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Title: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by MissFartyPants on Apr 27th, 2004, 5:45am If you think this is a walk in the park, well think again. Has anyone seen the movie "Someone Like You?" starred by Ashley Judd and Hugh Jackman. I think you should ;) Anyhoo..... In my book, nice guys do finish last. Their actions are mostly predictable. They are expected to do the "honorable" thing - whatever that means today. Open the door for you, do your nails ;D, says the things you wanted to hear NOT what you should hear, ass kissers, if I may - and the list goes on. (Please don't throw your shoe at me not until I make my point. I do have a point, I swear). Funny thing is, when these nice guys break your heart it's the most horrible feeling. You never knew what hit you. On the other side of the coin, enter the assholes. Does "A Walk To Remember" ring any bell? Maybe it's just me, but I've always wanted to have a sense of accomplishment. Even if its of little significance. I mean, wouldn't it be nice to meet a guy that annoys the heck out of you, who is unbelievably cocky -- then one day, you flash him your dorkiest smile and he's hooked. No exposed cleavage or any of the sort. You didnt' even have to pretend to drop your pen. It's like whoa! Gives you that inexplicable feeling...... Not saying I'd date an asshole with the hope of changing him in mind. Although, that is indeed very challenging. Needless to say, I'd go for the assholes anytime ;D I'd like to hear your thoguhts. |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by ReeBop on Apr 27th, 2004, 9:05am and now you know why I am single...and will remain single the rest of my life....it is true, nice guys finish last every single time money, mental anguish...they mean a lot, I guess |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by teagirl on Apr 27th, 2004, 5:32pm Men are bewildering creatures. Never will I be able to understand one and never will I ever attempt. ;D I usually steer clear from A-holes because I have such low pain threshold that I cringe @ the slightest HINT of pain. You see, this is my EQUATION: ASSHOLES = PAIN So if thats the case, my fate can be found among the nice ones but I had a Mr. Nice Guy for 4 years---he broke my heart so horribly, I'm thinking I'm still reeling from the blow til now. The problem with Mr. Nice Guys is that they are so darn tootin' nice, its impossible to stay angry with them. Picture this: they clawed your heart from your chest using his barehands, threw it on the ground and trampled it with spiked shoes all the while apologizing to you! So Nice Guys or A-holes? Well, what attracts me in a guy is his intellect and usually I'm so dazzled with his IQ, I never realize he is the nice-guy type or otherwise until I'm knee deep in the relationship. If it comes down to these 2 choices, Mr. Nice or Mr. A-hole, I think I will take a sabbatical from the romance department and contemplate a life of total isolation. |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on Apr 27th, 2004, 10:23pm My sentiments exactly! Thing is, with A-holes, you know what to expect - if they break your heart, you shrug your shoulders and move on. Men are indeed an enigma. I've given up trying to make sense of it all. Hurts my brain to no end. Following Teagirl's equation. Mine would have to be: MEN/LOVE/Relationship = WASTE OF TIME I'd get my fix elsewhere ::) Welcome to the BIG TIME Chicken Club ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by teagirl on Apr 28th, 2004, 4:30am kuk kuruk-kuruk kuk kuk kuruk *doing the chicken dance since we dont have a chicken icon* |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on Apr 28th, 2004, 5:55am LOL silly girl! Does that mean you'd join my Dead Toenail Society as well? My members has walked out on me :'( Hey, won't you add me to your buddylist? clumsilyidiotic is my nick. Fitting name huh? ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by mylane on Apr 28th, 2004, 8:37am this explain why women are attracted to jerks . ;D there comes a point in a woman's life that they pick the "bad boy" types over the other ones. The reason? Maybe it's the adventure. Maybe it's the challenge that comes with it. Like MissFarty said Quote:
