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(Message started by: Gracia on Jan 24^th, 2008, 3:48am)

Title: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 24^th, 2008, 3:48am

This has been a slow forum for quite sometime..so I thought this must be the best time to whine ...with very less people reading or say peeping? I'm kinda shy and I'm not that confident with the output of my writing...but what the heck! I'm just whining...who would have think of perfections with that state of mind!!!...well guys....you have to bear with me.....I'm as imperfect as anybody else.... but I'll stand corrected. [smiley=thump.gif] Be gentle though, I'm quite sensitive and emotional....I must admit I love to whack when whacked-out. [smiley=angel.gif] Kidding folks. ;)

May you all have fun as much as I'm trying so hard to generate some fun.....

God bless everyone, may God be with you in every endeavors you all taking.

Laterz [smiley=woot.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 24^th, 2008, 4:39am

Before going any further...let me tell you a bit of myself....I'm a mother of three children, my son Carlos is 8 years old, my daughter Andrea is 4 and my youngest Luigi, he is 8 months old. I have one husband named Greg. I'm lucky to have him you know...as of this writing that is...i can't speak of about what tomorrow entails ;) but I'm wishing and praying we can live through --- that is--- hope we can stand the test of time.

I'm [smiley=sleeping.gif], right I'm sleepy. My son Luigi is sick, he has asthma. We had nebulized him every four hours starts at 10 p.m. last night. We don't have nebulizer but a good friend of mine were so nice to offer her nebulizer to us. I think Luigi is prone to allergy. Carlos and Andrea were not like that before or we would have purchase a nebulizer for emergency use. We just don't know when ashtma attacks and from what I've heard from others...it usually attacks at night. This morning he's fine yet we can still see from his breathing that the asthma still there. Still, we went to work. I have a reliable sister who will look after him together with our house help. Complete with instructions and a bit of worries..we left for work. I left with them something when things come to worst...anyway..I'm just about 10 minutes away from home....I can be home as fast as I can...but I'm hoping we will not come to that. I called home an hour after I arrived office...from what my sister told me he's fine already....I pray to God hoping that he's into recovery now. I brought him to the doctor yesterday...so I don't think there's a need to bring him now....we should wait when the medicines do its wonders ---the healing process that is...

Carlos and Andrea proceed to school...they don't have classes...it's the opening day of their school affair ~~"Foundation Day"~~..they only have parade today....but the weather is not that good this morning ...there were light rain showers....well..the ball is still rolling....who knows Mr. Sunshine will come out when they're just about to start the parade.

Okay...that's all for now....I'm falling asleep with my own writing... [smiley=computer.gif] [smiley=spank.gif]

God bless everyone [smiley=hello.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 25^th, 2008, 2:41am

Life is beautiful to live with.....regardless!

It's a Friday here and tomorrow is no working day ..YEHEY!! ....our company came up with new scheme. We supposed to have a half day work every Saturday except when it falls on a holiday. When the year started, the new scheme has been applied. It will be an alternate whole day working Saturday. Tomorrow is no work but on the next Saturday, we gonna have a whole day work. hmmm......I don't know which is better though....they said it's a part of cost cutting scheme. Well, I hope they are right....

Luigi is getting better...thanks God! We had a good sleep last night. There's an on-going silent war with my two household helpers. Opps, I'm not rich...very far from it ....it's just a need to have two since my husband and I are both working. One will take charge in sending my two pupils to school and the other one will be left at home to take care of Luigi. I hired the second one around August of last year..Luigi was about 3 months then. It's not easy to find a good house help these days but I'm blessed to have good ones till my old house help got insecure and jealous. She's 4o something and the other is 18. To make the story short....Rose (the old one) refused to cooperate in taking care of Luigi and she's moody as hell. Ann (the young one) is a bit sensitive and used to friendly surroundings.... till one day..she got fed up of Rose behavior. She asked my permission to leave.........I did not actually said yes or no...I want them to reconcile and hopefully patch things up. I called both their attention and there...they've exchanged words that lead to heated argument. I asked them, will you ever reconcile? Ann answered, "maybe not anymore 'te" (short of Ate). I asked Rose, can you not act like an older sister and help Ann with things and Luigi? She....just....walked out on me and not say a single word. So that's it....I think I'll lose both of them soon. It's a one for all and all for one case for me...if Ann will go then Rose will go too. I'm not gonna retain one to avoid the same problem in the future. I have to take risk of hiring new ....and I hope I can find one soon. I like them both, I'm willing to recommend them to some of my good friends who are in need of a household help too...that is if they like the idea. But then, I hope I can keep Ann...she's good with kids...she doesn't have a big head...Rose is and full of pride. She's with us for about 5 years now...but in a way..I'm a little fed up too. She has this attitude of "I know all". I don't know what made her changed...she wasn't like this few years back....perhaps... I'm at fault too....I tolerated her.

sigh...and more ....sigh............sigh ..........sigh

Have a glorious day everyone....regardless!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 28^th, 2008, 10:52am

DILEMMA[b]

I can't entrust my children to Rose anymore, my household help. Out of the blue, her mood changed. She's smiling at everyone in the house.....trying to regain back the friendship with An-an. Here is An-an who got no mean bone in her body....befriended her again without question, but I have. I'm not convinced. Or I may be a little too hard but I have reasons to. If she's angry with anyone, she should not neglect her duties...instead she had neglected Luigi...and put my son on An-an's care for straight four days. I can't imagine An-an..... a bit too young to carry the loads...but she's good....probably God guided her because she's a good girl...no...not probably...God was and is with her. Rose is not honest with me too. She'll not tell me if something bad happen to my son...like when she cut Luigi's nail and a bit of his skin was cut too...when Luigi fell on the floor and she told An-an not to tell me. I got these information out from their heated arguments in front of me. I was shocked...but I did not say a word.. I have to think..... These are serious cases. I have all the reasons to fire her but .............i have no guts to say so. All I'm waiting is for An-an to give up...which I hope not. Rose can stay as long as An-an is there. I think I'm insane.

My mom confronted me about An-an about something...which was not good. Rose brainwashed her. My cousin said so after she heard the whole conversation and so was my sister. They don't like it one bit. I told my mother that we won't fight about them....it's not worth it. It's my house and my decision will be followed no matter what.

While I was recalling back the words that had been said....it came to my senses ..that things are getting worst. I don't think I'll ever allow her to ruin the friendship I have with my Mom. I have to let her go before things get out of hand. ::)

I will ask the Lord's guidance that hopefully I can do it rightly and gently. I don't want to hurt her.
[smiley=angel.gif]

[smiley=oops.gif]I'm blabbing.....geeze.....that's what I'm good at....blabbing with my mind....I don't know when I can put it in real.
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[b]God bless you all and have a beautiful day.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 29^th, 2008, 4:29am

I want to buy BRAVERY, COURAGE and GUT!!Don't know where..ohhh I know where....in God's prayer department store.

