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(Message started by: Wicked_Witch on Sep 16^th, 2005, 1:31am)

Title: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Sep 16^th, 2005, 1:31am

Sometimes, even if the signs are there, we simply refuse to see it. For reasons like we don't want to confront the person for fear of losing him/her. Sometimes we worry about the effects it will have on the kids. Sometimes we refuse to dig deeper into it because we do not want to believe it is true or that it is really happening to our lives. The worse scenario that can ever be in a break-up is having a 3RD PARTY. Because more often than not, it makes it harder for the estrange couple to still be friends right away. But for whatever reason there is, how do you cope up with it? Post away....

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Sep 20^th, 2005, 1:25am

I guess everyone is lucky they never had problems with unfaithfulness, eh? :DSometimes even though I suspect, I tried to avoid a confrontation. Because he has always been honest with me and he will never deny it. I've always been afraid to face the truth. And I guess I do not want to shatter the illusions I had that he was the perfect partner. And even if I caught them together, I dont think I can make a scene. But God has always a way of righting a wrong so....

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by keensryche on Oct 29^th, 2005, 6:42am

With a gun!!!!!!!

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Oct 29^th, 2005, 1:07pm

with a brave heart ??? ??? cuz pitying urself won't do any good :P

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by okasantina on Nov 17^th, 2005, 5:12am

Through prayers ... then i`ll be at peace ;) :)

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 19^th, 2005, 12:34am

on 10/29/05 at 06:42:23, keensryche wrote:

With a gun!!!!!!!

Oppss....sorry, Keen...I forgot I have this thread here. Im just curious...can u really hurt that person? Would you rather see that person dead rather than let her be with someone else?

Through prayers ... then i`ll be at peace Wink Smiley

This is from Tina. I do not know how to qoute everyone in just one postings so I'm copying it. You gotta be a very strong person if you can just sit and pray while your world has turn upside down coz of the unfaithfulness of someone. Very courageous, indeed! And this goes for Beth, too!

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by nelson3082000 on Nov 19^th, 2005, 10:48am

well if ya love the girl or guy u shouldnt cheat but sometimesmit happens for various reasons, but it should nt
if ya in love u should be there for her or him forever [smiley=sweetheart.gif] [smiley=sweetheart.gif] [smiley=sweetheart.gif] [smiley=sweetheart.gif]

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by MissFartyPants on Nov 19^th, 2005, 4:21pm

Cut his "thing" off. ;D

Kidding of course .... I don't know, not been faced with the dilemma.

While I'm a firm believer and proponent of second chances, if it were to happen to me - I'd probably not even going to confront him. Because I don't think there is any logical explanation for what he has done. I'm going to end the relationship without much of a word said between us. No physcho babble, no farewell speech - none whatsoever. Just like that.

How do I cope with it? I don't have to. ;D

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 21^st, 2005, 1:45am

Wow, Missfarty, you are one lucky woman not to have experienced this kind of problem in your life and I hope you remain secured for the rest of your life.(winks)Or your man will be sorry he ever crossed you! Hahahaha!!

[qoute]well if ya love the girl or guy u shouldnt cheat but sometimesmit happens for various reasons, but it should nt
if ya in love u should be there for her or him forever[/qoute]

Nelson, sometimes things happens that are beyond your control. It maybe your fault or not, but you would still be a part of it. I think the best thing for you to do is to show your sincerity in wanting to right that wrong. I just hope your partner will give you a second chance. And if she really cares, she will, unless you have done something really irrepairable?

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by MissFartyPants on Nov 22^nd, 2005, 12:57pm

on 11/21/05 at 01:45:04, Wicked_Witch wrote:

Thanks so much. However, the only reason why, is because I've only had very few relationships to begin with. Two and three quarters (I think). ;D The longest was a year - that for me is a milestone already ;D Guys I've been in relationships with couldn't seem to keep up with me. LOL.

Most of the time I feel sorry for them though. They didn't see it coming. Case of mistaken identity I would suppose. I am not entirely "normal". (bwahahahaha) ;D

(Man, the smell of my finger is annoying me. Smells like curry. Must be the chicken I had for lunch -- it says lemon with garlic. Grrrr!) >:(

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by thebeast on Nov 22^nd, 2005, 6:42pm

on 11/22/05 at 12:57:46, MissFartyPants wrote:

I think cathy likes to make others think she is abnormal but in fact she is very normal...probably the most normal weird person I know ;D

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by nelson3082000 on Nov 23^rd, 2005, 1:01am

ya cope with it by sayin bye see ya later , if a men or a woman does that they do not respect you so better to end it now before it gets worse.

