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(Message started by: okasantina on Jan 5^th, 2004, 12:13am)

Title: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by okasantina on Jan 5^th, 2004, 12:13am

"Falling in love is grand; staying in love is hard work."

Nurturing Your Relationship
In order for your relationship to grow, you must be willing to nurture it. Usually this is done by spending enjoyable time together and communicating with each other. Each couple must determine the appropriate amount of connectedness and separateness best for them. What happens all too often is that one partner needs more (or less) connectedness than the other partner. You will want to consider your partner's needs and wishes while not neglecting yourself. Therefore, to have a reciprocal relationship, it is important to:
talk together,
listen to each other,
resolve conflict (compromise),
forgive each other,
respect each other,
have fun together,
be committed to each other, and
love and be loved.

Ok roomies...this time lets be serious..ngek! ;D Just wanna know how to commit and when to be in a relationship...minimize conflict...foster and share intimacy...u know stuff like that...........Just how to make it stronger?? ??? ::) ;)

Post awayyyyyyyyyyyyy

asus!

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by gracia on Jan 5^th, 2004, 4:27am

ahhhh difficult to tell on how to make it stronger because it needs cooperation to both parties, if one is only working on it...its no use. Although, doing things together no matter how small it is, is a good sign of having a stronger relationship, open & constant communication, PRAYER, give and take, no nagging/shouting/screaming and the root of all, just LOVE one another.

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by mylane on Jan 7^th, 2004, 3:44am

hard question...

well give and talk relationship helps alot ;D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by coochie_baby03 on Jan 7^th, 2004, 6:22pm

;D ;D ;DI agree with you mymy...Good communication is the key to better relationship..and dont forget trust. and respect. :D :D :D.....that is great too Tina....love all what you said.

and the most important of all...spice the relationship.....naugthiness is next to lovelinesss.....heheheh i just make that up. ;D ;D..let your imagination go wild..... :D :D :D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by bige on Jan 9^th, 2004, 9:36am

::) ::)I'm gona cut to the point this happens time and time again if your a male and you have female friends get rid of them and if your a female and you have male friends get rid of them cause your best friend should be your partner. I am tired of hearing he/she is just a friend nothing is going to ever happen welllllll guess what that one time that you know you and your partner are on the outs or mad at each other who is this person going to go to of course that friend and whats going to happen of course their going to cheat think about it. Cheating is not always just a planned thing it's a revenge thing to its also not just a physical thing its also a blabbing your mouth thing. If you need to talk to someone about your mate thats what parents are for remember they been there and done that. Overall you should communicate to your partner and I do understand at times you do need to talk to someone else. ;)

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by Slice_of_Asia on Jan 10^th, 2004, 7:25am

I totally agree with all you guys but LAUGHTER is very very important. Once you've established that, everything else will fall into place (in my book) ;)

Ewww...who said that >:(

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by JINX_x_JINX on Jan 11^th, 2004, 6:44am

on 01/05/04 at 00:13:34, okasantina wrote:

wow after all of this thing ya said .... how come still see ya lonely sometimes :P ooooops

theres no rulz but try to avoid this type of guy :a very jealous guy .... inspite of all his action still aint know he is a jealous guy [/b] :D wonder who is this ...

just be wiff a person ya so comfy wiff

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by shastamcnasty on Jan 11^th, 2004, 12:55pm

Damn slice,
You gettin a lil mushy.......whats up wid dat....someone must have gotten a good Christmas Present ;D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by Slice_of_Asia on Jan 12^th, 2004, 5:09pm

...if LAUGHTER doesn't work, your last resort would either be taking a cruise on the Love Boat or heading to Fantasy Island. Tatoo was smokin...wasn't he ya'll? ;D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by okasantina on Jan 13^th, 2004, 9:41am

[/center]Expressing Intimacy ;)
You simply need to make time and be creative. Even when you are away from each other you can show love and connection. Today, many couples are communicating through technology by using telephone calls, voice messages, and e-mail. Although these techniques help with communication, care must be taken not to overuse this approach. Work loads and daily responsibilities may be demanding but neglecting your partner is not an effective way to manage time. Start thinking about: The question is.....
"How will I prioritize my schedule to have (more) time with my partner?"
If your relationship is given the necessary time and attention, your quality of life and level of happiness will likely increase. Being in a mutually respectful partner relationship with an element of romance, passion and intimacy will allow both partners to achieve a sense of balance and increase levels of self-esteem.[center]

Well i think this will work to make relationship become more stronger.... :-*

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by coochie_baby03 on Jan 26^th, 2004, 10:34am

;) ;)What the relationship need and how you value that need and how you priorities that need..
very tricky this one because all of us have different needs...we look for something that is missing!!!To fulfill that need is you need to find out what is the most valuable to your partner and vice versa and fullfill that need for both. ;D ;D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by Slice_of_Asia on Jan 26^th, 2004, 3:14pm

so basically...sex, right cooch? ;D :D ;D :D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by ray69 on Feb 17^th, 2004, 2:09am

how i dreamed of that.