I have very little of it ...not enough to sustain a minor fight. Yeah, I fought perverts in the room....but not for long....it's kinda too draining for me. I think I'm not born to fight.

[smiley=thinking2.gif]It's something that I can't do alone....I think I'll have my husband join the fun....yeah...why I haven't thought of that. He was just quiet and supports my decision and listens to my whining. He'll come to my rescue anytime. Yeah, I'll do that.

Enough of that messy stuffs....let's try some good stuffs... ;D

Luigi is on his way to his full recovery...PRAISE GOD! Carlos and Andrea are in school today and well, I hope Carlos will behave. Carlos, I would say is a clown type...he loves to be in the group and loves to make them laugh. He got wit alright...but often gives teacher a headache. Who wants a noisy classroom??? Andrea, on the other hand, is a well-behaved child in school. She don't talk much in school but at home....it's her voice you'll be hearing non-stop. ;D Well, at least, she knows when to behave... ;D One thing I've noticed she's good in reasoning too and giving out solutions to what she thinks is a problem.

I still have to find out what Luigi's strengths soon....I'll be more observant....but one thing I've noticed...he's a Papa's boy. He laughs to his Papa every time he sees him .....he must have a funny face... :o but he must feel he's Papa is handsome too or else he'll stop staring at his face :o the face was clean..I've checked. [smiley=eyesanim.gif] ;D

It's good to praise the Lord all the time and thank Him always.

HAVE A BLESSED DAY EVERYONE

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 31^st, 2008, 3:45am

It cannot be help that in an office, it's just impossible to get along with everybody. In our office, it's a 500 sq meter plus area, kind of huge for 10 employees but then since this is an extension office located at the heart of the city, the bosses agreed on having two conference rooms, four sleeping rooms for drivers or anybody from plant site who wants some rest after the travel. By the way, the plant site is about one hour and half drive from the city office. Actually, our sister company rented the space and I'm merely an office tenant. There are three (3) companies in this office. However, regardless of our number we still can't get along. Common scenario in an office I supposed.

Yesterday, my boss arrived from a trip and invited us all to lunch. It was a sumptuous lunch in a very fine restaurant I must say. A Filipino cuisine as we all preferred it to be. Amazingly, the price is very reasonable. It's a newly open Cuisine, very elegant and so anyone who wishes to travel to Cebu and likes to try Filipino dishes and a blend of Spanish dishes as well, you all can look for Pino Filipino Cuisine. It's all worth the money paid. My boss was very satisfied, more than satisfied in fact.

If we hadn't made the reservation and hadn't looked at their menu prices prior to going there, I might lose my appetite to eat. I’m afraid that we might have chosen a more classy restaurant, kind of expensive for us, or I’m afraid that we might go beyond the budget....afraid that my boss will get the impression that we took advantage of the opportunity of giving the will to chose. Knowing that I personally suggested the place, (I saw it in ads) afraid that I’ll be the recipient of rolling eyes made me a bit nervous because the moment we enter.... all we saw were the elegant place, splendid arrangement that the next thing will come to your mind...is..."this must be a dollar place". Blessedly, it was not.

We were all smiles as we depart the place.

Happy day everyone!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 5^th, 2008, 8:36am

The weekend was too short for me, we only had Sunday as our rest day. We attended Mass in the morning and there was a religious event that we must attend to in the afternoon...so we attended. There was not much time to spend with the kids...sigh....

I think I got a flu. The hot weather takes its toll. I don't worry much of myself...I worry for Luigi who is so prone to virus infection. The last time he got infected by virus, he ended up in hospital. That was last month. It's so painful to see any of my children get sick. I cried bucket when he was injected three times in a span of 10 minutes. First, on his left foot for the intravenous but didn't get lucky, it was error. He was a little chubby by then, so it's rather hard to find the vein. After so much crying, a vein on his right hand showed, luckily..it went right this time. The third one was for his antibiotics...they had to inject it on his skin to check if he's allergic to it or not. It was my first time seeing my child get hospitalized.....It was not easy, it was painful. I keep on praying to God hoping it will not happen again ....but then ...not my will be done but His. I'm praying for additional strength then for whatever trials come our way. I hope I won't be infecting anyone at home with this virus. Hmmm...can I infect anyone here.. instead of home???

I take lots of fluid and take medicines on time l...hoping this will cure fast.

I hope you guys have the best of health..I'm wishing you all the best of health.

God bless everyone!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 6^th, 2008, 3:06am

Today, the Roman Catholic celebrated Ash Wednesday. Devout Catholics will go to church today to receive the ashes and even the not so devoted. Today is a day of fasting and abstinence . Every Friday from here on, we have to abstain from eating meat. As one of the priests clarified it, it's not a sin if you missed to fast and abstain...it's all about how you commit yourself to your religious obligations and duties. I browsed about Ash Wednesday today and I came across this Ash Wednesday prayer and thought it best to share this to you.

A Prayer for Ash Wednesday

Blessed are You, O Lord our God, the all Holy one, who gives us life and all things. As we go about our lives, the press of our duties and activities often leads us to forget Your presence and Your love. We fall into sins and fail to live out the responsibilities that you have entrusted to those who were baptized into Your Son.

In this holy season, help us to turn our minds and hearts back to You. Lead us into sincere repentance and renew our lives with Your grace. Help us to remember that we are sinners, but even more, help us to remember Your loving mercy.

As we live through this Ash Wednesday, may the crosses of ashes that mark our foreheads be a reminder to us and to those we meet that we belong to Your Son. May our worship and prayer and penitence this day be sustained throughout these 40 days of Lent. Bring us refreshed and renewed to the celebration of Christ's resurrection at Easter.

We ask this through Your Son, Jesus Christ, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit for ever and ever. Amen.

The priest put the ashes in our foreheads in a cross sign and utter these words "from dust you came from, to the dust you shall return"

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 7^th, 2008, 3:01am

The flu continues...I don't think this will leave in a day or two. Much to my diligence in taking medicines, still I can't feel any signs that it gets better. I can't cuddle my kids :-[...afraid they'll get infected. What a torture that is.

I continue working too because I don't see the need to file sick leave. I'll get sick more if I'll stay home lying all day. On second thought, it's better to infect my officemates rather than my children. hahaha..mean of me. Anyway, I don't think so though...they're as strong as ox.

Anyway, I hope you all have a good health....God bless!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 11^th, 2008, 3:22am

Feb. 9....My Mom's Birthday

My Mom is 72 years old now blessed with good health too. She had undergone two surgeries already, one for goiter and the other one was tumor in the intestine but that was long time ago..if my guess was right..I was then in my elementary years but now my son is an elementary pupil already. See how time flies...and Praise God for the blessings.

I have a wonderful Mom but believe me she can be tough and mean too. Well, we all are.