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by kianna_andrea on Apr 30th, 2004, 1:42am ::) hmmmm did u just mention the word "jerk" My ?.....lol...I hate jerks! who doesn't? Add the words imbeciles...idiots and chauvinists! >:( nwei,..uh... ::) I'm not really sure what to say...uh... you see... it's just that once in a while you get to meet someone who you think is a "nice guy" but in the end finding out that he's the so-called "asshole" in the long run >:( Men are great pretenders that's why I guess. I remember someone saying this: "Some men are just stubborn... they just don't know what's good for them even if it hits them in the face!" haha... how true... oh well... I should've known better :( How come some guys are just really sooo impossible?... they're like: they go from 60 to 0(duh!)... they come on too strong... they become extra nice to you...gives you extra special attention... in other words act almost like a "saint"...someone you could fall in love with and then!..... oopsss... slam the brakes when you begin to reciprocate... What could be the possible reason for this? ::) Could they be a lil or too insecure to handle bona fide bonding?...Oh well...I think I still would go for the "nice guy" type of guy.... they're always worth the risk.... always worth the love you have to give...always worth everything... |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by teagirl on Apr 30th, 2004, 1:46pm on 04/28/04 at 05:55:07, MissFartyPants wrote:
What are the requirements to be a member of your Dead Toenail Society. My toenails are still alive but my hair is not... |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by okasantina on Apr 30th, 2004, 5:44pm ::) ::)Cud you plz tell me how to register on the Dead Toenail Society?? ::) ??? ::) |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on Apr 30th, 2004, 10:44pm I'm afraid you'd have to have at least one dead toenail to be a member. :( But since I am recruiting, (and I make all the rules) I'd make this one exception. Dead hair will be acceptable. ;D Just present your dead body part (that doesn't sound nice ::)) for further inspection to qualify. |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by need4speed8dalejr on May 6th, 2004, 2:52am Ok..let me insert my two cents here... Nice guys do finish last. That's a fact!! No chick wants a nice guy for too long, they get ohh so bored. I am not talkin' about mind games either, that's usually left to the chick. Nice guys get their little fragile hearts stomped on pretty quick. Why?? Because they are boring and dull, that's why. Now some of you are confusing actual nice guys complete with the "Oprah" quality seal of approval with imitation nice guys. It's fully the woman's responsibility to inspect all merchandise and grill these guys under a hot light till you gals figure out who's who. If you then think this nice guy is actually a pig mascarading as a nice guy, and not worthy of you, then dump his ass!! Simple, but if he's truly a nice guy, then hold on to 'em. Or get comfortable with the fact that your only gonna rip his tender heart out and show it to him while he's pleading for another chance. [smiley=catsmiley.gif] Even small kitties have a mean streak..lol |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on May 11th, 2004, 3:46am on 05/06/04 at 02:52:25, need4speed8dalejr wrote:
I forgot what was the point in starting this thread in the first place. However, I do have ample time in my hands. So let me contemplate on this some more. Guys are jerks in general. That's a fact. If a guy turns out to be an all-around nice guy, he must be seriously gay, OR unbelievably ugly, OR a textbook geek OR all of the above ;D This is no joke. Based entirely on general observation and on the movies as well. ;D . . . Umm will get back with you on this... I'm starvin. |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by need4speed8dalejr on May 12th, 2004, 2:56pm Well, because after all, the movies are real, and have all the answers... And all this time I should of been listening to what Mr. Ed was saying....now you tell me!! |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on May 13th, 2004, 11:35pm Hmmm again based entirely on general observation, I would say I wouldn't go out with an all-around nice guy. I speak for myself when I say nice guys are boring (you may shoot me when I'm done). I mean, I'd rather watch paint dry than start a conversation with a nice guy. Classic exacmple is my ex. He is probably the nicest guy on the face of the earth. I would have to resort to picking up a fight with him to get him off my back. Trust me, I've given up being Miss Pleasant around him. He had a taste of how much of a jerk I am, still ---- On the contrary, seeing as this is entirely based in the movies - jerks are jerks are jerks. They are so much fun to be around with. A little rough on the edges. You needn't worry about letting your hair down, forget being traditional, screw rules and society - who sets up the norms anyways? What is normal these days? So long as you mind