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Title: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Online Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 2nd, 2006, 1:59pm Hello everyone! I was asked by my editor to write an article about Finding Love Online and I would like to asks everyone's opinion and idea about this to collaborate on my story. Also, this is my way of asking permission to everyone that I will include some of the posts involving the same topic in here and quote it thereby making this forum more public ;D The article will be out in February this year for Health News magazine and some network is working out on making a documentary about this too and me as resource person but details later when clear. Thank you everyone for all the support you been giving me and Jeff and Happy New Year to all! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 2nd, 2006, 2:49pm To everyone ;D I want to write a very rational story and not just based on my story so please help me ;D Ree... I'm asking your permission to use whats on some threads here ok? And to all the people here... if you know some success stories I would like to hear them as well. My deadline is on Saturday ;D Thanks again! Help! TY! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 3rd, 2006, 1:47am Hello, earthy ;DI have created threads on this topic. There's the "Ways to Avoid Boguz People Online"...I also have "Why do people fall in love online?" and there are also some other topics in relation to this. You can find them under Asian Connections. I'm sure they won't mind it if you use or qoute them in your article since they are made public already in this forum. About success stories, you will have to personally interview the people involve, I guess. And I think it would be much easier to reply if you would ask certain questions. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by ReeBop on Jan 3rd, 2006, 6:16am Yes, that sounds fine with me. Feel free to use this forum and also, it is ok to use my name of 1freeworld Technologies and the address of this website. I would advise though that if you use anyone's ID from that occurs in a posting in your article, you get permission from the user to use their ID. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 3rd, 2006, 9:01am Thanks for the suggestion Edith ;D Thank you too Mike ;D very much taken into consideration. I would be posting my questions here instead so I can find it easily. I just have few questions though. Hope everyone helps me ;D Thanks again. 1) Why did you start chatting? 2) How long have you been chatting? 3) Have you been inlove online? If yes how many online relationships have you been? 4) What can you say about people falling inlove online? 5) Was your heart broken online? Will you fall inlove online again? Thats all I will very much appreciate all the replies I get from men and women alike. ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by okasantina on Jan 3rd, 2006, 9:11am on 01/03/06 at 09:01:35, earthlingorgeous wrote:
hOPE U LIKE IT EARTHLING DEAR :) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 3rd, 2006, 10:04am on 01/03/06 at 09:11:56, okasantina wrote:
like it very much Tina ;D Thanks for the reply ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by CooCHie on Jan 3rd, 2006, 8:44pm My suggestion Earth, you can open a thread at asian connection and post a title like Questionairre for my online Book. This way, anyone who is interested to post can post there and you can mention them that it can be use in your book. I am sure, lots of interested people will try to help you out. ;D ;Dand we will try to advertise it as well, we got great marketing managers to help you out!!!! :) :)This is a great idea for everyone to share!!! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 4th, 2006, 12:07pm Oh coochie ;D thankies... I wish I was doing a book but its just an article for the magazine ;D it will be great though if our marketing managers can advertize this now ;D so lots will buy the issue on February ;D and maybe just maybe we be on TV do ;D I have little time cooch though deadline on saturday already. anyways, i got lots of info from the love and relationship thread at witchy suggested and some I talked already and gave me helpful info's. Thanks a lot guys. I'll post the finish product lol! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by nOrKAy on Jan 4th, 2006, 12:41pm Earth, So, will the article be published by your name? I would love to read that aritcle you're working on. I would also like to have a copy of it, if you can inform me the magazine, so I can ask someone from the Philipines to check on it and send me. Or if the magazine is available online, then that would be even greater. Good luck. ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 4th, 2006, 12:57pm Hello again, gorgeous!!I guess it's okay to use this thread for your topic since Ree has consented to it and you said you have a deadline to beat. We just hope that when you finally get the chance to publish it we can see our names and the Forum's in it. You know how we love to be on the limelight!! Hehehehe! Here 'ya go for mine: 1) Why did you start chatting? I first heard of it when my in-laws (cousins, sisters, brothers) first suggested that my late husband and I register so we can talk anytime we want and not waste precious money on long distance calls. Both our families are spread out all over the globe! We are members of E-groups, if anyone has ever heard of that. We have set a convenient time for everyone wherever they are so we can all be together when we want to so we can catch up on what is happening to who in their end of the continent. Then one time while I was waiting for everyone to get online I remember someone mentioned about MIRC. So I went to check it. I didn't like it. And then I was told that there are more chat "world" in the Internet. Then someone recommended I try yahoo. That's the start of my online career. hehehehe! 2) How long have you been chatting? More or less 5 years ago. 3) Have you been inlove online? If yes how many online relationships have you been? Have had two online relationships and been in love once. 4) What can you say about people falling inlove online? They vary. Some are for real and some are for fun and some are illusionist who try to build their own "world" on the net. 5) Was your heart broken online? Will you fall inlove online again? Ouch!! Well..in a way, yes...but that's unavoidable under my past circumstances. I was still married when that happened so no way to make something out of that relationship. It's doomed from the very start. Falling in love again? Humnn... I'm not looking anymore but then again, you'll never know, eh? Lol! There you are, you nosey girl!!! [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 4th, 2006, 1:38pm Hey Krissy; Yup, It will be published under my name in February. The magazine is Health News its available in all major bookstores like national bookstore nationwide and I believe its also available there in Hong Kong and Singapore. I don't think its online though. But I think they're working on an online version too. I'll check it out for yah. Witchy, Hahahahaha I'm not a nosey girl lol! It's my editors and bosses who are. They wanna understand the "other" world I'm living and make it understood by other people too lol! So they ask me to do it, as they always do , ask me to write about my personal experiences. HAHAHAHAHA! when I had my baby, when I have a love that was lost and all the stuffs lol! Don't worry, all your names (id's) here in the free world will be mentioned. I have instructed my editor to make a side bar of the comments about falling inlove online. I would using most of the post from the love and relationship thread too. ;) Thankies all ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by ReeBop on Jan 5th, 2006, 6:17am If it isn't too much trouble, I sure would like a copy of the magazine that the article will be published in. Makes me feel great that this community is being used in your article. [smiley=book2.