In your 72nd birthday Ma, my prayers mostly focused on continued blessings of good health, both you and Papa, thank you for bringing us into this world and for providing us the things we need, for supporting us emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. Life was hard for us but you managed so well...Thank you Ma, you're the best.

"I LOVE YOU".

Much as I'd like to enjoy the celebration, it was a family affair, but I'm a bit much disappointed because I was still not feeling well by then even now. But I wasn't the star of the day, it was my Mom...so it was just fine even if my mood was at the lowest. It was a happy occasion for my Mom and that was all that matters.

Ohh I got my hair done yesterday to hopefully alleviate my lousy feeling. Nothing much though but trimming and re-styling from plain straight to boring layered.. hehehe..! I was under stress lately and as an effect I had falling hair. My hair was kinda long so I had it trimmed...I'm satisfied and I like that gay hairstylist. There was this newly open Hollywood Spa and Salon near my place...I was eager to try it...with the hope that once I got in...I had this notion that I'll get out with a Hollywood feeling already. Must be the effect of those medicines I took for a week...hehehe....bear with me guys....just trying to lighten up....

Hope you all had a great weekend and do enjoy the weekdays coming. God bless you all.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 12^th, 2008, 11:41am

Just today I read the rules in blogging.....good thing I haven't committed any violations yet but May isn't here anymore to execute sanctions. Ohh the present moderator is Witchy...no one can hide from her crystal ball you know. I came to read of May's very just and fair rules and regulations. I missed her. I missed her writing and blogging. I missed all of her. So many people that I have missed actually...too many to mention. Seems they got all the life and I don't. No, I don't believe that. I just have enough time to surf, browse and read blogs and chat on my day time...but I do have a life after work....being defensive eh..hahahaha...not really. I rarely chat at home but there were times before when my chat addiction was beyond repair...I admit there were times that I have to snuck in at night and chat awhile. The room was so lively then, full of wonderful people....thus this forum was created.

Going down to memory lane, this room was full of brilliant and intelligent individuals...full of sense of humor...full of pretty and gorgeous women, handsome and hunk men. Most of them are gone now....they have their own blog sites either in Y360 or Multiply...or anywhere...but they're just somewhere. This virtual world already plays a huge part in some people's lives..myself for one. When I get bored in the office...I only have to log in and talk to myself....no one will call the men in white coats for me....it's easy to generate some fun too....knowing that I have good friends lurking around ...and some messy people in the chat room that obviously need some attention....I'm too generous at times that I had to give in. No perverts though...I find them hard to deal with before ....and now.

okay..enough of that now......time to go home and swift duties.[right][/right]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 14^th, 2008, 4:17am

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY ALL!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 14^th, 2008, 10:48am

~Frills and Thrills~

A relationship needs frills and thrills. Don't you think so? Well, I believe so. The longer the relationship the more it needs the frills and thrills or so I thought. Why? Perhaps, the more you get to know each other...things will start to bore you or him....we tend to missed out the presence of each other over something else. We will probably say, this is more pressing than him, he/she can come later. But when is later or how soon is later or how later is later? We tend to overlook the important aspect or worst we were being overlooked. Whichever way...that is a reality in a relationship and inevitable too. It will happen unknowingly and unexpectedly. The next thing we knew...everything dried up already. With all the hardships in life....physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually....we often stand on what we think is right but we can't always be right. How to treat this kind of virus in a relationship???....perhaps be more vigilant....and communicate often. Always look out for some fun but what if your partner is not that cooperative anymore!...a man of few words in fact!...how can we ever establish two way communication there. Hard! Probably a great challenge.....something I never wish to have but maybe I have it already...nyahahaha...God forbid!

~Blue Moments~

I sometimes have my blue moments...I'm human after all. There were moments that I feel that I was being neglected, taken for granted ....in other words...I just needed some attention or perhaps....i failed to share my time and it backfired on me. That is so possible. Most often than not....it's just all in the mind.........I was just being difficult perhaps. Before I dwell on the matters...I have to think it through, ask some questions......why these things are happening?...why I wasn't in my good or best mood?....what is there to rant about?...where did things go wrong?, why I behave like this?

See, feelings or moods like these will just surface. I'll become sour all of a sudden. Inevitable...period blues? Possible. Hormonal changes? Could be. Getting-old blues? Probably. Human as we are, we are entitled to this kind of moments. A good exercise for the mind, will-power, heart beat check up, good blood pressure checker....lol..and more. Sometimes, I have to cry over it...for whatever reasons...there were moments that its just feel right to cry but of course...when no one is watching. I don't want anyone to witness my blue moments for reason that...I don't want them to worry over things I can't explain. I'll savor the moment ...then after the outburst...I'll treat myself either to spa or to eating spree. Some moment that I just want to be alone and care free....and everything will be all right. ohhh am I still sane??? geeze I've divulged too much.

I'm not used to finger pointing or blaming over my blue moments...it will all boils down to myself. I have to reconcile with myself first before I'll come out in the open. They say "no relationship is perfect...that's true....but I'd say no relationship is hopeless as long as the couple is up to saving it. Never neglect a problem that needs utmost attention...never set aside a problem thinking that it 's just a simple one..it will grow big before you know it and the next thing you know...it's beyond saving because the dryness have scattered vastly that not even the water in the ocean can save it. Ahhhh...but one thing I've learned...always solve the problem together....not any one.....solving it alone can cause more problem.

So, to everyone out there who are in a relationship...deal it wisely....all relationship are worth saving...especially when it was once made in heaven.

:)"HAPPY HEART'S DAY":)

A message I received from a friend today...I love to share it with you all.......

Loving is not how you forget, but how you forgive
not how you listen, but how you understand,
not what you see, but what you feel
and not how to let go, but how you hold on.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 16^th, 2008, 4:07am

This is going to be a very short weekend.

Today is Saturday and I have a whole day work. I'm still adjusting from these alternate working Saturdays. I can't say I like it...coz I have too little time for my children anymore and there's not much rest over the weekend. I think a half day work every Saturday was much better....or how I wish...no more Saturday work at all. [smiley=smash.gif]

Carlos, Andrea and Luigi

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Enjoy your weekend everyone! We are still lucky to have a weekend to celebrate with...some are working day in and day out...7 days a week.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 21^st, 2008, 4:55am

Carlos and Andrea have the same birth date except the year of course – falls on February 20. Don’t ask me how did that happen or if we calculated or something - neither. All my children were born in normal delivery – Praise God, so, it was meant to be for them to have the same birth date. Andrea’s due date was March 7 so when she was still in my womb…I talked to her to hopefully follow her due date…obviously to no avail…she wants to have same birth date with her brother….Carlos was born around 9 a.m. and Andrea was around 8 a.m. Not much difference. You know what they say about February celebrants? – helluva moody. I was thinking perhaps one Feb celebrants in our household would be enough, apparently not in my case….it’s fun to see riot from time to time though.

