some are so busy with work that they are always in the computer.  With cyber technology it is the number one thing now to communicate with other people besides text messaging.  And during their down time or break, they go online not because  they are bored but just looking for fun and excitement that goes on chat and also its not because they  dont have better things to do .And more over some are just burnt of the bar scene.  They rather  chat and find interesting people on chat.  Compares  meeting in online versus the bar scene, some find chatting online more interesting to meet and getting to know those people better.   And most busy professionals, you find them more chatting on the net rather than meeting people in bars because of time.  They cant find time to go out because they are too busy doing the most important task.
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by CooCHie on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:20am

on 01/11/06 at 05:23:21, wildheart41004 wrote:
personally, I find that the people I meet online are much more interesting and easier to be around then when I am playing music in bars and most are falldown drunk and pretty much disgusting

;D ;D ;DWIld that is very true..dont forget the puking part..lol at least they cant see you when you puke right..lol
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:35am
I couldn't agree more witchy poooh.... the reason I chatted was because I was so bored in the office that I want to try something new and see what the fuss is about... i never thought that I would fall in love here... not even in my dreams...

I know there are various reasons why people chat... I use the yahoo messenger before to talk with friends abroad... but because the article I wrote was for the LOVE month issue I limitted the topic to that extent only .... and believe me guys really SOME people , like the skeptics thinks people who FALL IN LOVE on line are losers!

Read the article I wrote in full text so you know where I'm coming from. Thanks  ;)

[smiley=omfg.gif] are stones being casted at me now :o yikes!
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 11th, 2006, 7:14am

on 01/11/06 at 06:35:56, earthlingorgeous wrote:

[smiley=omfg.gif] are stones being casted at me now :o yikes!



Nahhhh.... you just gave us the idea of one more debatable topic here ;)
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by nOrKAy on Jan 11th, 2006, 9:29am



on 01/11/06 at 06:35:56, earthlingorgeous wrote:


[smiley=omfg.gif] are stones being casted at me now :o yikes!


Earth,
We are not throwing stones on you. This is actually a good thread wherein one can tell or defend himself/herself to those SOME contracted minds (I must say) and let them know that their perception of online involvement is not as what they think.

And here is one fact from me to contradict the statement of the SOME. Most of the people I know and chat with are professionals, have good jobs, and therefore, good life.

I instead think that those who view online relationships purely negative, are those who don't have confidence on themselves--they can't afford, they are not sure of themselves and that they won't be liked when seen in person. Therefore, they are the losers and not those who are brave to take risk in an online relationship.
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by MissFartyPants on Jan 11th, 2006, 9:38am


I totally agree with Mercedes (Earthling?) and Krissy. This is not because I do have an online relationship that is going on smoothly still. (I left my brain when the plane stopped over in HK. LOL. What is the connection? I'm still completely scatter-brained).

I'll get back with you on this one. lol ....

Bottomline: I understand you completely Mecedes ....... you go girl!  ;)
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 11th, 2006, 10:48am

on 01/11/06 at 09:38:29, MissFartyPants wrote:
I totally agree with Mercedes (Earthling?) and Krissy. This is not because I do have an online relationship that is going on smoothly still. (I left my brain when the plane stopped over in HK. LOL. What is the connection? I'm still completely scatter-brained).

I'll get back with you on this one. lol ....

Bottomline: I understand you completely Mecedes ....... you go girl!  ;)


Thanks a lot Ms. Farty.

And Krissy.... I know there are some twisted minds around I just feel I dipped into the hot tub or something that I pulled out a very big DEBATABLE topic.... lol  ;D

Hey... don't worry I can take it .... I accept critics very much... I like ideas being tossed around its healthy.... But atleast I sparked a controversy that well caught my readers attention  ;D  

Thanks all mwahs.... but really READ the full text!  I assure you will not glare at me after but sigh  ;D WUV YAH ALL GUYS MWAH!  :-*
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 11th, 2006, 2:07pm
DAng...why are u all agreeing with each other? Where is the debate? Anyone brave enough to contradict these ladies? Promise you will not get a hanging? [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by CooCHie on Jan 11th, 2006, 4:51pm

on 01/11/06 at 09:29:25, nor Kay wrote:
Earth,
We are not throwing stones on you. This is actually a good thread wherein one can tell or defend himself/herself to those SOME contracted minds (I must say) and let them know that their perception of online involvement is not as what they think.