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by okasantina on Mar 15^th, 2004, 6:22pm

Minimizing Conflict
Intimacy is best attained in an atmosphere without much conflict because feuding and unresolved conflict often cause hurt feelings. Even couples who love and respect each other will fight, but they tend to use "fair fighting" techniques. Fighting fairly means you will tackle the problem but not your partner. You will avoid holding grudges or using the silent treatment. Learn to say, "I'm sorry!" and "I care about your feelings. Please share them with me." You must take the responsibility to share your feelings and say to your partner, "I would like to talk with you and tell you how I feel." Being thoughtful and considerate of each other will minimize conflict or unspoken animosity. :D

;)

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by okasantina on Jan 25^th, 2005, 5:29pm

How the relationship not to make us bore ::) ??? Have a trip together once in a while ;)

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by beth on Jan 26^th, 2005, 6:53am

its like building a house, work on it lil by lil, in time it will be build completely.
sacrificing really needed in this, different hobbies etc make things harded but if both of em willing, it will happen.
both raised up differently, so if both of em try to look from each way of view, it will work.
men are from mars, women are from venus! that was right, they got different ways to solve their problem, got dofferent point of view, but with good communication, l guess they will understand each other good in time.

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by okasantina on Dec 14^th, 2005, 5:11pm

on 01/26/05 at 06:53:17, beth wrote:

Exactly bethski ;) its all about the way of giving each other a space to know themselves...communication too! trusting one another w all respect and of course the lust to each other...thats important!
;)

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by earthlingorgeous on Dec 20^th, 2005, 9:47am

I just read the post...
anyways i mostly agree with tinasan's posts about nurturing the relationship, expressing intimacy and minimizing conflict...and with bethski's post about relationships like being a house.

I should have posted the blog about our secret here instead of there... lol

There's this Tagalog cliche "Ang maniwala sa sabi-sabi walang bait sa sarili" (Closest translation I can get is : Those who believe in what the other people said has low self esteem or has poor judgment of himself")

Online relationships is a hard thing to do and keep specially if you have this mentality of "Trust no one" like what big joe seems to have as what I read in his post.

It (online relationships) has its ups and downs, anything has. For my part, and in my experience the hardest part is the not being able to hold physically each other especially in times you need all the holding you can from someone you love. The distance sucks the most and its the hardest part of all .

The upside is that in online relationships, you can develop an open communication with each other, talk about everything under the sun without having to censor what you have to say because he/she may not like it, because you have to double the effort of getting close as close as possible to your love one and to tell every little detail about what you feel and think.

Even at the distance between you you can still make your partner feel secured about your love and about the relationship.

You should be able to reconcile differences (compromise), open to learn new things. When you love a person enough sometimes you synchronize too and when the harmony is somehow distracted you will know and feel too.

Having a time set together for both of you alone is also important...cry, sing, laugh, be silly, be naughty, solve problem, be silent, stare at each other or whatever that will keep the bond together.

Remember the reason why you love this person is also the key to keeping it stronger. Sometimes we forget, its nice to be reminded often as often as you could.

Jeeeez...I have so many inputs about this lol!

Its also a bonus to find someone who is loving, sweet, caring, understanding like the one I found here ;D

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by Justine on Dec 23^rd, 2005, 7:33am

Awws Earthy...my laughter turns into a smile whenever I read your posts. So sweet. I've said this a few times, I'm saying it again, I wish you and Jeffy all the best. Keep that love alive :)

Title: Re: OuR ReLaTiOnShIp? MaKiNg StRoNgEr!
Post by earthlingorgeous on Dec 27^th, 2005, 2:16pm

on 12/23/05 at 07:33:34, Justine wrote:

Awws Earthy...my laughter turns into a smile whenever I read your posts. So sweet. I've said this a few times, I'm saying it again, I wish you and Jeffy all the best. Keep that love alive :)

Thanks a lot Justine ;D Wish you all the best too ;) See yah soon!