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(Message started by: bad_day_me on Feb 7th, 2007, 4:13pm)
Title: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by bad_day_me on Feb 7th, 2007, 4:13pm


Some individuals feel uncertain about the value of romantic love because they confuse the genuine article with that frothy substitute known as temporary infatuation.

Some try to suppress all thought of romantic love because they are not experiencing it. Some rationalize, "I don't have it; it must not exist." Others think, "It's not possible in my marriage."

In spite of all this, just about everyone inwardly longs for a thrilling relationship involving oneness, a deep intimacy with another person, joy and optimism, spice and excitement, and that wonderful, euphoric, almost indescribable sensation known as "being in love." Some people say they are "on cloud nine." They mean that they feel energized, motivated, confident to conquer because they know they are loved by their beloved. There is a sense of awe in feeling chosen for this blessed state. With it goes a thrill of anticipation in being together. Most important, a fresh sense of purpose sweetens life because the two have found each other and have, as the expression goes, "fallen in love."

This is not overstating the case. As  I experienced, I have seen that the emotions of romantic love give people a new outlook on life and a sense of well-being. Romantic love is good medicine for fears and anxieties and a low self-image. Psychologists point out that real romantic love has an organizing and constructive effect on personalities. It brings out the best in us, giving us the will to improve ourselves and to reach for a greater maturity and responsibility. This love enables us to begin to function at our highest level.

Quite honestly, if you are not in love with your marriage partner in this way, you are missing something wonderful, no matter how sincere your commitment to that person may be. Even contentment can be dull and drab in comparison with the joy God planned for you with your marriage partner.

...The relationship you would like to have can happen, but not by accident


I just want to know your opinion about this.... [smiley=icon_thanks.gif]
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by bad_day_me on Feb 8th, 2007, 6:51am
...The relationship you would like to have can happen, but not by accident


mine happen accidentally and end up intentionally... ;D

                                              [smiley=thinking2.gif]
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 16th, 2007, 8:00am
It has its ups and downs. There is no such thing as perfect couple so no perfect marriage, and no perfect love. It would be boring if a couple will have a perfect relationship, which is impossible to have in the first place. I do not seek for that. I just want mine to be in perfect harmony. When he's upset, I will try to be sober, and when I am, I expect him to be the one to give allowances. It's just a give and take, on both sides. Falling in love is not like a job that when you have done and shown your best, you will get promoted or be recognized. It comes naturally.
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by bad_day_me on Feb 22nd, 2007, 8:44am

on 02/16/07 at 08:00:32, Wicked_Witch wrote:
It has its ups and downs. There is no such thing as perfect couple so no perfect marriage, and no perfect love. It would be boring if a couple will have a perfect relationship, which is impossible to have in the first place. I do not seek for that. I just want mine to be in perfect harmony. When he's upset, I will try to be sober, and when I am, I expect him to be the one to give allowances. It's just a give and take, on both sides. Falling in love is not like a job that when you have done and shown your best, you will get promoted or be recognized. It comes naturally.


 ;) absolutely... right!!!
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by bad_day_me on Mar 8th, 2007, 2:01am
Dispassionate investigation of the traditional monogamous union confirms in the long run that it cannot be surpassed. When it "works", it really works. All the factors of stability, security, mutual support, love, personal fulfillment are the fabric of the ideal marriage. So what goes wrong? Why don't even half of all marriage unions last a lifetime? :(
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by bad_day_me on Mar 8th, 2007, 2:03am
If romance is the sole binding strand then the reasons for staying together appear invalid. Once blissful hours in one another's company become dull and intolerable. Cracks can no longer be paved over. And many couples seek to recover the romance in a soap-opera-style clandestine "affair". Indeed many marriage counsellors encourage such "therapy"! The result? Before long, more often than not, the agony and trauma of separation seems the only cure.
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 19th, 2007, 3:58pm

on 03/08/07 at 02:01:31, bad_day_me wrote:
Dispassionate investigation of the traditional monogamous union confirms in the long run that it cannot be surpassed. When it "works", it really works. All the factors of stability, security, mutual support, love, personal fulfillment are the fabric of the ideal marriage. So what goes wrong? Why don't even half of all marriage unions last a lifetime? :(


Simple, at this point in time everyone has become more daring in their dealings with life, both the husband and wife. Gone are those days when family place more values in their Faith and the teachings of the Bible. Most of the time we become selfishly unconcerned about the consequences of our unlawful actions to our partners in life. We are now more concerned about our self-satisfactions and happiness that we do not care anymore if we are ruining a good marriage or a good relationship, ours or theirs.
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by Gracia on Mar 20th, 2007, 4:59am
My marriage is going strong because we put God at the center of our relationship.  A family that prays together, stick together.  Unless we separate from God, our relationship or the marriage itself will surely fall.  We believe that God is the source of everything.  We are not financially stable, material security is so blurred, yet, we survived just fine and we are happy.  We are happy and contented because we love each other, we respect each others opinion, we are considerate on one's need, we value each other and when problems arise, we will not run from it nor seek help from other's company.  We will talk about the problem, pray for solutions and solve it within oursleves with God's gift of discernment.  Finding other people's company is often a tempation because we often go to the wrong company.  That happens to most couples who run from problems and went to bar instead of going to church.

Wherever you turn to, temptations is always there in all kinds, so we pray all the time that if ever we will be tempted, it will be to minor things not the major ones.  We pray for more solid foundation in our marriage, we pray that as parents we will be able to raise our children well and that we will be able to provide them their needs and more.  Just so much to pray for and thank for.


[About the thrill factor....it can be establish of course if the couple will just communicate.  Open communication is very important. You just have to be more creative.
Title: Re: ROMANTIC LOVE -- THE THRILL FACTOR
Post by bad_day_me on Mar 31st, 2007, 8:23pm

on 03/20/07 at 04:59:03, Gracia wrote:
My marriage is going strong because we put God at the center of our relationship.  A family that prays together, stick together.  Unless we separate from God, our relationship or the marriage itself will surely fall.  We believe that God is the source of everything.  We are not financially stable, material security is so blurred, yet, we survived just fine and we are happy.  We are happy and contented because we love each other, we respect each others opinion, we are considerate on one's need, we value each other and when problems arise, we will not run from it nor seek help from other's company.  We will talk about the problem, pray for solutions and solve it within oursleves with God's gift of discernment.  Finding other people's company is often a tempation because we often go to the wrong company.  That happens to most couples who run from problems and went to bar instead of going to church.

Wherever you turn to, temptations is always there in all kinds, so we pray all the time that if ever we will be tempted, it will be to minor things not the major ones.  We pray for more solid foundation in our marriage, we pray that as parents we will be able to raise our children well and that we will be able to provide them their needs and more.  Just so much to pray for and thank for.


[About the thrill factor....it can be establish of course if the couple will just communicate.  Open communication is very important. You just have to be more creative.


;) thats great ...thats what i really want to happen....


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