And here is one fact from me to contradict the statement of the SOME. Most of the people I know and chat with are professionals, have good jobs, and therefore, good life.

I instead think that those who view online relationships purely negative, are those who don't have confidence on themselves--they can't afford, they are not sure of themselves and that they won't be liked when seen in person. Therefore, they are the losers and not those who are brave to take risk in an online relationship.


I could not agree more Krissy.  And for you Earth, we are not throwing stones at you in anyways.  We as a moderator, often times find topic that we get ideas from what you or other poster had recently open or comment on and we find it as a debatable topic.  This is a great way to express our own opinion or ideas.  Don’t get too much offended if we got anything out of what you are doing.  There are portion of the articles that some perceive us online chatters, as there is no life.  This is what im trying to relay on you about your opening in the article.  As a readers point of view, I don’t care about the other stuff, it will give me discouragement to have any online relationship and doubts about online relationship since "based on the facts" that you gather, It gives me the illusion that people who meet and found love online are merely losers who is just looking for love. All I see is all negative opening not very positive opening which is a full discouragement as I view it.
I am just trying to view my point to the other side of the positive people who comes online not because they are bored, no life but there are some professionals that find the Internet the easiest and more convenient way to interact with the opposite sex.  That their social life to meet people in their surroundings contradicts their busy schedule. I have meet and chat with people who are Doctors, Lawyers, and Business Entrepreneurs who are using more Internet to find their love of their life or merely finding  friends online. And the most accessible tools they can use are the Internet while they are working at the same time.   You see, there is so many reasons, but yet the part where you single out those bored and crazy lunatics,  is where I feel very discouraging part of the article.  And again, you brought a very great Topic Earth.  Thanks for your ideas...Hehehehe..We try to get more great ideas for great topics to discuss!!!!  I just feel that this is a great topic to discuss. And again I am not criticizing you but  i am merely  trying to depend those people who comes online and used the internet as a means of entertaining or the easiest and most convenient way to interact people.
[smiley=icon_drink.gif] [smiley=icon_drink.gif]Lets drink to that!!Salute to the great job as well Earth..that is a very hard topic to write.  More power to you!!!
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by wildheart41004 on Jan 11th, 2006, 5:36pm

on 01/11/06 at 06:20:06, CooCHie wrote:
;D ;D ;DWIld that is very true..dont forget the puking part..lol at least they cant see you when you puke right..lol

yes cooch, nothing sexier then a drunk woman puking on my shoes..lol
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 12th, 2006, 12:51am

on 01/11/06 at 17:36:55, wildheart41004 wrote:
yes cooch, nothing sexier then a drunk woman puking on my shoes..lol


At least it's guaranteed to catch your attention, wildy! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 12th, 2006, 1:54pm

on 01/11/06 at 14:07:51, Wicked_Witch wrote:
DAng...why are u all agreeing with each other? Where is the debate? Anyone brave enough to contradict these ladies? Promise you will not get a hanging? [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]


LMAO Edith  ;D OK I'll be on the defensive part  ;D  [smiley=thump.gif] [smiley=thump.gif] [smiley=thump.gif]


on 01/11/06 at 16:51:48, CooCHie wrote:
I could not agree more Krissy.  And for you Earth, we are not throwing stones at you in anyways.  We as a moderator, often times find topic that we get ideas from what you or other poster had recently open or comment on and we find it as a debatable topic.  This is a great way to express our own opinion or ideas.

Don’t get too much offended if we got anything out of what you are doing. There are portion of the articles that some perceive us online chatters, as there is no life.   This is what im trying to relay on you about your opening in the article.  

As a readers point of view, I don’t care about the other stuff, it will give me discouragement to have any online relationship and doubts about online relationship since "based on the facts" that you gather, It gives me the illusion that people who meet and found love online are merely losers who is just looking for love. All I see is all negative opening not very positive opening which is a full discouragement as I view it.

I am just trying to view my point to the other side of the positive people who comes online not because they are bored, no life but there are some professionals that find the Internet the easiest and more convenient way to interact with the opposite sex.  

You see, there is so many reasons, but yet the part where you single out those bored and crazy lunatics,   is where I feel very discouraging part of the article.  And again, you brought a very great Topic Earth.  Thanks for your ideas...Hehehehe..


Your welcome.