you own business, feed your pets, take daily baths and you're fine. (Stick to the topic Cat) Fine. I've always wondered how it would be like to hang out with a 'jerk'. I've been with a nice guy and thought, I'm better off alone. I like/want the extremes. The contrasts and yet everything seems to fit while all along speculating. Imagine the adventure --- the challenge --- that's life! In a nutshell. Nice guys lead a 'safe', by-the-book kind of life. It lacks the adventure. They wouldn't want to get caught smelling soiled underwears. They're missing out. I'm for trying anything I could get my hands on. Save for sleeping on a rat infested house. Violent reaction/s, anyone? Kids, don't try this at home |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by need4speed8dalejr on May 14th, 2004, 3:13am Well Cathy, Your ideology makes perfect sense to me. But then Im criminally insane. JK. I can understand your point. When your going out with Mr. Nice Guy that gets old fast. He becomes a worm inside your brain, eatting at your relationship with such intensity that it goes undetected by these nice partners. Then one day you just lose interest and start to find little excuses to pick a fight, just wanting to create a different tone within the relationship just to see what will happen. Meanwhile your Mr. Nice Guy does the only thing he thinks he should do. Accepts blame and says he's sorry. Which only makes you madder, now your Hell bent on running the relationship into the ground as quickly as possible. This guy is just too boring for you, too perfect(if there is such a thing). You now look at him with contempt. You loath him for being so loving. Does he not understand your needs? No... Now here stands "Mr. Whatever". He doesn't seem too interested in you, and that catches your attention. You try to test him by seeing where his boundries lie. He says whatever. Your fully interested, further drawn to this guy who is much more of a challenge than the previous man. He does things to piss you off, and yet you are still drawn further into his grasp. He thwarts any attempt by you to get too close. Now your in over your head with this guy, and you start to play games. You feint like your not interested anymore. He says...whatever. Now your mad, but yet you come back for more. You have butterflies in your stomach, think about him alot, can't sleep, can't eat, this guy is ruining your life. Does he not understand your needs? No... Why do you put yourself through this self-imposed sacrament?? Because the thrill of the chase is overpowering. It envigours you, and gives you a purpose, creating an adrenalin rush that gets you hooked. While you do like the safety and security of Mr. Nice Guy, he's too bland, and you also like the rush and the craziness that Mr. Whatever provides. Clearly the answer is finding that perfect balance of the two different personalities in one man. You now know where the term "All the good ones are taken" came from. |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by okasantina on May 14th, 2004, 7:53am on 05/14/04 at 03:13:41, need4speed8dalejr wrote:
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by okasantina on May 14th, 2004, 8:22am Nice Guy??? hmm lemme define it.... ::) ??? [smiley=018.gif] Treats me well. [smiley=roll.gif]Makes me feel good about myself. [smiley=cat36.gif] Cares about my happiness and well-being. [smiley=cat36.gif]Is thoughtful and generous. [smiley=bobby.gif]Is willing to commit to the right relationship. [smiley=love2.gif]Is honest and trustworthy. [smiley=cowboy.gif]Is willing to cooperate, compromise and communicate. [smiley=018.gif]Is able to express and receive affection. [smiley=chef.gif]Respects my independence -- and my vulnerability. [smiley=thump.gif]Supports rather than competes. [smiley=heartbeat.gif] [smiley=heartbeat.gif] [smiley=heartbeat.gif] Men personifying the above characteristics exist, and in significant numbers. But they may be too responsible to be any fun, and as we all know, "Girls just want to have fun, oh girls just want to have fun. ;D [smiley=icon_dance.gif] [smiley=drummer.gif]" Thus, in the real world, the world untouched and forever untouchable by something so ephemeral as a wish, nice men exist. But most women live in a different reality, and in that reality such men do not exist. :-/ So, nice guys are forever condemned to an evanescent existence, passing through the lives of women like whispers in the night...uhhhh..grrrrrrrrrrr! [smiley=oops.gif] [smiley=heartbeat.gif] [smiley=heartbeat.gif] [smiley=heartbeat.gif] Many men -- perhaps most -- choose compromise over despair, and assume behaviors that will get them noticed, behaviors