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by nOrKAy on Jan 5th, 2006, 6:31am Admin., Sure, I will check on it and get a copy for both of us, since Earth said it'll be available too here in Hong Kong. You might want to get your copy in person, from me? Hihihi. ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 5th, 2006, 11:25am ;D there yah go Mr. Admin ;D Krissy's gonna give you the copy ;D BTW... i need the male species input in this stuff lol! ASAP! answer the questions lol! Some said the questions were tough, were they? Hmmmmm.... lol Plsssssss. Thanks... tic toc tic toc the deadlines up soon! HURRYYYYYYYYYY! TY ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 7th, 2006, 9:51am What's the latest development, Earthy? ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 9th, 2006, 9:13am [color=burgundy] Hello Witchy ;D Everythings A.Ok here. I'm done with the article after several revisions and I was happy at the final version I did. I sent it to my editor already and now awaiting for its publication. Copy of the healthnews february issue will be out a week before february here in Manila and February in Hongkong they said. I'll post the final edited version when its out I don't wanna pre-empt the publication first. ;D Jeff was happy with the outcome aside from some grammar and spellings I overlook that Jeff is a bit picky about ;D we make a good combo ;D He is my editor and I'm the writer ;D He read it already and he gave me a good review ;D Maybe because he's biased. Bla bla bla I'm saying too much ;D The article is done guys! Get your copy in February! My next assignment is Job Hunting and Career thingy's all about the after graduation stuff. ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by thebeast on Jan 9th, 2006, 11:44pm Earth Y dont u just post it here when u are finished |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 10th, 2006, 1:09am Don't be impatient, Joel :Pshe did promise to post it here. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 10th, 2006, 8:02am Teaser for the article Well since everyone is excited.... (that includes me ;D) here's my opening statement in the article I wrote....(some revision could be seen in the actual published article though) .... Falling Inlove Online ... out in February this year. Falling Inlove Online By: MERCEDES E. RULLAN Just like in physical, up-close-and-personal relationships, the most important thing to remember in on line relationships is committedness -- the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose, of binding yourself intellectually and emotionally. Most non-chatters more often than not, see people in an online/long distance relationship as desperate people with low self-esteem. They see them as people who fear mingling with “real” people and are confined to another world than the “real” world. More often than not they are defined as schizophrenic by the skeptics. In general though, I learned, through talks with friends from the group section of www.1freeword.net, an on line community of chatters with 343 members all over the world, most chatters joined the on line world after being frustrated and tired of the “real” world they live in. Somehow at a point in their life were lost and lonely and are recuperating from a previous heart ache. For them the Internet was a great way to occupy them instead of wallowing on their sorrows........ And yes Joel, Edith is right... I will post it here in whole when its published ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 10th, 2006, 11:34am Ok Ok... I got the edited version: Well I'm so proud to say not much was edited..... Sad to say though... the proposal for the sidebar was rejected because its too long ... Earth, Attached is the edited version of your article but we might not use the sidebar. Ang haba na kasi. Meron lang request si dra. Do you think she can give us a photo of the two of them or her in front of the camera with jeff on screen? Lea I'm so sorry guys :'( but don't worry 1freeworld and the people I talked with were mentioned there ;D Thanks for the support guys! Ok here's the edited version: Falling in Love Online By MERCEDES E. RULLAN JUST like in physical, up-close-and-personal relationships, the most important thing to remember in online relationships is committedness - the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose, of binding yourself intellectually and emotionally. Most non-chatters more often than not, see people in an online/long distance relationship as desperate people with low self-esteem. They see them as people who fear mingling with “real” people and are confined to another world than the “real” world. More often than not they are defined as schizophrenic by the skeptics. In general though, I learned, through talks with friends from the group section of Error! Hyperlink reference not valid. an online community of chatters with 343 members all over the world, most chatters joined the online world after being frustrated and tired of the “real” world they live in. Somehow at a point in their life were lost and lonely and are recuperating from a previous heartache. For them, the Internet was a great way to occupy them instead of wallowing with their sorrows...... (I'll post full text when its published.) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by nOrKAy on Jan 11th, 2006, 5:16am Ahhh, I can't believe this--I mean the thoughts there. But yes, I am looking forward for the continuation. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:29am Believe it Krissy SOME people think this way...its the SOME and the editor who asked me to write about this was well the editor I mentioned in one of my blog entries that got me so pissed. Anyway, yup, I am encouraging you to read the whole text....besides its actually more about falling in love in the net world than the reasons why people chat... its just a backgrounder or an introduction.... sometimes you have to write controversial statements at the begining you know to hold the readers attention ;) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by CooCHie on Jan 11th, 2006, 7:13am on 01/10/06 at 11:34:48, earthlingorgeous wrote:
Im kinda trouble with this introduction though about online chatters," low esteem, disperate". I dont see the connection to the article there. . It gives an illusion of u not trusting having an online relationship based on your general views and what you have learn through friends. And as a member of this forum, i Kinda disagree that boredom and frustration are some reason why ppl chat here in the onlineworld. How I read and perceive how it was written, you are giving the readers a negative perceptions of ppl that goes online that cannot be trusted because they are not for real? and yet you are having an online relationship? There is a contradiction there. I dont know i might be wrong...hehehehe..just my own perception to the article. I dont know if they rewrote of what you wanted to say in the beginning or its just how you wanted. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by okasantina on Jan 11th, 2006, 7:59am Just go on...ill just continue reading it earth dear....w foul? that i can react ;) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 11th, 2006, 10:38am on 01/11/06 at 07:13:13, CooCHie wrote:
Like what I said read the full article first . Thank You! Don't react till you read the full text... thanks.... and yes I was one of those skeptics before... so READ THE FULL TEXT BEFORE YOU REACT! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 11th, 2006, 10:41am on 01/11/06 at 07:59:24, okasantina wrote:
Thank You very much TINASAN for not being judgmental .... I appreciate it a lot! Wow I feel I'm in a hot seat here lol ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by CooCHie on Jan 11th, 2006, 5:39pm on 01/11/06 at 10:41:56, earthlingorgeous wrote:
Just trying to depend the objections of some of the strong words you used in the opening statement Earth. DOn't take this as being judgemental to the whole topic of your article. I am not judging your topic about online relationship but merily pointing out the information you gather about people who goes online are merely losers. I am just disagreeing to that point. You are losing the whole scenario if you think it that way. My assumption is since you are writing it in a health magazine, i assume that people who goes online are merely losers? This is my point if i am a reader to that article. It is not what you wrote but how you perceive what you gather that troubles me it just contradicts to what you are saying in the article about online relationship is as healthy(bec to me your relationship with Jeff is a normal way) as a normal but yet untrusthworthy because of lunatics(your contradicting to what you gather about other's view)? ..there are lunatics online based on your perceptions.? that is what im trying to elaborate here. I perceive the opening if I read it, you did not write this but its my perception and understanding when i read the opening i see it as if you are saying it is healthy to have a relationship online but yet you dont trust fully about online relationship so it is not heathy?. i could be wrong. ;D ;D ;DAnd smile..you did a wonderful job. This is a very taffy topic. and again i dont have to read the whole text im just refering to the words you used in the opening statement and the factual statements. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by okasantina on Jan 11th, 2006, 6:27pm on 01/11/06 at 10:41:56, earthlingorgeous wrote:
Writing an article about it has a lot of formats and need to follow some simple instructions or guidelines ...the first paragraph has its own way to enthusiast the readers ... and it becomes very effective. Just for example like just makin a paragraph...before u drill unto the real topic u need to ask some questions...and emphasize on the matter that is strong and debatable...in some ways ppl will take it as a serious topic or should i say sensitive part of it... In that way ppl will ask ... what!? how!? where!? and why?! thats the initial reaction...then while ure in the middle of it...u begin to understand whats the article she is trying to emphasize ...meaning of what she is really intending to write. Its good that its somehow debatable as what as happenin now...yet its healthy. Why? because its working.. the article she is doing yet only at the first part is really effective...what more if u read the middle of it. ;) ;D Yes! perceptions, opinions, reactions are all taken and understood. And thats the job to be an efficient writer. ;) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 12th, 2006, 2:49am I always thought it's funny when people who are on the same side of the coin argue with each other! It's like the other one is saying "I am right!! [smiley=smash.gif] then the other will say.."You are NOT wrong!! [smiley=rock.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by mercedeezman on Jan 12th, 2006, 4:37am just so anyone reading this knows, the love i found online is 28 today ;D HAPPY BDAY BABYDOLL [smiley=iloveyou.gif] [smiley=iloveyou.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 12th, 2006, 7:50am on 01/11/06 at 17:39:04, CooCHie wrote:
There you already said it... you don't have to read the whole text and just based your perception/judgment on the opening statement. I'm smilling ;D Just read the article and if you won't its cool ;) I have an argument to debunk so I have to start with the argument before I defend it. on 01/11/06 at 18:27:24, okasantina wrote:
I agree. on 01/12/06 at 02:49:22, Wicked_Witch wrote:
Hahahahahaha Witchy ;D Yeah it feels like having a cat fight with my sister when I was in grade school ;D [smiley=rock.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Justine on Jan 13th, 2006, 1:21am Happy birthday, gorgeous :-* So, when do we get to read the article ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by CooCHie on Jan 13th, 2006, 7:39am on 01/12/06 at 07:50:34, earthlingorgeous wrote:
Get this Earth. I am not commenting on your article about fallin in love...if you notice, it is about Why people go online that is im referring too. I am trouble with that factual information that you gather. This is not about your article regarding your love life on line. THis is about the whole concept of ppl who goes online. DO YOU GET IT? Again, that is why I do not have to read the whole article of yours because this comment does not concern about your article on your love life. THis is about the conception of you regarding people who goes online. And because of that conception, if i read the openning of your article, it gives me an idea that people online are lunatics and cannot be trusted. And thus it kinda conflicts your perception on fallin inlove. This might come to play later that you might soften up and you finally trusted someone like Jeff. How your trust to this people soften. I dont know. But based on your response, you are thinking that I am commenting and making judgement on your article about fallin in love. If you are thinking just one topic..you might understand where I am coming from. DO NOT TAKE THIS COMMENT AS I AM COMMENTING TO YOUR TOPIC FALLIN IN LOVE ONLINE. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 13th, 2006, 10:49am on 01/13/06 at 07:39:06, CooCHie wrote:
NOW GET THIS TOO COOCH! I am reacting so violently because of the way you involved and keep on mentioning my personal experience (that you don't know the whole picture is all about, you have no right!) ....you have judge and there already and there you go again. YOU ARE NOT COMMENTING ON MY ARTICLE ...you are making a comment on my personal experience as you say there is a CONTRADICTION there! Now, this will be the last time I will talk about it. MY GOOD LIFE IS MY REVENGE! Thank you and God Bless! ;D To everyone I might have offended on this... accept my appologies! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by CooCHie on Jan 13th, 2006, 3:04pm on 01/12/06 at 07:50:34, earthlingorgeous wrote:
I wont stop talking about it until you get my point Earth! Now you're putting something about your personal experience. I am not involving again on your personal experience. Listen and read carefully. My comment on the part where you mention about people who are LUNATICS. FACTUAL INFORMATION>>>>based on what you reference here in the forum what you gather and used about people who goes online.!!!!!!!NOT YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE!!!!!IF YOU JUST FOCUS ON THAT TOPIC I think you are confusing yourself if you focus my comment towards your online relationship. It is a broad comment for instance, im reacting to the part for example that if someone tell me I am ugly."the world ugly" that is a pretty harsh word right? The way you used it when you are saying about lunatics, that is a very strong word to used in the opening statement. It is my OWN opinion only and others might have different opinion. I am EXPRESSING MY OWN OPINION . As Krissy said, people react to some words as you react to my comment. Understanding what we are trying to say is the key to end a debate however, if we are disagreeing and your point still not coming across, you still have to prove your point. And your point to this matter, you keep saying about the article why dont you post the whole article AND THEN COMMENT ON WHAT I JUST BEEN TRYING TO POINT TO YOU ABOUT PEOPLE WHO GOES ONLINE!! This is not an attacked to your personal experience on your online relationship. Again and I repeat again...this is NOT ABOUT your online relationship. This is about why people goes on line. If i take that reasoning....again this is my personal view, it will discourage me to be trusting to people who goes online because of that single phrase you used in your article about lunatics and crazy people. This is not a comment it is merely expressing my views to that particular phrase of people who goes online. [smiley=icon_drink.gif] [smiley=icon_drink.gif] [smiley=icon_drink.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 14th, 2006, 9:56am ::) Then don't stop if you like ;D But I would ;) As promised to everyone, I'll post the article when its off the press! Thank you and good day! Now back to regular programing ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 16th, 2006, 10:16am Picture the witch here scratching her head..or whistling in the air. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Jan 17th, 2006, 12:29pm ;D witchy... picture earthy dancing the humps while singing it too ;D and then jeff doing his hilarious impersonation of a chinese male ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by MissFartyPants on Feb 3rd, 2006, 2:54pm Uh oh! Am I too late? Are you done writing your article Mercedes? Sorry I didnt have time to read this thread before. I wanted to answer the questions you posted on the first page but I'm guessing it's too late :'( |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by MissFartyPants on Feb 3rd, 2006, 2:57pm Ha! I am SO late indeed. Oh well. ;D When is your article going to be published? I know I am repeating questions that have been asked a million times already. Oh well. ;D (Yeah yeah I'm sounding like a broken record). Oh well. ;D ;D I'll shuddup now. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by mixin4livin on Feb 6th, 2006, 3:13am on 02/03/06 at 14:57:51, MissFartyPants wrote:
Hmmm I can make use of broken records ;D Anyway think this thread is for alchoholics... me need a vodka to read all lol me never found love online, But I did find someone to love [smiley=idea2.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 6th, 2006, 10:10am on 02/03/06 at 14:54:34, MissFartyPants wrote:
That's right, Cathy? Where were you when we needed you, ha? [smiley=spank.gif] [smiley=spank.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]Well, your guess is as good as mine as to when it's going to be out in the market. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by MissFartyPants on Feb 8th, 2006, 10:41am on 02/06/06 at 10:10:20, Wicked_Witch wrote:
Awww too busy with work. By the way, I just got promoted! Yay! Now I can have babies! Ha! I wish! I was SO occupied with work stuff, plus when I'm online I am chatting with my lovey dovey (insert dreamy mode here) ;D The promotion comes with my own studio-type apartment. As soon as I get hooked up at this new place, I'll have more time to play - I mean post here. P.S: Edith, I like the pic you have now. It does you justice than the one you had before. If you don't mind me saying. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by MissFartyPants on Feb 8th, 2006, 10:43am on 02/06/06 at 03:13:19, mixin4livin wrote:
Ha! You should talk! You sound like a broken record yourself. :P Yes we are all alcoholics. Intoxicated by LOVE. ;D Ha! I'm starting to sound like a looney. Oh well, shoot me! :P |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Feb 11th, 2006, 9:31am Cathy ;D Edith :-* I scouted bookstores few days ago, did it for 3 consecutive days but it boggles me why the February issue hasn't come out yet. I will check again next week to see and ask them what's wrong. Thank you for your patience all :-* |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 15th, 2006, 4:09am on 02/08/06 at 10:41:34, MissFartyPants wrote:
Awww...I'm happy that your life is going great for you, Cathy/ Way to go, girl!! But don't forget we need you to post more here. Incidentally, one of our close friend from AC1 is there in Dubai now also. Maybe you and RJ and Roma can arrange a meeting. Dubai is not so big, right? ;)And thank you for the comment about my new pic. That was taken by Justine's son while playing with his Mom's camera. I'd say he has yet the makings of a professional photograper if you like my pic and he's how old, sistah...7? ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by MissFartyPants on Feb 21st, 2006, 9:50pm on 02/15/06 at 04:09:35, Wicked_Witch wrote:
Hiya Edith. Thank you! :-* Who is this close friend of yours that is here in Dubai? Call me a snob but ask RJ, I'm not too keen on meeting. Makes me feeling like attending a reunion. LOL. Come to think of it, I have never been on one either. hehehe. I'm too shy I guess and lazy too. ;D Plus, I am still a stranger to this land. Sowwwwy :( |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 22nd, 2006, 4:38am Her name is Roma and she just got there about 2 weeks ago. She's one of our close friends here in the Philippines and she chats at AC1. I heard RJ is helping her find a job. That's ok though. I just mentioned it coz I thought u just don't want to meet with RJ alone. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by MissFartyPants on Mar 4th, 2006, 11:32pm Whatever happened to the article, Mercedes? We're so anxious to read it. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Mar 24th, 2006, 5:22pm Hello everyone ;D Sorry for the long silence, been busy juggling my time with my so many roles. lol! Anyway, the magazine had been out 1st week of February but it was sold out the first few weeks so when I checked out then it wasn't on the stalls. I have a copy here with me February 2006. vol.9. no.3 Healthnews (your guide to a better living) Sex and the City (year four) you'll find the article on Finding Love Online on page 54, covers 6 pages. Thank you have great day! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 26th, 2006, 10:42am Could you publish an uncut portion of the said article, Earthy? We are curious and since you said there are no more copies available, the least you can do is furnish us with the details. And welcome back! :-* |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by ClumsilyIdiotic on Apr 13th, 2006, 2:06pm on 03/26/06 at 10:42:31, Wicked_Witch wrote:
I second the motion. It's only natural for us to be curious as to how the aritcle turned out since you got us all excited. Please do share as we are interested. Can you not scan and post the article here? |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by blossom on Apr 15th, 2006, 5:41am yeah what happen to that article ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by mercedeezman on Apr 15th, 2006, 9:20pm i've seen the magazine and the article too, she held it in front of her cam for me, so it exists yup earth's new job has taken most fo her internet time from her, and me, and all of us who enjoy her blog, but she said she will scan it and post it when she's able nite shift sux u know :-/ |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by Wicked_Witch on Apr 17th, 2006, 1:24pm Awww, Jeff....ever the loyal half. :-* Don't get us wrong, we are sure it was published, we just want to see how it turned out as Cathy said. Maybe a few of my lines were credited. ;D So I really want to see it. :P |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by nOrKAy on Apr 22nd, 2006, 6:00am I've been searching the article for a long time, both online and from books' and magazines' stores since it was said it would be available here in Hong Kong and would be published online, and also, I wanted to give ReeBop a copy as I have promised before. But I think I cannot have the chance to see it. Still looking forward though, and maybe the only chance, is that if it will be shown here, in the forum. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by ClumsilyIdiotic on Apr 22nd, 2006, 11:53am Yep, what Edith said. ;D We are curious to see if we have been quoted or something ;D I doubt if I was though, coz I didn't get to answer the questions she posted here :( We're so anxious to see how it turned out. Has anyone checked if it's available on your local libraries? Yeah, I'm desperate for that article. ;D |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:10pm Hello all Here is what I owe you my story. This is the uncut version but the sidebar wasn't published anymore because its too long. Yeah sorry to disappoint all of you for its non-availability in stores. It's kinda weird but nice to know that that issue was sold out and I got the last copy from the advertising department. PHEW! Oh yeah some have been quoted on the sidebar but not all was able to get in the main story sorry not enough space! But here it is. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:13pm Falling In love On line By: MERCEDES E. RULLAN Just like in physical, up-close-and-personal relationships, the most important thing to remember in on line relationships is committedness -- the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose, of binding yourself intellectually and emotionally. Most non-chatters more often than not, see people in an on line/long distance relationship as desperate people with low self-esteem. They see them as people who fear mingling with “real” people and are confined to another world than the “real” world. More often than not they are defined as schizophrenic by the skeptics. In general though, I learned, through talks with friends from the group section of www.1freeword.net, an on line community of chatters with 343 members all over the world, most chatters joined the on line world after being frustrated and tired of the “real” world they live in. Somehow at a point in their life were lost and lonely and are recuperating from a previous heart ache. For them the Internet was a great way to occupy them instead of wallowing with their sorrows. Dating game Trust me on this, the chat/ on line world is not as different as the physical world. Picture this: A bar in the Malate, Manila area, on a Friday night, crowded with single or not so single men and women all out to paint the town red. If cupids arrow find its way to them maybe meet someone that will sweep them off their feet. The set-up in the chat world is just quite the same. A certain individual comes in a chat room, mingle, meet new friends and possibly fall in love. However, unlike in a bar, the chat room (room in chat term) has very much less intimidation than in up-close-and-person bar scene. Here, everyone can greet everybody freely, introduce himself, laugh, be silly and emphasize more of his or her fun side than he/she truly is in person. But sometimes there are chatters who would rather express their angst or naughty side in the net. Like in person, there is a courtship stage. Girl and boy meets, talk and if they had fun chatting maybe talk in another day. The good thing in the net is that if you don’t dig a guy or a girl you can dismiss them immediately without feeling the guilt like in person. If a guy or a girl is persistent then you can just click the ignore button and he/she is gone in your chat world forever. It happened to me I went into a chat room one day to check-out what the fuss is about. I admit during that time I wasn't looking for love, heck no, I was just a bored girl finding something to kill time (occupy myself). I'm not even looking to steal a man's heart at all, nope, just testing the waters. Dipping my toes in the pool doesn't mean I want to swim. But well sometimes the water just hauls you in. The first few days of chat I was in and out of several rooms. I didn't know then that there are hundreds of rooms you can join into. With that ignorance I was in and out of a new room everyday talking to hundreds of different people from different walks of life in every part of the world. I was enjoying “meeting” people all-over- the world literally making the world a smaller place. In a few days, my friends’ list number grew to hundreds. I met men and women from the different parts of the world, Canada, United Kingdom, Netherlands, Iraq, India, Indonesia, Thailand, United States, Africa, Australia name a country I may know someone from there. Most of the men and women, I talked with are single and looking, some are divorced, separated, single parents, widows. Just a reminder though for those who want to chat and find a potential partner for life, beware there are lots of fake people on line. By fake or usually called bogus by chatters means that they are not really who they said they are.. They live in a world of illusion. They claim a different personality than they really are. They can say they are single but not really, rich, famous, and yes they can claim better looks too. Like in person, finding love on line is a big gamble. There's always a chance that you’ll get a heart break because you met an insincere person. Most of the chatters I talked with had once experience a failed relationship on line. Most chatted for not less than three to five (3-5) years. (continuation on next page ) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:15pm (page 2) In my own definition, love does not just involve the physical or personal contact. Loving someone involves the heart and the mind most importantly. Since love is not just the physical it’s never impossible for love on line to flourish. Before it has happened to me, I was not a believer in on line relationships. You can call me one of those skeptics. For me, long distance relationships, more so on line relationships never succeeds. At one point I too have had the same questions going inside everyone's head right now when I announced I am getting married to a man I met through chat. “Are you out of your mind? What’s wrong with you?” (Nothings wrong with me, thank you, I am just another woman in love I should say and yes it’s a song!). A woman with blind faith when it comes to the matters of the heart. “What if there's no physical chemistry when you meet the guy in person? What if he's a serial killer? What if he's a wife beater? What if he's a rapist? What if he's not who you think he is in person and just pretending? What if this, what if that, what if the **** ?” And all those out-of-this world question you can ever think of which are based on theories and horrifying stories that went around. To some, they assume that I am just romanticizing too much the romance I have with my soon-to-be-husband. Maybe true, but I love the feeling I have right now and having him in my life now is the best moments I treasure forever. Jeff and I met in one of the rooms, Asian Connection 3. He said he got the urge to send me a private message (PM) because of my intriguing ID; earthlingorgeous. Unlike any male chatter I talked with, he exceeded my expectation; he