I know what you mean Coochie.... But the thing I got offended was you JUDGE already without having seen the whole article .

And where did I single out the bored and crazy lunatics?  PLS READ! and please quote me if I have said that.

I would not be very much offended if you didn't put a judgement as fast as that .  All I am saying is READ THE WHOLE ARTICLE .

I wasn't offended because you found a new topic to debate about in what I wrote, I got offended because in some of your postings you PASSED JUDGMENT on me already and the relationship I am having.  Which I see very foul!  To quote you on that here's what you said:


on 01/11/06 at 17:39:04, CooCHie wrote:
It is not what you wrote but how you perceive what you gather that troubles me it just contradicts to what you are saying in the article about online relationship is as healthy(bec to me your relationship with Jeff is a normal way) as a normal but yet untrusthworthy because of lunatics(your contradicting to what you gather about other's view)?  ..there are lunatics online based on your perceptions.?  that is what im trying to elaborate here.  

I perceive the opening if I read it, you did not write this but its my perception and understanding     when i read the opening  i see it as if you are saying it is healthy to have a relationship online but yet you dont trust fully about online relationship so it is not heathy?.  i could be wrong. ;D ;D ;D



You haven't read the whole article yet and you haven't seen those 3 paragraphs that you read was just a lead .

And I know you are not throwing stones at me I was just joking when I said that but since someones being catty about this I think I should defend my article and myself as well.

If you don't care about the other stuffs... well I wasn't writing about REASONS WHY PEOPLE CHAT I was writing about Falling in love online and both are different topics...

I'm having a crappy day... isn't it obvious?

And yes I had a bottle of Sminorff  [smiley=icon_drink2.gif] and later I will have margaritas as well soon as I log off here. And a bottle of wine to doze off, ok just a glass.

Let's all have a drink and be merry!  HAPPY NEW YEAR!  [smiley=icon_drink2.gif]
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by nOrKAy on Jan 12th, 2006, 5:38pm

Earth,
Anything read or watched UNDONE gives confusions, wrong, or inappropriate conclusion, either it's a prediction or how a reader believes the story would end. It's like when you're reading a book or watching a movie, one is already commenting, or even suggesting how should have the scene done, without waiting the last episode or ending.

It's the same with the article you posted. Although we all know it's only a part of it, one can't help to make comment or a judgement and you can't either blame them. You posted an incomplete article, thus, expect an unclear judgement. I highly suggest then not to post an UNDONE article, especially a sensitive/datable one. You could have wait it to be done before you posted it.

Moreover, you shouldn't need to argue with those comments, either negative or positive. Your words for them to wait for the whole article to be posted before making judgement is enough. Then that will be your answer to their confusions, wrong perception or negative reactions.

And oh, by the way, don't bring any kind of "nasty" taste of liquid into a place of discussion. It can put you to shame.

Thanks.


Back to the main topic
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by nOrKAy on Jan 12th, 2006, 5:52pm


The reason why I go online, is that, I don't have much time to stay outside. Besides, my friends do the same. We often meet only on weekends. I am also a person who prefer to be alone most of the time. And that, I prefer to stay online, while I listen to music and talk to people online who I can't be with in person--bf(if there's any), relatives, friends , family. But most of the time when I am online, I am here in the forum or on other websites which I am involved.

It never mean, that when I chat, I am looking for someone who I can be into a relationship. And still , even if it happens, it never reflect me as desperate or whatever. I can be on a date with someone, anytime I want to.

In conclusion, I take online chatting as a hobby, but if it possible to meet "my man" through online, then I am not saying I don't give a chance.  ;D
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by CooCHie on Jan 12th, 2006, 7:26pm

on 01/12/06 at 13:54:19, earthlingorgeous wrote:
If you don't care about the other stuffs... well I wasn't writing about REASONS WHY PEOPLE CHAT I was writing about Falling in love online and both are different topics...

I'm having a crappy day... isn't it obvious?

And yes I had a bottle of Sminorff  [smiley=icon_drink2.gif] and later I will have margaritas as well soon as I log off here. And a bottle of wine to doze off, ok just a glass.

