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(Message started by: mylane on Dec 16^th, 2004, 9:38am)

Title: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by mylane on Dec 16^th, 2004, 9:38am

I have been reading Kianna's thread the Typical things thread and I came out with another topic because of this line:

Quote:

Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?

Lets here it guys...

Post away!!!

NEXT!!!

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by kim on Dec 17^th, 2004, 5:29am

I have a very very bad fear of rejection... There has been several (several meaning 1? ;D ) guys that have tried to court me in ac1 (better not to mention them... just out of respect)... Most of them are nice legit guys but i just cant get myself to go into a relationship.

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by norkay on Jan 18^th, 2005, 11:31am

For me,fear if we are refering about internet thing. When i feel strong attraction to a guy i met and i know we can't have a healthy relationship (distance as the no.1 reason),i give our communication limitations like not talking to that person that often.I'm straight and i say right away or i show if he's rejected. ;) ;D

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by beth on Jan 24^th, 2005, 10:06pm

l think l over sensitive on 'rejection' cuz being so scared of rejection,
zo... l'll just go before they reject me

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by beth on Feb 25^th, 2005, 7:46am

noone can guarantee that 100% :P bugger

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by beth on Feb 25^th, 2005, 5:28pm

on 02/25/05 at 12:26:06, nelson3082000 wrote:

i guess beth you are new at realtionships anhd dont know that you can have that but i do know that you can have it

eh? ::) me? new? [smiley=roll.gif][smiley=roll.gif] wahahaha... whatevah :P u dunno me anyway bugger :P

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Aug 16^th, 2005, 1:49am

I think most people fears rejection. Some are just trying to put on a brave face. In a relationship, it is most feared. That is why sometimes the couple keep dancing around each other with words. You know, like testing the water first before diving in? For me, I fear it a lot coz I know it will put a dent to my self-confidence if I ever get rejected. They said it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Easier said than done. Because when we lose someone or get rejected, sometimes we wish we have never met the person at all. That's because emotional pain is the hardest to endure.

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by thebeast on Oct 6^th, 2005, 9:35pm

Well I think everyone fears rejection. I have been rejected countless times and will more than likely be rejected again. Its easy to be gun shy after being rejected. But the important thing is to give it a shot. How else you gonna know if he or she will really reject you. I cant stand the word no, and yes it hurts when I dont get what I want, but I will never let it make me crawl into a hole and hide from my real feelings and the outside world. You gotta get back on the horse and live life to your fullest potential and dont let fear dictate the things that you want out of life. I remember when my girlfriend and date for my Senior Prom got in trouble because she was out all night with me one night, and her parents punished her by not letting her go to the prom with me. I only had 3 days before the prom to find another date. Can you imagine my delima. Hell most of the girls at my school already had dates by then. Well..I asked 3 girls all from other high schools surrounding Altus, and I got all no's from them..but the 4th one said yes. She was the sister of a friend of mine who I worked with as a life guard. She was a very cute girl and all my buddies were jealous. I went to the prom with her and we had a great time. If I would of given up after the first no, I would of had no date to my senior prom and been stuck at home with the no date for the senior prom blues. :(

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Moi moi on Oct 7^th, 2005, 7:14am

on 10/06/05 at 21:35:25, thebeast wrote:

Joel,
What a very nice sharing and thought. As smart as you.
Take the risk.Hope,but don't give too much expectations.

[smiley=icon_drink2.gif]

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Saffire_65 on Oct 8^th, 2005, 1:12am

LMBO Joel. YOu sound very much like someone i knew... very stubborn and will never accept NO for an answer. But anyhow dont aries all are as stubborn, bold and restless as we are. Glad that you finally admitted one of the traits in aries. (i know you dont agree with me about the zodiac thing but its true :P)

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Oct 29^th, 2005, 3:46pm

good job joel, remembering that some guy give up so easily ;D it made me think sometimes that aint guys a good fighter? lol

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 28^th, 2005, 5:28am

Maybe not expecting too much is a good way to ward off impending disasters in a relationship. But then again when you keep holding back part of your feelings, then the happiness and comfort will not always be there, right? I mean there is no sense in having a relationship if you worry all the time for the day when he/she finally dumps you. Relationships are like gambling. When you get in one, you are dealt a card. It is up to you how you play it. You can keep a poker face by not showing your fears, or you can give it your all and enjoy it and worry about the outcome later when the time comes?