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by CooCHie on Nov 23^rd, 2005, 6:49am

HASTA LA VISTA BABY [smiley=whip.gif] [smiley=whip.gif] [smiley=crowded.gif] [smiley=crowded.gif] [smiley=crowded.gif] [smiley=crowded.gif]

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by nelson3082000 on Nov 24^th, 2005, 1:08am

yep coochie totally agree if ya make the comitment you stick buy ya word and commit and if ya dont asta la vista plus a kick up the ass on the way out the door

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 24^th, 2005, 1:37am

Maybe. But you know, guys? I know some people who have stayed together with their partners in hoping he/she will change because they worry about the kids. They just suffer in silence and let their works absorb them. I know of a person who took to drinking everytime he comes home. Divorce is costly he said. And too, he worried that he will lose costudy of the kids because his partner got a good job. No matter that he knows she's been screwing around. He thinks half of the supposedly out of town seminars she made are to be with the other man. But he can't do anything because he can't deny the fact that the wife contributes a lot to their household finances. and she's also a good mother to their kids. Always giving them quality times. How do you part ways with "sinners" like that? Thus...he suffers in silence.

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by nelson3082000 on Nov 24^th, 2005, 4:00pm

get eveidence and photos or video of her doin that then when y go to courst he is not goin to loose

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 25^th, 2005, 2:45am

on 11/24/05 at 16:00:38, nelson3082000 wrote:

get eveidence and photos or video of her doin that then when y go to courst he is not goin to loose

Even if he can prove she's been an unfaithful wife, it will not reflect on the fact that she has always been a good mother to their kids and that she can still support the kids financially if they divorced. And what about the kids? They adore her. I don't think the court will give the custody of the children to the father, especially when she earns MORE than the husband?Whatever their problems are, it is just between the two of them because as far as the kids are concerned, she has always been a god mother to them. So his main problem is wether to just accept things in silence or leave his family. Of course he will have visitation rights. But will it be enough for him? Because I am sure he will look the villain in the eyes of the children and he loves them so much. My suggestion is to find happiness outside the marriage. Just be discreet. Hehehehe!

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by nelson3082000 on Nov 25^th, 2005, 2:09pm

as u said withchy i depends
ans yes they will give them to the father as here it is changing and ne and woman have equal rights as it should be
how they do it there maybe unfiar as it takes to make a child y should one get rights more then the other
the courst decide whats best for the kids
not whats best for one parent all tha other

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 28^th, 2005, 5:17am

I think it's the same everywhere. The courts always decides what's good for the kids. That's why they always give the custody to the better parent. The loser would just have to content themselves with visitation rights. It's not unfair to the parents, it is unfair to the kids when they have to shuffle visiting seperated parents to and fro. It makes them feel like a yoyo. Never knowing where to belong.

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Saffire_65 on Nov 29^th, 2005, 2:13pm

This remind me of my experience many years ago when i was involved with a guy from Boise, Idaho. He was a very nice young man and decent too. We chatted over the phone every now and then. Until one day I made a call late at night his time. He sounded weird over the phone. He took the very first opportunity to hang up the phone the moment i said I was going to let him go to get somemore sleep. I sensed something was wrong. I thought I heard a woman's voice moaning in the background.

The next time when I met him online I cornered him. He couldnt escaped anymore. I couldnt believe my ears when he told me he was with someone else the night I called. I felt disgusted. It was like walking into his bedroom and caught him in the act with another girl. Sheesh. He told me that girl meant nothing to him. He just need to fulfil his basic needs. That disgust me evenmore. What sort of person was he..... selfish, selfcentred and unfaithful :'(

Anyhow I admired his honesty and the courage to admit his fault. I could have fogive and forget if he hadnt made any excuses that she meant nothing to him. He could be saying that to another girl about me too. So I decided to take a bow. We remain friends until he went MIA (missing in action) :'(

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 30^th, 2005, 1:40am

Tell me about it, Twinnie. I was one under "the wife is always the last to know" cliche. [smiley=silly.gif]

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by MissFartyPants on Dec 2^nd, 2005, 1:19pm

on 11/22/05 at 18:42:31, thebeast wrote:

..probably the most normal weird person I know ;D

Why, thank you Joel. I'd take that as a compliment! ;D

Title: Re: UNFAITHFULLNESS: How Do You Cope Up With It??
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 5^th, 2006, 8:47pm

Sometimes I just try to enjoy life as I see fit