Let's all have a drink and be merry!  HAPPY NEW YEAR!  [smiley=icon_drink2.gif]

Thank you you just made my point....Reasons why people chat!!!!NOT falling in love online what im commenting on!!I hope you got the connection now.  
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 13th, 2006, 12:33am
I think Earthy's drinking to celebrate her birthday. ;DYou should have called me, I'm just one-ride away ;). I wish you can publish the whole article now so we would all know what's the general view of the whole topic in it. Did you by any chance said something to those you interviewed that was against online relationships or simply think of online chatting as something rubbish? I wish I could talk to them personally. If it's a male, I'm going to introduce him to a gorgeous female online. And if it's a female, I'll introduce him to someone nice and charming and goodlooking. I will make them eat their words! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Justine on Jan 13th, 2006, 1:39am
I fall under the catergory of chatters having pc/internet-dependent work, so chatting has become a convenient way to relax and have fun.
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 13th, 2006, 10:25am
Krissy

My appologies for posting a teaser... I was stirring one's mind and I got what I was looking for and more.   ;)  Btw, the article is not undone its done just delayed posting the rest ....
I was drunk... now I'm sober.... but hmmmm why put me to shame?  

Coochie;

You commented on my personal experience in recent posts... I was merely in the reflex mode... and thank you for realizing I wrote about falling in love and not reasons why people chat.
If I have offended you in whatever way you think... I didn't mean too.  ;) I am oversensitive about my love life... one issue in one's life that I think one should stay away from unless involved. ;)

Edith;

Yeah I should have called you or drop by your store, but I was already in a crappy mood, going someplace I don't know, so I ended up in solo-drinking session.  I'm sober now don't worry and thanks.

Yes witchy mother deary, I always defend us chatters to non-chatters.  But one word is enough for a wiseman,  I don't have to repeat myself to them.  Like I said my good life is my revenge to them.

Well, they are so pessimist about the issue of love blossoming on the net because they were victims of jumping to a conclusion based on over emphasized negative stories.  

I have said my piece and well if they are closed minded well I respect their opinion. I will shut them up with my good life and experience instead.

If I have offended you too Witchy Pooh which I don't mean too, my appologies as well.  :-* See you soon.

Justine

Hello sis, I'll post the entire article as soon as its off the press. :o

Back to topic

Been using the yahoo messenger since 1997 but I only use it for friends on my list and they are friends from work or friends who migrated abroad.
First time I entered the chat room was nearly 2 years ago only.  I did it because its off-hours at the office, bored, and want to check what the fuss is about. ;D

PEACE ON EARTH everyone!  :o[/color]
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by jeannie_bebeh on Jan 14th, 2006, 8:27am
I have often been asked, why do I still go online in Romance Chatroom of Asian Connection 1 when I am already married?

I am not the only married woman in the room and I don't see anything wrong with that. I have met so many friends online and some in person and they are so lovely, that's why I keep coming back to AC1.

Before chatting was my only diversion from school and work, now diversion from boredom. It's one of my way to connect to my friends  that I have met over the years. I am in Australia now, imagine how lonely I am all day. So, online chatting is just my way of passing time. My hubby knows that I go online, he even read the things that we talk about in the room or here in the forum, other's are just dirty minded putting malice to the fun converstaion in the room. I am confident that the regular chatters knows my status and that they all know we are just kidding around for fun. ;)
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by jeannie_bebeh on Jan 14th, 2006, 8:37am
lol now that I have read the previous post, I worry that I posted my thoughts in the wrong thread. heheh this is a lesson to learn. READ BEFORE YOU POST!
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 22nd, 2006, 9:44am
I agree, manay....
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Gracia on Jan 25th, 2006, 5:56am
I have few reasons why i go on line chatting.

  1. i have to do something nice to kill my time.
  2. i want to have friends that i don't need to meet lol
  3.  practice my english (still not good though after
                                          years of chatting. lol)
  4.  improve my typing speed
  5.  overcome shyness lol
  6.  another outlet to make busy with (the forum)
  7.  in some ways, it improves myself
  8.  i'll stick in here because i'm blessed enough to  
       have few good friends to chat with, to care with.

okay..that's all i can think of for now....the list is getting longer when good things happen along the way.
Title: Re: The WHY's of Online Chatting....
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 27th, 2006, 2:39am
Actually our reasons for going online are pretty much the same, Grace. And sometimes I accomodate pm if the person is interesting enough to talk to. I like meeting people...strangers i mean. It has become my hobby to exchange wits with them. And sometimes it can be downright entertaining when I get to meet someone who is as goofy and as witty. ;D


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