Yesterday, Carlos turned 9 and Andrea turned 5. Ahhhh I was looking for some wrinkles in my face last night in front of a mirror….jeeze…as they grow older…so am I. Can they just grow without me growing older too? Sigh. Reality sits in, I have to or say we (my husband & me) have to. To look at the brighter side of it….we grow old with no wasted time because of the challenge we are into – that is – taking care of them in all ways. It’s one of the toughest job you know, but we will try our best to raise them with passion and be a good model to them. How? Only God knows...He's our guiding light.

To my children : I love you and A very happy birthday to you both. May God bless you with wisdom, good health, peace of mind, and with good character too.

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Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 22^nd, 2008, 11:47am

HAVE A GLORIOUS WEEKEND!

Got three days off here!!! [smiley=music-smiley-023.gif] Isn't that nice!!! [smiley=smash.gif] I'm ecstatic! Well, I only have simple pleasures in life...having a long weekend is one. Not that I'm going anywhere..I just love to stay home and be with my children. It doesn't sound much restful but I'm very much at peace when I'm home.

I hope I can get on line from home but I doubt the possibility knowing that my children are at home too. They usually invade the PC at home but then I've heard Rose (my older helper) will visit her hometown for three days...which means my hands will be full for the weekend. I don't mind...I think she needs to go home and breathe some hometown fresh air. That might help her in a way.

Anyway...I wish you all a glorious weekend.

God bless us all!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Feb 27^th, 2008, 5:49am

It was a draining day yesterday ---emotionally that is... I saw my friend fighting for her life, horrible as it was but I have to be there to support her. She's a cancer patient, breast cancer to be exact stage 4. Metastatic means the cancer cells has spread throughout her body. She's on her last days or only God knows...two days ago she stopped taking solid foods, yesterday it was more on water...the taste of Ensure milk she was drinking was not to her liking. She used straw and she's under oxygen support too. I saw her in pain almost every minute. Not a pleasant sight, heart wrenching in fact and she can hardly recognized anyone yesterday....but thanks God she got to know me after awhile I kept talking to her and holding her hands. She's young, 36 and has two kids and a husband ..well...a husband I don't like. He gave her heaven for a year or two of living together and once my friend gave up her job for reason ---so she can take care of her family, husband and kids full time --- the husband's monster character surfaced. The husband was ecstatic when she told him that she'll resign from her job. She was miserable from then and often kept it for herself. Stress and depression might have triggered the illness she's having now....that by the time she knew she has a breast cancer .... was on stage 4 already...that only miracle from Almighty God can heal her and our only hope. Apparently, she wasn't granted by that miracle we keep on praying for. God has his own reasons though, maybe it is best this way. The husband is not on her side in this most difficult times of her life...he took care of her though for sometime but not long enough....for whatever reasons..he gave up again. Whatever his reasons..only he knows. My friend told me though before... right after she knew about her condition....that it's fine with her to have no husband on her side as long as her mom is there for her. It hurts me knowing that...it should be her husband who'll be holding her hands, encourage her, but she knew too well I guess that she can't expect it from her husband. She's so nice a lady to deserve a man like his husband. She was abused physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. She called me several times in the past and confided me some of her pains...and I was there to listen and trying to convince her that she deserves better. Selfless as she is....she prefers to suffer alone rather than put her children in pain of having a broken family.

The heartless husband brought her to some places, visit his friend and let his wife walked in an unfair distance for her present condition. He'd know too well that the spinal column of his wife will collapse any minute but he does not take notice of it....after that stroll ....our fears happen..it collapsed makes her bedridden by then. He's an insensitive brute - my friend can't complain to him...all she did was go with the flow to avoid further misunderstanding because she was trying so hard to bring everything to normal --back to normal where everyone is happy. Will it ever be?

I don't know what to say when I'm with her, so I often try the light ones hoping that will ease her a bit...but who am I kidding?

got to go

Peace be with you all and may God bless us all with excellent health.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Mar 11^th, 2008, 3:26am

I'm bringing with me a dust cleaner, I can see cobwebs from here. ;D

My office PC broke down and that leaves me no choice but to work on something else....it was worth it though. I had a short break from chat too but I can't help snuck in using my office mate's PC but only for a short time. Hmmm better than nothing I suppose.

I've been tempted to try blogging from home but I can't give in to my wishes knowing that it was my children's exam week and I can't have them distracted. However, I can do it late at night but I can't sacrifice my sleep too or I'll be too tired or sleepy in the morning. Guess, it's something that can wait at proper time or probably I've changed...I'm not that addicted anymore or shall I say, I'm more sensible. :o (joking) I missed it though....hmmm ...terribly. :D

Anyway, nothing much happening in the interim of my absence, and I haven't visited my friend Nilda too. I was busy with work lately and I'm glad everything went well except yesterday. Yesterday was my error day. :-[ I've sent two mails to my boss all with wrong entries...so I've decided not to reply any of it yesterday because I'm afraid it would be another error. Anyway, it was just a minor correction. Too many deadlines yesterday that I have to cope and must done with. Probably, I'm half distorted yesterday enough to make me confused a bit.

My children attended a birthday party last Saturday and I've noticed something. Carlos (my son) joined the first game and unfortunately he lost. Another game followed, I asked him to join and he said "no" thinking he'll lost it again .............. I was dumbfounded for a bit....and the next thing I told him was....."you know CD (my son's nickname - CD stands for Carlos Daniel)..."losers never win, and winners never quit. You should keep on striving and aim for the better, you can't be a winner all the time but you can't be a loser forever too....you can't stop trying just because you lose once...it's not a healthy attitude...though these are just fun games...but your attitudes show --- not a nice one I must say". ] I left him alone giving him time to think it through....and the next thing I saw...he joined again...and he did not sulk after he lose a certain game or games. Carlos will be a handful, I can see it. I hope God is with us (his parents) all the way as we try to mold him, inculcate in him the values that will make him a better individual. It's a tough job but I hope we can do better.

Okay.....I'll end here....I have to get back to work....I'll wish that from this day forward will be an error-free work day always. ;D May your day and days will be error-free too.

God bless us all.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Mar 26^th, 2008, 12:50pm

partnerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..................
omg been long time I dont come to this forum!!! I even just find out that u now got a blog!!! [smiley=Lurking.gif]

And OMG Luigi is big now............ grrrrrrrrrr I miss holding him like last year [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=iloveyou.gif]

I've been so busy these days. Also catch cold cuz I was too tired and lack of sleeping.
Gotta catch up with you soon, I got tons to tell you.
Muach muach partner, have a blessed day [smiley=sweetheart.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Mar 28^th, 2008, 2:47am

on 03/26/08 at 12:50:05, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

Wow Partner...it's good to see you here....been missing you. Get well soon and don't work too hard.
Yes, Luigi is getting bigger, he can entertain us now but If he'll entertain others..I'm planning to impose an entertainment fee...what do you think? [smiley=cat39.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]

I've got a flu myself Partner but not because of lack of sleep and over work like yours...it's because of the weather..too hot. grrrr.