that bind them to the very same women who say they long for the company of "nice men." Many men regret this, but not too much -- better to live a lie with a "bitch" than subsist alone on the cold pinnacle of unrewarded integrity. Is it any wonder so many men are bitter because "nice guys finish last"? Hmmm i doub it... [smiley=018.gif] Most women assure nurturing men finish last. They snub them, and do it so casually and with such arrogance, as if they were God's gift to men and we should be grateful for being allowed to breathe the same air. This is the epitome of female hypocrisy, and they're no different from the "stud" who sleeps with dozens of women, then requires the woman he marries to be a virgin. [smiley=omfg.gif] They put on pedestals the idea of men who are expressive and caring, and there glorify such men in self-help books and the occasional Alan Alda movie. But when they close the books and the movies end, they put the nice guys back up on pedestals to gather dust until the next time they need an icon of the unobtainable to look upon and ask, "Why aren't there any men left like him?" See?? juzt az zimple az that... [smiley=detective.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on May 15th, 2004, 3:35am Wow! Getting interesting by the minute. You two raised important issues which I would like to tackle on had I feel like venting ;D But I don't.. not today at least. I'm feeling oh-so-good so I'll be taking a raincheck until the mood favors my negative side. Yes, I'm a wacko! ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on May 15th, 2004, 7:17am on 05/14/04 at 03:13:41, need4speed8dalejr wrote:
Alrighty, I have just the time to respond to this one in particular. I'd like to think I've already found him. |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by need4speed8dalejr on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:48am on 05/15/04 at 07:17:31, MissFartyPants wrote:
See, there you go again, Thinkin' LOL. ;D JK |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by MissFartyPants on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:42am NO, Dale. There YOU go again. Speaking in riddles >:( Here's the thing. You must realize that I have a messed up head. I have to be in some kind of mood to be able to respond to anything. Simply put, I'm a dumbass pretending to know everything! ;D Seriously though, my head is so cramped up with so many things. Before I make sense, I have to pull the corresponding thought to a particular subject. No, I'm not a procrastinator. ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by Stonser on Jul 13th, 2004, 7:53am So basically what it boils down to, if you are a guy you can't win either way. If you are a nice guy, you are boring and predictable and if your an asshole you are seen as a jerk. This would explain my singledom. Cool. I need not worry about it anymore. Not the I really did in the first place |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by chelle on Oct 29th, 2004, 11:10pm hmmm i dont know about the last word good bugger when monster u cant be good lmao u stay like one [smiley=egypt.gif] ;) |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by chelle on Oct 29th, 2004, 11:46pm on 10/29/04 at 23:14:00, nelson3082000 wrote:
ohhhh yeah im not pin pointin u bugger im talkin about the others u may say the good thing but it cant be all aas u know that too [smiley=icon_drink.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by kim on Dec 9th, 2004, 6:31am Ummmmm.... IT depends.... An A-hole guy can sometimes be fun to be with for a while but Nice guys are the marrying type ;) |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by Fallen on Nov 14th, 2005, 8:40pm Are U talkin to meehhhhhhhhhhhhhh? :-* |
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Title: Re: Nice guy or an A-hole? Post by okasantina on Nov 17th, 2005, 5:22pm on 04/27/04 at 09:05:01, ReeBop wrote:
yea ur e right ree...and nice guys die so soon ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 22nd, 2005, 2:49am Ok, Most of the time A-hole guys are pretty goodlooking or oozing with money. They are so full of themselves they never talk of anything else except their accomplishments, their good traits, blah, blah, blah. But I would go out with them anytime coz I love a good challenge. Missfarty's right, wouldn't it be cool if you make them fall in love with you? Coz in my experiences, A-hole guys fall the hardest. And when they do, they will think the world of you. But that is if the guy is worth it. I mean if behind his cockiness there lies a responsible and caring heart. But if the guy is a complete bum...then screw him! On the