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Nov 30^th, 2005, 11:03am

indeed witchy... ;D
l think l didnt worry about what ''cards'' l got on my hands b4, and worry about the outcome later when the time comes...
but when l got so close, share everything, really so very deep in love and then taaarrraaaa the reality come 2 a halt that we have to split.... **BANG** l have to face it, l have to forget him just like that and it sux :P

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Dec 1^st, 2005, 8:43am

I'm sorry it didn't last the way you would like it to, Beth. But a sweet thing like you will always have lots of chances to make things better and for the best the next time. Just hang in there. Life is full of surprises, do you believe that? Just be wiser next time and try to learn from past failures. And let it make you stronger as life goes on. You're lucky that you do not feel animosity towards having another relationship. 'Atta girl, Bethy ;)!!!

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Jimbo on Dec 1^st, 2005, 10:03am

on 11/30/05 at 11:03:16, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

i
l think l didnt worry about what ''cards'' l got on my hands b4, and worry about the outcome later when the time comes...
but when l got so close, share everything, really so very deep in love and then taaarrraaaa the reality come 2 a halt that we have to split.... **BANG** l have to face it, l have to forget him just like that and it sux :P

Thats why I don't get involved anymore, I am tired of the games and the hurt.. No one can do it to me again..I'm not a player of hearts :P ;D

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 6^th, 2006, 10:48am

on 12/01/05 at 10:03:31, Jimbo wrote:

Thats why I don't get involved anymore, I am tired of the games and the hurt.. No one can do it to me again..I'm not a player of hearts :P ;D

Shuckz, Jimbo! And here I am hoping we can hook up when you get back! [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif]

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Justine on Feb 7^th, 2006, 8:10am

They say the thing that prevents people from loving is the fear of not being loved in return......but then again, we wouldn't know unless we try.

It is true that heightened expections produce heightened disappointments, but I keep faith and pray for grace, not so much to understand but to accept anything that will be given to me. The more we try to understand, the more we analyze things, the more we get confused, eventually leading to the feeling of sadness and pain....until we lose faith.

No one is spared from getting hurt, we all get our time. I will feel so bad if I am the only person who has experienced pain...but no, I'm not, I am just another human being, just like everyone else.

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by wildheart41004 on Feb 7^th, 2006, 5:07pm

on 02/07/06 at 08:10:04, Justine wrote:

very deep thought justy..wish I was smart as you ;)

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Justine on Feb 7^th, 2006, 5:59pm

on 02/07/06 at 17:07:23, wildheart41004 wrote:

very deep thought justy..wish I was smart as you ;)

Life teaches us so many things. We learn a lot by keeping our minds and hearts open. I'm not that smart :P I can be a dummy in some other things too, but thanks ;)

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 18^th, 2006, 5:13am

You're right, sistah. It reminds me of the saying "It is better to have love and lost than to have never love at all." But then again, what we do not know won't hurt us, right? Now I am confused! Love makes some people crazy. [smiley=silly.gif] [smiley=freak.gif]

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Fugi on Mar 18^th, 2006, 6:23am

You can't change who you are so if ppl don't want you as their lover that's their loss... If you pretend to be someone that you are not you gonna fall through in the end anyway... Everybody has his/her qualities... Don't be affraid of being rejected...

What really matters is that you find someone that loves you, accepts you the way you are and sees your qualities.... Finding that someone that loves you is more important and when you do.... Don't fear to love him/her the same way as he/she loves you!!! Love can turn out both ways... good and bad... just don't hide your feelings cause you are affraid to get hurt, then it was just not meant to be.

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 19^th, 2006, 5:14am

I think this is one of the reason why there are lots of people falling in love on the net? No one knows who really the other person is behind the computer other than what they say about themselves. Let's just hope that the emotional attraction will be greater than the physical attraction.

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Fugi on Mar 19^th, 2006, 6:50pm

i don't totally agree with that witchy... i haven't found what i was looking for in a girl that lives here so im greatfull for the opportunity to have a relationship online... i think the fear for the online relationship to fail is much bigger than the one u have in real life cause when dating online there are many obstacles you have to deal with.... anyways im enjoying every moment i share with my princess no matter how short time is... the connection we have is great :)

Title: Re: FEAR OF REJECTION
Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 4:08am

I think u missed my point completely, Fugi ;) Unless we have met that person for real and seen what they really are....who's to say otherwise? There are lots of lonely people out there who uses their computers to have a taste of happiness. People who has no real bad motives but is hindered by situations in life. And i don't mean here just the physical appearance. I'm talking in general...unhappy marriages, physical defects, jobless people, brokenhearted, and a lot more. Until they choose to reveal who they really are, can you honestly say you would have known them just by talking to them at length? Sometimes its hard to tell the truth...especially if u have fallen bad for the other person. The fear of rejection will always be there.