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(Message started by: Nathy on Dec 11^th, 2005, 11:50am)

Title: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by Nathy on Dec 11^th, 2005, 11:50am

Actually it is one of my discussion with my fiancee now. We are discussing about our future marriage, is it better in Asia or maybe in his place, which is Spain.
I know in this forum, many Asians might get married by foreigner and might help me on this.

Need your guys opinion for this.

Title: Re: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by nOrKAy on Dec 11^th, 2005, 2:27pm

I dont know your situation Nathy, so I can't advise you "wisely".

Well, personally, I don't see myself living in other country. I prefer either here in Hong Kong or in The Philippines. I don't see myself to be enjoying life with just my hubby with me, but also with my family. As if I can't live without them near to me. I don't mean I will have to be living with them or to be their neighbor though, but at least, we are in the same country. In that case, I can just run to them in case my hubby goes nuts. Hahaha. Joke. :P

Well, that's why my prayer is a hubby who is willing to give up everything for me, and not to tell me to give up my things for him. LOL. Or better a guy who has nothing and finds me to be his everything, so that he will follow me. LOL. (Hey Im not actually like "that". I'm considerate, actually. LOL )

Title: Re: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by Fallen on Dec 11^th, 2005, 9:10pm

Im married in greece so i dont know whats to be married in asia but i guess it will be great if ill get married for second time ill have that in mind

Title: Re: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by Gracia on Dec 12^th, 2005, 5:37am

Since two countries is involved...i guess it would be better to have two weddings, one in your place Nathy and one in your fiancee's country. It doesn't have to be grand for the two weddings, what's important is, you're giving each other utmost respect and consideration and proper introduction about your "UNION" to your respective families and friends. Isn't that nice having two weddings???

Title: Re: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by earthlingorgeous on Dec 12^th, 2005, 9:40am

Hello Nathy,

Well, I agree with Gracia's suggestion. You can do a wedding at both country. You can't take all your friends and relatives with you when you go there in his country and live with him (if this is your agreement after the wedding) So a wedding where you reside is a wise choice. And is also a good send-off for you so everyone could meet the man you give up what you have before so they can be rest assured that he will take care of you.

Then a wedding at his place because his relatives were unable to come and attend the wedding in your country, they can't all come only a few if not maybe just him. It's a good way for him to introduce you to all of them and a good welcome for you to your new residency.

However, the type of wedding, a grand or a simple but elegant or intimate kind of wedding is just a bonus to the kind of marriage you will have. It's the marriage that will count in the end.

Be mindful to weigh circumstances, you and his, personal beliefs, fears and anything in mind to make a wise decision. In life, sometimes one has to give up something (sacrifice) for the greater good. If both don't compromise it would be a disaster. Good luck to both of you!

Title: Re: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by Nathy on Dec 14^th, 2005, 3:04pm

Well, I forgot to inform also, that I will be have 2 weddings. offcourse in his place and here, but in his place maybe only in civil register. And here in Indonesia is in the church, since I'm a Chatolic and my family want me to be married in church.. 8)

But the problem in the documentation, here in Indonesia really complicated. We have to come back and forth to his embassy here in Jakarta and some paper has to be prepared (too much I guess).

I want to know about the situation in abroad, maybe it might be easier for us or no ???

So far we have prepared his documentation for "Declaration of Free to Marry" and really quite complicated... :'(

Title: Re: Better married in Asia or abroad?
Post by Nathy on Jan 5^th, 2006, 4:11pm

Dear Krissy, Earth, Gracia and Fallen,

Thank you so much for your info...well, finally we came up with the idea of getting married here in Indonesia with church bleesing here and there just simple celebration..

Really appriciate for posting away here ;) ;)