I'm looking forward to that chat partner...nosy as I am I want to be keep posted nyahahahaha...joking...I missed you lots...and [smiley=iloveyou.gif] [smiley=heartbeat.gif]

Take care always and stay beautiful and happy all the time [smiley=cat36.gif]

Have a glorious weekend with all these stuffsssss [smiley=popcorn.gif] [smiley=pineapple.gif] [smiley=taco.gif] [smiley=spam1.gif] [smiley=bread.gif [smiley=burgereater.gif] [smiley=cake.gif] [smiley=chef2.gif] [smiley=chicken.gif] [smiley=chips.gif] [smiley=pizza2.gif] [smiley=pizza2.gif] [smiley=handeating.gif] [smiley=iwantcookies.gif] [smiley=chef.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Apr 5^th, 2008, 9:10am

Oh it’s been awhile. Few things had happened in my absence, some were pleasant, and some were not. Not that I’m complaining….just part of life…trials and difficulties…joys and pains…who says life is boring…well, definitely not mine.

Anyway, since it’s the end classes here in our country…recognitions were done left and right…my children’s schools were of no exception. Andrea’s recognition came first. She was so happy to finally have medals of her own. She ranked fourth and got the best in reading award.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01029.jpg

What followed next was the death of my dear friend. She passed away on Easter Sunday. Though I know it will come to this but I can’t deny that I’m still hoping that she’ll get better. We were able to visit her on Holy Wednesday and that was the last time she talked coherently. The next day, she can’t talk anymore. It was so sad, maybe we were prepared in some ways, but it still hurts. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to attend to her internment because my youngest son was hospitalized a day before she’ll be laid to her final resting place.

My son was diagnosed of pediatric acquired community pneumonia and we stayed in the hospital for 3 nights and four days. I’ve been absent from work the whole time. My husband though worked sometimes half day.

Carlos recognition came next. His Lola accompanied him since we can’t go with him because Luigi was still in the hospital. Carlos ranked 8th and got the Best in Science and Best in Penmanship awards.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01124.jpg

Then, when I’m back to work…everything is busy… busy… busy.

Praise God for healing my son and for arranging everything in order.

Have a great weekend everyone!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Apr 10^th, 2008, 9:10am

Gosh !!! look at andrea!!! she is soooo PRETTY :-* :-* :-*
I miss you all :) :)

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Apr 11^th, 2008, 12:38pm

on 04/10/08 at 09:10:02, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

Gosh !!! look at andrea!!! she is soooo PRETTY :-* :-* :-*
I miss you all :) :)

We miss you too Partner :-* :-* :-*

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Apr 14^th, 2008, 12:32pm

To get something you never had,
you have to do something you never did"
When God takes something from your grasp,
He's not punishing you,
but merely opening your hands
to receive something better.

Concentrate on this sentence.....

"The will of God will never take you
where the Grace of God will not protect you."

I've got good news today, my sister-in-law has a healthy baby girl in her womb, she's running to 6 month on her pregnancy. We are praying so hard for this knowing that the she got miscarriage on her first pregnancy, this is her second. Praise God! This really is an answered prayer.

I will continue praying for her health and the baby, and that she may have normal and easy delivery together with all the pregnant women in the world. May God bless you all with best of health, normal and healthy baby, and normal and easy delivery.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Apr 16^th, 2008, 11:28am

God connects.

My mother is the only living person among her siblings. She had four actually. All three are in the good hands of the Lord. Way back then, she had a brother who lived in Davao...until he died. My mother knows she has nephews and nieces in Davao...unfortunately, she just lost contact.

One day, her niece contacted her from France just for a chit-chat and with God's blessings that talk ended up meeting them in Davao, my mother went there courtesy of Aunt Ludy. She was invited by my Aunt Ludy to visit them. Since my mother is kinda old, we don't want her to go alone, her two grandchildren, my nephews went with her. It was a good reunion. After then, texts started to come by, it passes thru my phone at times because my mother doesn't know how to use a cellphone nor she's interested to learn. Hence, all messages for her will pass through us her children or through my nephews who went there with her and who were able to gather friends from their visit too.

One day, my Auntie Ludy called up in my mobile and we talked. That was the start....now I have three Aunties in my yahoo messenger friend's list..two from Davao and one from France. God is good, He connected us. It's great to know my relatives.

Auntie Ludy will visit Davao this coming July and she invited my Mom and I to visit them....hmmm...I hope I can go this time. I was scheduled before to accompany my Mom to Davao on her second visit...but I got pregnant...so it was cancelled...my nephews went with her again. I hope my trip to Davao will be push through this time. Hmmm...something to look forward to. But then, there are few considerations...one is I'll miss my children to the max....sigh....let's see.

It's a great blessing, I must say...chatting and hopefully meeting my relatives sometime in the future whom I've never set eyes on before....though there were stories about them but too minimal. I'm so thankful to God for this kind of blessing...it made my mother so very happy too. Thanks to Aunt Ludy who made the effort to reach out - she's more capable than us though in many ways.

Yesterday, Aunt Ludy and I were chatting and introduced me to my other two Aunties in Davao...Aunt Ites and Aunt Amparo....nice chatting with you Aunties, hope to see you all soon.

God bless our family tree.

:)

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on May 8^th, 2008, 3:52am

40 Tips for a Better Life - 2008

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate
anti-depressant.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.

3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.

4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is
to __________ today.'

5. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.

7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, tai chi, and prayer. They provide us with
daily fuel for our busy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is
manufactured in plants.

11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon,
broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing
energy into your life.

14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past,
negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the
positive present moment.

15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply
part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons
you learn will last a lifetime.

16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid
with a maxed out charge card.

17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.

18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all
about.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this
matter?'

26. Forgive everyone for everything.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. GOD heals everything.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in
touch.

31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

33. The best is yet to come.

34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

35. Do the right thing!

36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!) Hey Im thinkn of ya! =)

37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful
for __________. Today I accomplished _________.

38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a
fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the
ride.

40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.

May your troubles be less, May your blessings be more, May nothing but happiness
come through your door!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on May 23^rd, 2008, 6:19am

It's been awhile...sigh....I think I'm just lazy to blog ...ahhh...there's nothing to blog at all. So that's it. Not that there's good to blog now....I'm just merely blogging an update of the few occasions that we have in this month of May.