was different from the rest. How is he different? With barely a week of chat I had dozens of men telling me they love me, I had dozens of marriage proposals and dozens who mooned me too (yuck!). He did not do anything close to that, he was just a simple guy meeting people from another country, learning culture and having fun. My first impression about him was he was funny and witty and never rude or nasty. Although I must admit his look was one factor that made me stick to him. I love the way he smile, so sincere and sweet. Maybe you can call it love at first byte. (hahahaha!) I saw him through the web cam, almost real, almost! Jeff and I talked “regularly” since then. We told each other that “we” became a habit already. I told him that I was very fond talking with him and he said he was to me too. We agreed that somethings missing on a day without a chat with each other. We talked about a lot of things, anything under the sun you can think of. We threw questions at each other, and definitely learned from the answers. Then one day, I just posted in my status after we talked “I think I'm in love”. I wasn't expecting for him to read that because he was supposedly to go to sleep already (but just went on invisible mode). He was surprised and assumed I was talking about him and well he was right. He said he didn't want to tell me that he was having feelings for me because I always complain about men saying I love you in just 10 seconds. After that he requested and filled out the “Mercedes' Boyfriend Application” which I accepted. He haven't seen me on cam during that time. It took us two months of regularly talking to each other before I finally send cam with him. I cant forget that day, or the _expression on his face and the words he said “God your lovely” and almost fell on the chair he was seated. I was in Baguio that time for a seminar for Justice Journalists. (continuation on next page) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:16pm (page 3) Not a stroll in the park I haven't thought of the consequences of on line relationships when I accepted him as my boyfriend. I thought it would be a piece of cake but I was wrong its hard work. Jeff and most of those I interviewed for this article (like Edith, Graeme, Mark, Marley, Tina, Levy, Justine and the rest of the gang too many to mention) said, those who dared falling in love on line must have strong trust for other people. With the net world flooding with different types of people one should be alert for fakes and insincere person. Marley, Graeme, Chantiq, Justine, Marilou are just some who had experienced a broken heart from a failed relationship on line. Time difference and the distance are the two of the most frustrating part of on line relationships. Jeff is from Canada and we share a 12 hour difference. Committedness, open communication, honesty and trust are just a few virtue people involved in on line relationships must have. My fiancé and I managed to bridge the gap of time and distance by scheduling our chat before he goes to sleep and before he leaves for work that is before I go to work and after work for me. Imagine the 10,000 miles away from each other, we are practically living at the other side of the planet. We often joked about someone to invent the “teleporter” so anytime we wish to hold hands or kiss, we can. Falling involve with someone you met on line is just like marrying a computer. Since we both lived in different time zones, I became anxious at some point about what he's doing when I'm asleep or when I'm away. Jealousy seeps in sometimes when I think about the hundreds of pretty girls on the Internet (I know a lot) and temptation is just at the click of the mouse so to speak. Rumors also spread like wildfire in the chat world mostly peddled around by some envious chatter for those who are happy. We had ugly fights almost leading to break-up too because of my jealousy that were fed by rumors. However, since we are far apart, we tried to be level headed or he did, I was the one getting jealous more often. We make it a point to resolve the issue immediately .The urge to fix the problem right away makes us inseparable I guess because we don’t believe the words of the other people in chat until we hear it from each other. We trust, believe and have faith in each other because we never want to drift apart. Therefore we survived? Love struck? Hahahahaha! We also made an effort to involve each other with our daily life. He had introduced me to all the important persons in his life like his family and friends. He convinced them to talk to me on line practically dragging them off their feet to face the computer monitor and waved at the cam and flashed a smile for me. He did that to his friends, his sons, sister, nephews, her sisters son, workmates just so I could “meet” them. He was also involved in my life. He could see where I work, who I work with and I had dragged my sister and daughter to a net cafe just for them to meet him too. He even became a part of the office I was working with during that time as as the day begins and end with him on my computer screen. My boss allowed me to have a cam in the office so he saw what was happening in the office every single day.(continuation on next page) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:17pm (page 4) It works Jeff and I are going two years and in April we will tie-the-knot. The space is limited so I can't get into all the nitty-gritty of the hardships and triumphs we've been through that had bonded us more together. I must stress though that were not just the one with a happy story to tell . Some friends from the 1freeworld.net community like Iggy Costa (from US) and Casy (from Thailand) are together now and have a baby girl. Andrew (from UK ) and Myrna (from Philippines) wed after four months and now live together in England. Nathy (from Indonesia) and her fiancé from US will get married this year too. Peter (from Netherlands) and his Filipina wife, Tim (from US) and his Filipina wife live here in the Philippines and put up some business here. Josie a Filipina and former reporter from ABS-CBN is married with Neil and live in Canada. Angelo (an American) and Annalee a Filipina-American are married and living happily together in US. There are some unsuccessful stories, true, but just a thought to ponder; if it doesn't work then why Internet cafe's are mushrooming around the country. If the pen-pal in the 60’s worked why not chat when it has all the technology of making someone almost there in a room with you because of the web cameras, microphone and speakers. Chat is much better than pen-pal or text mates (which is an in thing too these days) I think all you need is an Internet connection and your good to go. To keep the connection going you also need loads of phone cards, commitment, trust, honestly, and faith. Of course don't forget to set a date of your personal meeting, if you are that serious in making it for real and not just for reel. (END OF MAIN STORY THAT WAS PUBLISHED IN THE MAGAZINE) FOR SIDEBAR What do you think about falling in love on line? This is what the regular chatters from www.1freeworld.net thinks. Ms Farty Pants: Been there done done that. Just my two cents. I cant explain how I allowed myself to fall in love over the net. While it does sound unbelievably stupid to some, until you're in that person's shoes-- you will truly never understand and I am very sensitive about this matter. I suppose it was cowardice on my part. Reality scares me. I have found my on line relationships more fulfilling than real ones. Go figure. I seem to have found the freedom to express my feelings more openly on the net than