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(Message started by: okasantina on Feb 24^th, 2005, 1:04pm)

Title: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Feb 24^th, 2005, 1:04pm

This thread opens way to our children coping on how to handle them, their behaviors, tips, and all about our kids world regarding their life.

Share some ideas, stories and suggestions about our wonderful kids what they do...their problems and the laugh they shared to us as parents. ;D

And for those singles out there...share ure views, experiences about kids.. ;D ;)

post awayyyyy :P

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets hear about their world!
Post by okasantina on Feb 24^th, 2005, 1:22pm

To start out this thread i will emphasize that this are for mom and dads and even singles on everyday raising, nurturing, teaching and playing ;)

I always encounter lots of parents having a prob about their kids...one of these are ... BEING SHY ::) How to draw their kid out and make them more at ease around people....this is one of some reasons why some ppl loose their self esteem cause from the start they are shy and timid. Lots of reasons why eh....Sometimes, parents misread their children. There were times kids are really shy its because they just dont like or not interested in the social situation or the activity. In that case, dont force them! If we push them to something they dont like at all, it just spoils their day. There are some ways also like help them to find a HOBBY! Some kids are easy to bore and dont like to engange w other kids...like my son who is easily bores! though he is spontaneous... If u see one day that ure child has a tiny interest in cycling, jumped at it...and looked for other neighbors or cousins who have bicycles too ;D That will start her interest in dealing with other kids right? ;)

Oh well there are more to come...cant tell it now eh...So if u have any questions regarding ure kids just let me know, im a mother of 2 but i cant say im perfect in discipling my kids...i will just explain the details for what i had experienced and googled from the books about parenting ;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Mar 7^th, 2005, 7:24pm

Hello! its me again... just wanna share what ive red from the book...
Psychological studies indicates that about eighty-five percent of your child's adult personality has been formed by his or her sixth birthday. So your best chance for success is to lvoe and discipline your child effectively during those first crucial years. There are some suggestions to work on the remaining 15%. Here are those....

*** Keep a journal of ure child. Stay aware of his or her specific needs. Let your child know u r thinking of him or her. Talk openly about future concerns such as vacation, spouse, and children.

*** Build in your home a balanced climate of laughter, adventure, surprises, mutual care, good music and books, and good friends. make it fun to live there. One test of your home's atmosphere is whether the neighborhood kids like to congregate there! (oh really) :o

*** Have frequent times of spritual interaction as a family, tailored to the interests and attention span your child. Get him or her involved in contributing to meeting the needs of others.

to be continued................

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by mylane on Mar 8^th, 2005, 7:27am

I have question to all mothers here. ahihihihihihi ;D

How would you teach sex to your children? :-/

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by gracia on Mar 8^th, 2005, 11:01am

hmmm when my son reach his puberty stage...i'll get back to you My

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by norkay on Apr 1^st, 2005, 7:16am

When my brother was talking to their daughter before when she was still learning to talk,he talked like the way her daughter talked and my sister in law said; "dont let her teaches you how to talk and pronounce words like she does.Talk the right way and she follows you" and don't be the to follow her".I laughed at my brother.I realised it's very true. :D

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by gracia on Apr 22^nd, 2005, 3:47am

Tins you have to answer my questions!

My son turned six last february....i have a hard time handling his being so moody....as if he has woman's monthly thing everyday..very irritable especially when it's time to study...or when it's time that he has to stay home....well, i can't let him be akyat bahay gang all the time...so i have to tell him to stay home. I find it hard to adjust so i ended up reprimanding him often..and i don't like that. He will not raise his voice to me..his temper will mean nothing to me..so instead he'll pour it out to others..and i dont like it either...what i'm afraid is.. what if, if it will become a habit already...and andrea is on the stage of imitating everything she sees...its difficult...she will surely imitate what her brother is doing...is it true that piescians are irritable and moody :o because i'm sure i still have one to look forward to....because Andrea is too...they both have same birthday...oh motherhood...why will you not come easy??? [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Apr 26^th, 2005, 5:41pm

on 04/22/05 at 03:47:53, gracia wrote:

Same with my 8 year old boy Gracia…he is always bored especially when im the one who is watching tv…geesh how can I watch sponge bob all the time when I wanted to watch cnn news or etc. Its really hard to reprimand him always. I know that child even suffers STRESS like us elders. That’s why even if they always go outside the house to play with their peers, its not enough u know… I know ure a working mom and sometimes easily to get annoyed especially when u got home from work, but your son needs attention. He also feels tired being at home or playing outside always…getting bored in his daily routines. And so what I did is I talked to him personally, I keep on talking to my kids before goin to bed and telling stories … like what your doing when your at that age…who are your friends….everything goes….Yes…they are very irritable when it comes to studying and sometimes I need to argue about it but you should gave them samples on why they should study and what will happen if they will not. Give them options … let them decide and let them think… so in the future they will know how to handle themselves right. Its really a change of attitude especially when they reach the puberty age. ENGAGE HIM IN SPORTS, ask him what sports he really likes…and let him be enthusiastic in what he really wants. That would made him think twice that u really care for him. Child has no contentment, more than us elders…so try to imagine them…they need us more cuz the way of thinking they have is not the way we do…so were just molding their minds on what to think is right for them and what to be avoided. Let him talk, help him come up with actions and then assist him in thinking through the advantages and disadvantages of each action. Help him get into the habit of thinking things through instead of giving litany`s of your demands, lol. I think its not the zodiac sign … my son is a Taurus and my girl is Gemini and im Leo so how can i handle those? Lol…I know its really not easy but its just the way on how you can communicate with them. Even though they are our child they still need respect from us. Calm him down, hug and talk. Okay I hope I answered ure questions based on my own experience. Thanks a lot for reading my thread. Cheese! ;D ;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by gracia on Apr 27^th, 2005, 4:52am

Thanks for the answers Tina....right now my son has a class every morning just an hour though. I don't know if its a right decision, but i just want to inculcate on my sons mind how important studies and since its summer i don't want him to be too preoccupied with play and games and tv. He ask me if the tutorial can be stop because he doesnt want to go...he's bored..he got no classmates.....so instead..i gave him a little incentives so he'll go on with the tutorial...like i give him 5 pesos a day....he's not use to money...so it's like for him...he's in heaven with that amount...poor son...am i doing the right thing?

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Analyn on Apr 27^th, 2005, 6:03am

Gracia. I am not qualified to tell you that you're not doing the right thing..because mother knows best...however, I have heard that rewarding a kid with money is not good... maybe rewarding him with praises is better...better reward him praises and give the 5 pesos a day to me... ;D

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by teagirl on Apr 27^th, 2005, 7:01am

Yes. I agree with Ana. I think you should reward him with praises and encouraging words and well, I won't accept the P5.00. I want P500.00.

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by killerabbit on Apr 27^th, 2005, 9:28am

Well I dont think its a bad thing.Both are good things to encourage him in any way you can.Back in the day...not my day(I was a spoiled brat)...children were given money for helping with household duties and so on.So when it came time to buy that one thing they always wanted,they felt pride that they earned it and it taught them that money is not easy to come by.I always refer back to the "Andy Griffith" show for tips. :P :P :P

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by gracia on Apr 27^th, 2005, 10:31am

Quote:

Ana, I do have a litany of praises and encouragement just for him, especially that he performs well in school, probably he's immune..and i think he sensed that tutorial is really not that important and besides, he's tutorial starts at 7:30 a.m. ..so has to wake up early ::) this morning he's really lazy and when i give him back the wallet i confiscated from him, he went like crazy and so very energetic.

Quote:

Yes. I agree with Ana. I think you should reward him with praises and encouraging words and well, I won't accept the P5.00. I want P500.00.

Doki, if my son ask for 500.00 i'll put him in a sack and hang.

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Apr 27^th, 2005, 2:51pm

on 04/27/05 at 04:52:02, gracia wrote:

Your son studies for almost 10 months...and because its class vacation that means he has the right to do everything out of class that he cant do during school season. You said he is a bright boy so why worry about it? give him trust and make him believe to himself that he can do it w o taking summer lessons. But instead engage him in sports ... he is a boy. And a boy who is smart and easy to get bored has something more to do and show off. That will increase his confidence and exploration. In my case cuz its summer vacation...i let him watch tv, play ps2, play outside but he knows the limitations...that you will notice his being responsible in making up his schedules. Well about giving some incentives...well, there are times that we cant resist u know...so what i did was i gave incentives if he did something that i like best...well i guess u have no choice but to give him 5 pesos everyday i think...but isnt that too much? he is just making an excuse i think....who is manipulating who now? lol and one more thing...why that so early???? lol ...Mommy Gracia give him a break, its his month to enjoy his being a boy u know....hehehe, let him know himself more by engaging into other activities. ;D

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by gracia on Apr 28^th, 2005, 5:49am

Mommy Tins,

I asked him about tutorial if he's up to it, he said yes, i asked him about the time, he said its okay...my son is an early riser...that is if he likes to....but i want him to be responsible..he said yes..so he will stand on his words....he's a good manipulator Tins..but i'm smarter than him sometimes..so sometimes i can get away with his tricks. But if he's in the mood..he's forgetful of what i promised him....i only have to catch his good mood and he can forget all those

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by beth on Apr 28^th, 2005, 8:27am

mommy tins :(
can you give me one baby? ;D
everybody in here tawkin abt their kids here n l aint got one even, grrrrrr.... lol lol :P

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by gracia on Jul 12^th, 2005, 6:12am

CHILD RAISING

Your children are not your children
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you
And though they are with you they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you
cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not ot make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bow from which your children as living
arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrow may
go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

by: Kahlil Gibran

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Nov 17^th, 2005, 7:33am

"The most important thing a wife can do for her child is to love her child`s father.....