May 18 - My husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary.
May 19 - Luis Gabriel's first birtday

For our 10th wedding anniversary...there was no celebration though a thanksgiving Mass for the occasion is a must. We had scheduled the mass at 6:30 a.m. since we have other religious activity scheduled on that day considering that it was a Sunday. Greg and I were busy preparing for Luigi's birthday...we prepared something for the kids...a small kids party. Of course Greg and I celebrated our anniversary exclusively...nyahahaha! A little selfish I must say. Anyway, as I was contemplating, I don't think I married for 10 years already...if I haven't have a 9 year old son as proof I would have deny it. It seems like yesterday. Ohhh I forgot my age too...darn....

For Luigi's birthday....here's few faces of him on that day....

Ugly face....

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/luigiugs.jpg

Smiley face....

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/luigi3.jpg

His handsome and cute messy face...

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/luigi2.jpg

He's clean self for now....

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01180.jpg

Luigi started to walk several steps when he was 11 months old...at one it is still wobbly but he loves to walk than crawl which means.....be ready for more tiring jobs ahead...nyahahaha!

Have a great weekend everyone and God bless you all.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Aug 2^nd, 2008, 10:00am

Time to burst out again...sigh....

My helper for less than two months got pregnant...on the way to two months according to her. Problem no. 1 - the boyfriend became an ex before she realizes that she's delayed of her period. Upon realizing that she's delayed he texted her ex boyfriend about it but got cold response about it - in other words, the guy will not take responsibility. Problem no. 2 - she has a family in Negros but she's determined not to go home, afraid that her family might kill her. Maybe a bit of exaggeration but it will always boils down to physical violence...which is not good for the baby. Problem no. 3 - she has two sisters in the city, unfortunately she lost contact to both of them. Sisters both are married but she has no idea of the names of his brothers-in-law. In other words, no one to turn to. Problem no. 4 - if we (as her employer) dismissed her from work - she'll be forced to abort the baby. Definitely, we will not favor that.

But God is still good....we came up of the following plans to solve a bit of her predicament.

Plan A - since we are against abortion more so being the cause of abortion, we have decided to talk to the father of the baby hoping to accept the responsibility. We can never force him of course ---- our only intention is to give enlightenment. This will be for tomorrow's agenda so do wish us "God bless"....sigh....

Plan B - if plan A will not work, then we will scout of an orphanage that caters pregnant unwed mothers, live with them for free until the baby is born and hopefully give them both the chance to be together forever.

Plan C - i have no clear idea as to who qualifies in the orphanage, but if she'll not be qualified there, I'll be force to endorse her to DSWD (Department of Social Welfare and Development). According to my source, DSWD can take care of everything but she'll be ended up in going home to her hometown. The thought of hometown made me shiver because that means she'll be battered for sure. But then according to my source...a DSWD staffs will accompany her home and talk to her parents.

Things are rather hard at the moment, reason why adopting a pregnant woman is out of the question. I'd rather get pregnant again than caring another pregnant. The responsibility is just so huge.

Our fervent prayer at the moment, is for God to guide us and that we may able to choose the best home for her where she can grow mature and improve herself as a person and that God will enlighten her of the right things to do. She's twenty years old and she said she's not ready yet and has so many plans for her life. She's so determine to abort the baby at first and much as we can't stop her of her decision, I do asked her the favor to vacate our home and do the abortion somewhere else. I'm glad to know that she changed her mind.

She needs a lot of growing up to do the moment I first saw her. The helper I had before her got married so I asked her about getting married too and she told me her boyfriend is from Bohol and is living in Bohol. Now that she got pregnant, we found out that she had a boyfriend here in the city. Oh and she's not behaving well too, according to her friend that I had the chance to chat with told me that there was one time she was drunk...she went to the boyfriend's house and did some scene...oh well....I've heard the family were angry of her that time.....and tomorrow we will go there....ouch...seems like going a trip to the lions den....double sigh....

oh well....don't know what to say anymore....this sure gives me headache.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Aug 3^rd, 2008, 12:31am

OMG !!! I seen Luigi's front teeth !!! what a blessed !!! :)

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Aug 6^th, 2008, 11:24am

Today, we dropped our helper to DSWD (Department of
Social Welfare and Development). I felt sorry for her but I tried to be strong hoping this will be a good step for reconciliation between her and her family.

The DSWD will contact her parents and tell them her story, council them why she's afraid to go home.

I hope and pray to God that everything will come out fine and everyone will be happy in the end.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by nOrKAy on Aug 10^th, 2008, 10:48am

WOW! Gracie! I didn't know you got a blog! Really , great feeling reading all the pages. Thanks for the worthy time I have spent, although, my eyes are so sore now and I need to lie down now.

Great kids you have! ;D

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Aug 11^th, 2008, 4:32am

on 08/10/08 at 10:48:24, nOrKAy wrote:

Awww Krissy...you left me no choice.....you were gone and I got nothing to do. I just can't leave the place...I think Reebeaux tied me somewhere. nyahahaha.

Actually, the house was almost empty for quite sometime...so I thought it's the best time to create a blog...I"m kinda shy and no one's around..so who would noticed as to what I'm doing here except Reebeaux...but he's so kind not to mind what I'm doing as long as I'm not messing anyone or anywhere....nyahahaha

Thank you Krissy, as always.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Aug 18^th, 2008, 12:49am

hi partner :)
I wonder what happened to your helper?
Is everything ok now?

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Aug 21^st, 2008, 4:08am

on 08/18/08 at 00:49:53, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

hi partner :)
I wonder what happened to your helper?
Is everything ok now?

She finally decided to go home Partner, unfortunately only to run again. Her mother will not accept her so I told her to find help in their municipality to look where DSWD (Department of Social Welfare)....it will cater to homeless individuals. In her case, just for the time being or until she delivers her baby. She can work again after delivery. But then, I don't know what she's up to now....though I'm waiting of her to ask some help or whatsoever except adopting her. She mentioned a brother in Manila though who is willing to give her the fare and work there....but she said once he'll know that she's pregnant, things might be different.....she's again worried he'll hurt her physically. I hope our prayers here will guide and protect her in any way Partner. It's so sad though. :(

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Aug 28^th, 2008, 6:40am

UPDATES:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01301.jpg

The latest family picture we had taken in one of our stroll in the park. It was nice seeing my children growing up and oh well, it wasn't nice seeing myself getting old...nyahahaha! That's life.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01292.jpg

Proudly presents~~~~ the three rugrats --- as what my pakner called them.

THIS IS FOR YOU PARTNER...[/b]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01348.jpg

Partner, Greg left his coffee drink and Luigi was fast to finish it. Guess he'll become a coffee addict in no time right??? oppps...the can is empty though... that's why he settled on the next drink he found. See next pic.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01334.jpg

Seems coffee is not enough...C2 next. nyahahaha!

Hope you like it Partner.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Aug 30^th, 2008, 9:32am

Month of August ~ is the Philippines Buwan ng Wika. Yesterday, was the culmination of the Buwan ng Wika in Andrea's school. See picture of her in her Filipiniana costume and some with her classmates.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/bahalagkatolbastaposegyud.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/mybestfriendIrish.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/muragwalakatuli.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/herewego.jpg

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Sep 26^th, 2008, 6:44am

Wow, it's almost a month since I've been here. Though I came here almost daily for some other matters. Anyway, nothing exciting happening so far but there's one coming up. I hope to God it will be push through. I'll let you know when I'm back.