other hand, a NICE GUY is someone you bring home to introduce to Dad, families. He say the right words, act with proper decorum, open car doors for his date, walk on the side of the passing car with you, seat you on a dinner table, etc...etc...! But do you believe that when niceguys become A-hole they are the worst kind? But the point is, which one would you find interesting to go out with? The A-hole who makes you feel like you want to put a ductape in his mouth for blabbering too much? Or the Nice Guy that makes you wish it's not unetiquette to bring your CD walkman on a dinnerdate? I say it depends on the kind/mood of the girl at any given time. |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by thebeast on Nov 22nd, 2005, 6:19am I not like the nice guy comment... i never have...i cant stand it when a woman says i am a nice guy..i dont want to called a nice guy those 5 words...u are a nice guy just makes me shiver but i not an a hole either...i would rather just be a guy or cool or caring anything but nice..nice guys always finish last and nobody likes losing. So when i hear nice guy i usually run. Ive been called a hole b4 but funny thing is just 5 minutes b4 that i was mr wonderful. I think i would rather be a hole than nice guy. I not the great understander of women but i do know they need male companionship...just as males need female companionship...we need each other...sure u can tell yourself that you dont need anyone but yourself..u can have lots of money a nice car..but you wont be truely happy. I am a single man...but it would be foolish of me to believe that i didnt need female companionship...same for a woman...and yes a life of solitude can be done...but why? friends and family help but its not the same...so what do u do? u take risks on a nice guy or a hole...if u call me a nice guy i be gone though lol ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by Leah on Dec 16th, 2005, 11:11am hmmm!! my attitude is treat them as they treat you... but I guess I always fall for Mr A-hole [smiley=rock.gif] [smiley=rock.gif]explains why Im still single [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=cat39.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by LOVESASIANF on Dec 16th, 2005, 3:53pm LEAH I'M A NICE GUY NOT AN A-HOLE I HOPE HEHEHEHEHEH :) ;D ;D ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by daviefaescotland on Dec 17th, 2005, 4:47am nice guy wi an a-hole here ;D [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=cat39.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by nOrKAy on Dec 17th, 2005, 5:07am on 12/17/05 at 04:47:26, daviefaescotland wrote:
Davie, better (have a hole), or you would be full of shit! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by wildheart41004 on Dec 17th, 2005, 5:27am am full of shit ans somehow still a nice guy ;D |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by Wicked_Witch on Dec 18th, 2005, 11:26am Oh shit!!! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by Aftr_it on Dec 23rd, 2005, 4:14pm :( so I guess I have to be an aresehole cos Im a perrenial last placer |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by wildheart41004 on Dec 26th, 2005, 8:32pm or maybe I'm a nice guy with an asshole? |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by bigjoe on Dec 26th, 2005, 9:11pm I try to be a nice guy but the clones piss me off [smiley=angel.gif] and everytime a clone comes in the person being cloned always says oh just iggy them but they always stop talking and leave I hate that because the room is a free room can say what we want and thats it............ [smiley=soapbox.gif] but cloning goes beyond freedom and thats not fair and that ASS-HOLE [smiley=spank.gif] MARK FLEMING OR WHAT EVER HIS NAME IS needs to be beaten to death......... He can start by saying he is sorry to every woman in the room thank you and peace out [smiley=ssheep2.gif] |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by Wicked_Witch on Dec 27th, 2005, 6:19am Dream on, Big J ;DThe day they apologize to women they harass is the day Yahoo closes down! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]It's what makes them tick, when they can get a rise out of anyone's skin. They do it on purpose and it makes their day when they can get a reaction from someone. So the best anyone can do is pretend they do not exist. |
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Title: Re: Nice Guy Or An A-Hole? Post by CooCHie on Dec 27th, 2005, 7:42am on 12/17/05 at 05:07:58, nOrKAy wrote:
[smiley=huepfenicon111.gif] [smiley=huepfenicon111.gif] THat is soooooo funny Krissy... |
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