in person I have always been shy and I mask it by being a snob. Or so I think. You can go deeper into each other's personalities. Subconsciously acting your inhibitions out. For me, falling in love over the net especially when a real life relationship comes out of it is by far greater than "real" ones. Why? Because it defies explanation. It defies tradition, it simply break all the "rules". Love can not be confined. Period. And it shouldn't be. Most of the old regs here has an idea of where I'm coming from as far as on line relationship goes. I did fall madly in love with this guy I have never even met. I do not feel a tinge of embarrassment admitting we have lost touch. But the memory of what we've had has kept me going -- to this day. Pathetic as it sounds. Everything about it was/is beautiful. Donutz Girl: I met my ex-boyfriend on line. How it happened? We talk periodically, became friends, good friends, then we find the 'link' on our conversations. It's then that we both open our hearts and our life without trying to hide anything. We shared the good and the bad times. Until we realize we are falling in love for each other. Then we decided to meet in person and he was just exactly like when we talk over the net, nothing changed, even better! But since it's not working at the end, I banned myself for falling in love before meeting the guy. Looks is not everything too. In on line relationship we need very high trust, because you see them everyday on the cam and you cant hide anything especially when you meet in person. Some quirks and mannerism can only be discovered once you meet. (continuation on next page) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:19pm (page 5) Levy: I met my ex-husband on line and I can say that we really love each other until the time that we can say separation is the best thing to do for both of us, not because of anything else but because of differences in our outlook and values in life. Even though it didn't work out well in the end, i still don't regret falling in love to a guy I met on line. Based on my experience, people do tend to fall in love on line because of the connection both feel for each other. Minds communicate at a level where both understand each other. This is the mental and emotional attraction and once the interests with each other is established, the emotional connection develops and then so on and so on. The physical aspect in the on line relationship comes the least but as we all know, physical compatibility (comfortable with each other) plays an important part as well. It's just a matter of how well the communication is done that decides for how long the relationship will last. Chantiq: Hats off to those who are in an on line relationship. I guess people who are involved in one, double the efforts of expressing their feelings 'coz you make up for the distance. Keeping the love flowing through the monitor hehehe... Somebody: The Internet is anonymous so it's very easy for people to open up to each other and reveal things they wouldn't normally in person. This is why its so easy for people to build bonds on line. I also see that people tend to fall in love with the person they believe in. You can only know a person through what he/she tells you and it's usually positive things. Behind the curtains, there is an ugly side to everybody. Justine: While I admire people like Jeff and Earth and others who have been maintaining their on line relationships, I would have to agree with Somebody too. In addition, sometimes it's the idea of being in love that excites one, not necessarily the person. Kimmy: You need lots of phone cards.But making an on line relationship works is really very hard. I've tried it and it didn't work, so now im sticking to "strictly friends" on the net. If he wants me then he should get a plane ticket and go here in the Philippines I'm not saying that it wont happen again. One example is joey n casy.. they ended up together.All I'm saying is that it is so hard to make it work and it it so hard to find someone that will be strong enough to go through all the complications of an on line relationship. As for me, I'd prefer a man to come over here and stay with me here in my country rather than me leaving everything I have here to be with him because I won't leave my family and my work. Tarantada: I'm not actually looking for true love anywhere coz i'm tired of looking. If he comes then let it be but it really puzzles me how an on line relationship works. I know that it can work because I have so many married friends who met their partners on the net. Maybe all it needs is lots of patience and lots of call cards. Kimmy: You can find true love in the most unlikely place you could ever imagine. But i don't think that you can have a relationship if its "just" on the net. You can start here but you'd have to spend time together in person before you can say its true love. Yes it could happen and it has happened but making an online relationship work is harder than the real thing, how can you be sure that your lover is telling you the truth.... lets face it... The net is the perfect way to create so many different lies. He/she could tell you so many things that he just made up. My advice would be to not in love with someone you haven't been with in real life. Typing "I love you" in PM it so easy to do. But telling someone face to face that same thing is not that easy you can look in her/his eyes and know if he/she is telling the truth. Get time to know each other then have sex. nyak nyak nyak Gracia: They said true love comes in the most unexpected places. Out of a hundred there might be 5 or less though more failures happen than success. One has to risk to find out if its true love or not or one will never know. Things happen in the net because people let it happen and because people want it happen. The world is full of temptations and net is not exempted. So, it's either they tighten the belt or have it loose...the risk is up to them. Those who fall in love on line...there's a corresponding risk to that...people can fall in love anywhere, they have reasons..or they just let it happen. Badfurball: It is possible - I have heard from friends whom have had on line relationships and then married. I am dating a beautiful young lady from on line right now...anyone care to guess who that would be? (continued on next page) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:21pm (page 6) Mylane: The Internet has taken the place of the church, a club or school in as far as meeting people is concerned. While I'm not saying we don't get to meet interesting people outside the net anymore, what I'm also saying is that the use of the net has become so widespread that almost everyone is in the net - for work, school and play...meeting people through this venue has just become a given. We've made many good friends on the net -- that is something we should be proud of. what i don't get is how come some people would give a negative tone to the fact that two people met on the net -- giving it a sleazy, sometimes sinister air. Maybe this is why people are hesitant to date someone the "just met on the net" Whyanime: Well depends on how you two get along and your personalities (if they mesh well). I met my boyfriend (Westrx7 or Badazz_Buklao) on line, we did the long distance thing for awhile, and the phone bill whew (every month it was close to $200)...thank goodness that is over with...we're now living together and loving it...and have future plans together. I think that about 1 out of every 100 Internet relationship works. It takes commitment, trust, and knowing that sooner or later one or the either will have to