Aside from the fact that I'll be a year older soon...hmmm...that reminds of some muscle pains that I've encountered lately..well ...they say due to aging. Jeeze....but that's a fact. The more you reconciled yourself of the fact that we have to go through aging process, the happy you'll become with the outcome. Let me see, the wrinkles starts to appear anywhere, the young doesn't have that, definitely they'll envy us who have it....nyahahaha! The fact that we are exempted to remember everything due to some memory lapses, the youth have no exeption at all because they are young, vibrant and active. another nyahahaha!

Oh life...how happy am to have a life. Enjoy life folks, that's the only way to stay young, young in mind i mean.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Oct 18^th, 2008, 4:36am

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/dipuedekungcastlenaajudko.jpg

I had the privileged to visit Fukuyama and Osaka courtesy of the company where I am working. Being a loyalty awardee that is. It was fun and exciting 5 days. A grand vacation I must say, all we did was stroll, having fun and enjoying to the max. Though, I was missing my family back home too, terribly. We've visited their museum in Fukuyama, that castle behind me. By the way, there were 10 of us blessed employees who were given the chance to visit Japan. So, it was fun roaming around and enjoying the new sights, learning few things.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/attheparkFukuyama.jpg

We went to their park too. There I was enchanted with their art, a mom playing with her child...I can't help but pose...I'm missing my babies at home too.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/DSC01475.jpg
That red thing in my back will light at night according to Mr. Sato - our companion in going there.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/itsafakechurchbehind.jpg

I thought I found a Catholic Church so I posed...later..I found out it was a fake one.

...to be continued

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Dec 16^th, 2008, 10:34am

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!!

Life is busy now, well, right after I came back from my Japan trip. Another loads of work were added to my old ones. A new foundation company has been set up and I was appointed as accounting staff -- free of charge, ouch!!!. Not complaining here, but handling three companies is no piece of cake. It can be confusing at times. The transactions were minimal sometimes and sometimes not. Anyhow, I am enjoying knowing I'm still useful. ;D

Another update on my motherly duties, this part is kinda hard especially in dealing with my eldest son, a preteen. (sigh) I find it hard on how to deal with him, I'm afraid we will clash often. I thought it was just me, but when I gave Greg the reign, the problem is the same. He's not the attentive son anymore, at his age, all he wants is fun, fun, fun. TV, stroll, computer, games, all that fun stuffs. He lost focus on his studies, he belongs to not-so-good group in school. Well, I hope he wasn't influencing them, I prefer to know that he was being influenced by his peers. (sigh).

Before, I left him alone in the computer doing surfing and browsing, playing games but when I found out that one of his classmates was giving porn sites to his fellow classmates including him and what's worst he opened it actually thinking it was game site according to him :'(......so disappointed I am, I grounded him from computer till end of the school year.

I think I'm a great failure as a mother and God knows why He gave me three.

I rest my case.....prayer is my only strength for now. I only hope the best for my children and only God will make that happen no matter how impossible it maybe.

Godspeed Grace!!!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Wicked_Witch on Dec 16^th, 2008, 11:31am

Hahaha! Don't worry about it, sistah. Your son is at an age when he gets curious of everything around him. Give it some time, he will soon get tired of it. It can't be more shocking that finding my daughter with a condom in her wallet when she was 18 years old? I knew 18 is probably old enough for some, but for Pinays like us and for a girl, it's a very young age. But so far, I am still in control of their lives...just a little. Hehehe! so take it easy, ok? It will pass.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by teagirl on Dec 16^th, 2008, 1:11pm

on 12/16/08 at 10:34:58, Gracia wrote:

I think I'm a great failure as a mother and God knows why He gave me three.

I rest my case.....prayer is my only strength for now. I only hope the best for my children and only God will make that happen no matter how impossible it maybe.

Godspeed Grace!!!

Why would you think that you are a failure as a Mum when clearly, you are exceptional. You will have to remember that your little boy is growing up and teeming with hormones. Naturally he is curious --- I hope you are able to explain to him that sex is healthy and is a God-given gift between individuals who love each other; and that pornography demeans women in every way, that is why he has been grounded for watching porn and not because its about sex.

I would rather that he learn to have a healthy attitude towards sex and you be able to talk to him in a very logical manner than have resentments grow between you.

I hope and pray for more patience for you Gracie and for your little boy who is in a hurry to grow up --- temperance. Miss you, my friend!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Dec 17^th, 2008, 9:51am

on 12/16/08 at 13:11:36, teagirl wrote:

Thank you, just all I need --- encouragement.

You know what he said when I ask him if he open it? He said "no it just popped up" -- and later I found out from one of the mothers that a certain classmate of him gave that site to his friends. After I've known that information, I confronted him with his Papa and he admitted that he opened it. All the while, I was thinking it was my nephews who opened it and trust CD so much. He lied Doki and it was not the first.

You know Doki, I am planning to visit a psychiatrist, to understand more of him. What do you think?

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by teagirl on Dec 18^th, 2008, 9:16pm

on 12/17/08 at 09:51:41, Gracia wrote:

Gracie, he may have lied because he was afraid --- but then again, I don't have any children of my own to be able to say what works and what doesn't. You know your child more than anyone in the world and also, we have been teen-agers once --- remember how stubborn we were and how rebellious in ways we could not explain? CD is going through that phase as well, teetering between exerting his own independence and trying in a new suit of becoming an adult. It's just unfortunate that the avenue he has taken in exerting his individualism is through pornography.

Scolding him, mistrusting him, punishing him will not solve this issue, Gracie. I have always believed that a real communication will give you more of a "solution." Explain to him that what he did has hurt you, but it doesnt mean that he is a bad person in your eyes. Make it clear to him where you are coming from. Call in a meeting between you and him and hubby and explain to him how his act has hurt you or has disappointed you but don't be critical of him.

Also, you will have to remember that he is a good boy; that he is a good son and that his being caught at dabbling with porn should not mark him for life in your eyes. Expect him to be a good son and he will be. Don't believe in the worse in him, give him the room and the faith to grow as an honest, truthful, and an individual with integrity and he will be.

With regard to going to a psychiatrist, I don't know, Gracie. It might be futile. Or it might be helpful, I don't know. You have to remember though that psychiatrists are medical doctors trained to "cure" by prescribing meds. In your situation, there is really nothing to cure. What you require is understanding for your son, and understanding for your self: At why HE and YOU are acting the way YOU BOTH are acting, where both of you are coming from, and what needs to be done to resolve this conflict.

I would suggest reading books/article especially on adolescents and how to parent them, and I'd like to throw in "non-violent communication" guides as well. The internet is teeming with the articles you need, quite ironic really considering its the vehicle in which this distressing situation has come from.

God bless you, Gracie. Including you in my prayers.

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Post by Gracia on Dec 19^th, 2008, 2:46am

on 12/18/08 at 21:16:55, teagirl wrote:

Doki, thank you for that. You know I've been talking to CD explaining to him about just anything and that I am disappointed the way things are happening. I can see that he is listening but when he's mood came up, he just forgets everything and so we have to remind him again. He's a very nice kid, very understanding when he wants to and everytime I see him like that, I say to myself...."there's hope still". I can't help but worry Doki, I don't know, maybe because I believe that whatever my son will become it's the outcome on how we parents brought him up.

Thank you for the prayers Doki, just what we all need always.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Dec 31^st, 2008, 3:12am

on 08/28/08 at 06:40:45, Gracia wrote:

Goshhhhhh!!!!! Luigiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii [smiley=Lurking.gif] [smiley=sweetheart.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Dec 31^st, 2008, 3:25am

Partner, I'm in shock too reading your blog about CD, I can't believe at his early age he already found out about porn....

Me, myself maybe found out about porn when I'm 20+...but you have to realize something here.... this is 2008...almost 2009, kids used to computer and internet, the technology "push" them to use it. Long time ago when I started chatting, I went to internet cafe alot, I cant believe, boys there still wearing school uniform (that's how I know how young they are)...some are in elementary still, some are in junior high school, They been opening porn site and giggling about it between them, somehow I feel scared of the new generation though.

I guess that's what happen with CD as well, he grown up, he's in transtition stage, in a stage that he want to know everything, curious about everything, that somehow made him lost his focus.
I can't say it's normal, cuz deep down in me, I won't say its normal, but this world will say it's normal.

You are a great Mom, Partner, I came there and I met you all, and I still believe you are a great mom !!!! Don't ever doubt it.

I am agree with may in this case (eventhough I don't have kids of myself yet), that scolding, punishing etc somehow wont work. It may work for some kids with different characters though.
I remember when my mom scold me long time ago, it even made me more rebellius, since my mom don't know how to communicate so it made it worst.
Communicate with him as much as you can, tell him all you had in your heart and mind, tell him how much you love him and you will not let him fall into bad things.
I guess that's the best.

I have no clue on psychiatrist, it might be help, might be not. But if you think it will help then you should see one.

I hope everything goes well with CD and your family, Partner.... my prayer is always with you.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 6^th, 2009, 3:53am

on 12/31/08 at 03:25:28, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

The site was given by his classmate Partner.....and he was thinking it was a game site...so he opened it. There was another classmate who was given that same site too and the father of that child was waiting for the father of that son who gave away that site --- to talk about the behavior of his son. So I was hoping this will not happen again. Maybe when he grows up where it's impossible to keep track of him all the time. For now, everything is fine except that he lost focus on his studies...guess that is something that I have to reconcile to myself that my son is growing and he can make his own decision already --- that includes either he likes to study or not. I've been communicating to him Partner....always....but he has this stubborn streak in him....that I have to allow him to see the consequences of his actions and learn from it.

Happy New Year Partner, it was nice hearing from you again!!!

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 6^th, 2009, 4:06am

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Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 6^th, 2009, 4:17am

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/princessandrea2.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/princessandrea.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/Luigi.jpg

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 6^th, 2009, 4:19am

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/cebu_femme/children.jpg

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by K.... on Jan 6^th, 2009, 4:23pm

Mom Gracie, Andrea has grown to be a very pretty girl. She's so ladylike. Look at the way she smiles. You must be really proud. :)

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 7^th, 2009, 3:39am

on 01/06/09 at 16:23:27, K.... wrote:

Mom Gracie, Andrea has grown to be a very pretty girl. She's so ladylike. Look at the way she smiles. You must be really proud. :)

She's acting so ladylike at her age Daughty. She has less tantrums for now....she's always in good mood in front of a camera too. I am just trying to expose her to keep her shyness away. I'm succeeding so far. ;D Thank you Daughty. :)

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Jan 8^th, 2009, 5:09am

Happy New Year to you too, Partner :) :)

And Gosh!!!! Andrea so lovely.... :) as mother as daughter...... both beautiful :-*

Luigi grow soooo fast....and he grow so cute!!! look at his lovely eyes.... I can't believe last august he's still tiny and I hold him in my arms :-* :-*

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by teagirl on Jan 8^th, 2009, 8:32pm

on 01/07/09 at 03:39:06, Gracia wrote:

Because
the baby
has turned
into a lady,
Gracie!

;)

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 10^th, 2009, 10:21am

on 01/08/09 at 05:09:15, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

Awww Partner...thank you, but I wish you're here now that Luigi is bigger. We do appreciate a helping hand in chasing him. He can only stay put for 10 seconds or less....except when he's asleep. I had ache all over during the holidays. Nyahahaha! Regardless, it was all fun though.

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 10^th, 2009, 10:33am

on 01/08/09 at 20:32:34, teagirl wrote:

Because
the baby
has turned
into a lady,
Gracie!

;)

I wonder if she'll get over it by the time when she's at her preteen Doki? If not, it will be a long years for her "lady stage" and by the time then I'll have wrinkles all over. :o

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Jan 11^th, 2009, 3:31am

on 01/10/09 at 10:21:53, Gracia wrote:

got a better idea... [smiley=idea2.gif] Just send him here so I can watch over him anytimey [smiley=iloveyou.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by dOnUtz 9urL on Jan 23^rd, 2009, 2:16am

Been looking for you, partner?
Where are you? are u ok?

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Gracia on Jan 23^rd, 2009, 3:44am

on 01/11/09 at 03:31:17, dOnUtz 9urL wrote:

got a better idea... [smiley=idea2.gif] Just send him here so I can watch over him anytimey [smiley=iloveyou.gif]

:oI would love to Partner if it will only take 10 seconds to ship him there. nyahahaha!

Quote:

Been looking for you, partner?
Where are you? are u ok?

Been busy with work Partner...sigh....I have so little time in the virtual world but I'm trying so hard to be here as much as possible. We are all okay here. Luigi's front teeth was cut into half....geese.....that son of mine doesn't know how to walk, always keep on running...but problem is ---- he got no brakes at all. So that's it...he bumped into one corner and viola! the teeth cut into half (crosswise). I don't know if that is good or bad....because in all honesty --- we are sighing with relief that for the time being he has no will to bite us coz of that injury.

How are things with you partner? MIssing you lots! [smiley=iloveyou.gif]

Title: Re: ~~Telltales of a Mom~~
Post by Wicked_Witch on Jan 27^th, 2009, 8:03am

I am sure you are having fun being mother to your kids, sistah. Enjoy them while you still can because when you wake up next, one of them is going to get married already. Hehehe!