move. Okasantina: True love can happen yes. Why not? It can happen anywhere so why not here in net right? Its much better now than b4 cause we can use the chatting, email, cams and everything just to be with someone unlike b4 only mails in post but there are some couple that their relationship clicked so theres no impossible to it. As long as there is love, trust, honesty and faithfulness and that intimacy and passion to one another....and Communication as well....and Patience! The beast: Its hard but it happens. But I wonder what the percentage of it working is? I bet its low for every success i bet u have 100 not so successful kinda deal. What i don't understand is all of the single attractive and nice ladies over in Philippines. There must be a higher ratio of females to males over there. On line relationships would be hard for me because I don't want to lie about stuff and make promises I could never keep. Windardium Leviosa: Well Joel )the beast) it's like this: there isn't any male shortage here in the Philippines and Filipino men are nice and good lovers as well (and the sweetest too I may add) .I can't even picture myself growing old with a Filipino man. It isn't like Filipinas don't like Filipino men or that they find something wrong in them that they have to resort in having on line relationships with someone so far away, with a different race and culture and stuffs. I think it's just that sometimes you can't command your heart to choose who to like and who to love.... it just happens.... no matter how hard you try not to feel it.... on line or wherever... but your right though... on line relationships are hard... but then again to some it worked.... well I guess everything happens for a reason,..if it's meant to happen then it's going to happen...if it's not then it's not... Killerwabbit: Realistically,hard to say, there are some success stories yes. But how do they stack up to the unsuccessful ones? Long distances require sacrifice. Well hell any relationship requires it but I think long distan relationships are more demanding. And stressful. And it all ends in bitterness.One of the two has to give up something to make the one of the two.Date locals,better for you. (continuation on next page) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:22pm (page 7) Wicked Witch: It's really hard falling for someone on the net. But given the chance it might work. Especially if both parties has invested a lot.emotionally, that is, and is willing to invest even more of whatever is needed. All it need is the willingness of both parties to make it work I mean there has to be no lies between them and has great affection for each other and a lot of patience and understanding. Communication plays an important rule of course. But let's face it, one of the reason some fails is that there are lots of temptations here on the net. I mean you meet someone else, get to talk to him, get to like what he says, and before u knew it, you are already falling for the other person. And this goes for the men, too. Anyway, actual or on the net, there is no guarantee that anything will last long as in living happily ever after. I would rather leave it to fate and destiny, coz i believe in it. Personally, I'd say loneliness contributes a lot to why people fall in love on the net. First they meet people they find interesting. Then they get to talk a lot, getting to know each other on a more personal level. And it's easy here on the net specially to those who do not really care much about spending time outside their homes. They get to focus on that one person only. And then they find out that he/she is someone they care to spend a lot of time with. That they both like what each other says in their conversations. And before they knew what is happening, they have grown very attach to this person already. Krissy: I don't think long distant love affair is demanding. I would rather see close or personal love affair as like that since you are both seeing each other and that, more responsibilities have to be given and taken from each other. Having love affair with people on line isn't always a smooth sailing experience. I met another guy off of the Internet who looked incredibly beautiful in his photos and on web cam, but in person he was nerdy and not attractive to me at all. He was totally different from what I expected in too many ways for me to be able to accept him. In conclusion, I think that on line dating should be something that should not be given too much expectations. If you talk to somebody on line for years who say, lives in another country or even just by neighborhood, you have a 50/50 chance of actually enjoying their company in person. My ex-boyfriend and I found that in person, we were both a lot different from what we expected each other to be like. Fortunately, we liked each other's company in person even more than on line. There was only one thing and the biggest thing we differed ,our plan. He wanted "it" to happen like now,when I was never ready or didn't even have the thought of getting into "it" at that point and that I was the one who gave up on him, thinking that he wanted it right at that moment (or within that year to marry me) ,how much more can he wait for more or many years? I was 25 when we met. Some play,some lie,some cheat. Iggy Costa All I know is it worked for Casy and me. It takes more time and effort, both parties have to be open and ready for it. Communication on an everyday level and honesty. Remember love is a growing thing. Don't toss in your hat before your sure. Nelson: Internet romance is good but as many have typed its about commitment and honesty and yes the comment made don't jump into deep until you are sure. When you are sure go for it full steam ahead yes good luck to Casy and Iggyfull_costa I wish them the best with there new baby soon and Jeff and Earthy be good and have a good relationship. Internet relationship has to be both committed and saying to the one you love that you actually love them not making them wait. Well I guess its the freedom of chat and your able to express yourself freely and to talk about anything and not get embarrassed, but I have met many nice people here and I have met that special girl. (END) |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by thebeast on Aug 1st, 2006, 6:52pm Earth...that was real good. Anyway I am glad everything worked out for the both of you. Basically what you wrote about online relationships is really no different than real relationships. Maybe the percentage isnt as good but who cares as long as it works for some. I have been lucky enough to have a few of these relationships online and even though the didnt work out..I still feel like I made friends with them. Just because the relationship doesnt work out doesnt necessarily mean it is a failure. Anyway I enjoyed your article and wish good luck to you and everyone else who has made this online thing work out. |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by okasantina on Aug 1st, 2006, 7:47pm That is soo inspiring Earthling bebe....wish we could have a copy but unfortunately eh ::) anyway...thanks for sharing it to us...wish u and merceecez will click away... :) :-* goodluck to both of you...muah! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by earthlingorgeous on Aug 7th, 2006, 1:02pm Hello Joel and Tinasan thanks for the nice comment! |
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Title: Re: I'm publishing an article on Finding Love Onli Post by okasantina on Aug 7th, 2006, 5:34pm on 08/07/06 at 13:02:59, earthlingorgeous wrote:
Your always welcome earthling bebe :-* |
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