The most important thing a husband can do for his child is to love her child`s mother"

How would u react on this??? :)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Nov 17^th, 2005, 7:55am

Quote:

How would u react on this?

No violent reaction coming from me Tins, you know why, because parents will be the best model for their children. If they'll love each other, then the children will do the same.

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by nOrKAy on Nov 17^th, 2005, 5:11pm

on 11/17/05 at 07:33:44, okasantina wrote:

Uh oh, I am answering Tinz ? ::) LOL.

Well,just sharing ,anyway. In your case though Tina, since you two can't do/show to your children the things like "real" couples do ,or like what the saying says that you should love each other , I suppose the best thing you can show them is your harmony--how the two of you show good communication and respect for each other despite of everything. Show them that the separation [if it's the case] that they see was not caused by hatred. I also think ,that despite of what happened--whatever had happened, it's also a good thing to talk and let your children know how wonderful their father is, how loving he is. LOL. I hope I am making sense here.LOL.

Seriously though, in that way, the children will not loss their respect,love and good expectations from their Dad. At the same time, they are able to understand the situation and can understand why things had to happen.

Hugs Tina, I understand it's hard for you. Now, this is making me remember the hardship of my Dad. How he tries his best to show how wonderful his second wife is,just for me to love her as well. Because, even when my late Mom was already dead, I still wanted him to communicate and show that he still loves my real Mom.

Just my thoughts. ;) ;D

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Nov 17^th, 2005, 5:52pm

on 11/17/05 at 17:11:15, nOrKAy wrote:

Thats was a very sensitive thoughts of u Krissy and that was so nice...Yes! and its so hard to make them understand, that if im not with my partner there will be no firm foundation. And oneness is very important to the well being of ones child, a foundation that will see the rough places of life, if you do not give him this foundation, he will have many struggles as he attempts to adjust to life. And he will sense something is missing. And a child needs to know everything from the day he was born. That`s why many problems between parents and children are really problems between parents. For two human beings to become one is a life long process, two personalities, two minds, two sould becoming one...and the child needs it to have a firm foundation for his future. :)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Nov 25^th, 2005, 1:20am

I'm raising two teenagers here, what can I say? I think they are the hardest kids to raise at their ages. Younger ones are still manageable. But teenagers? Fairly! I mean now they seems to want to have a life of their own. I missed those days when we would all go to the mall or parks or any occassions together. I miss those days when they allow me to choose/buy things for them. Now they have their own sets of friends. Sometimes when I get too busy I do not see them for 2 whole days except for notes that they leave on my dresser everytime they need to go out and not sure if i will be home before they do. One time I went to my daughter's room, she was in the bathroom and her wallet and bag was lying on her bed and I went to check it (out of curiousity, mind you) and found a packed condom. :( Now I don't know if I will confront her or just leave it be. I remember when her Dad was still alive. Whenever she will ask permission to go out with friends, my late hubby would joked "sure baby, just remember SAFE SEX, ok? It pissed me off everytime. We used to argue about it. He would say he was just joking. But I told him that it's not right to say those things to our kids, (yes, he said those things to our son also) because he's giving them an idea. And he would argue that if they want to do it, there is nothing we can do to stop them so we just have to guide them. So far things are still ok, and I hope it will remain that way till they finish their studies. I'm still close to them but I understand that there are personal things that they won't discuss with me. I think parenting is the hardest job of all. Especially for single moms like me.
So, Tina? Wait till they are older THEN real problems/worries will begin! ;D

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by CooCHie on Nov 27^th, 2005, 4:12am

***I got this through my email and I think this is pretty nice story to share****
A man came home from work late, tired and irritated,
to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the
door.

SON: "Daddy, may I ask you a question?"
DAD: "Yeah sure, what is it?" replied the man.

SON: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"
DAD: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask
such a thing?" the man said angrily.

SON: "I just want to know". Please tell me, how much
do
you make an hour?"
DAD: "If you must know, I make $20 an hour."

"Oh", the little boy replies, with his head down.
Looking up, he said, "Daddy, may I please borrow
$10?"

The father was furious, "If the only reason you asked
me that is so you can borrow some money to buy silly
toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself
straight to your room and go to bed. Think why you are

being so selfish. I work hard everyday not for this
kind of
childish behaviour."

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the
door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about

the little boy's questions.

How dare he ask such a question only to get some
money?

After about an hour or so, the man calmed down, and
started to think : May be there was something he
really
needed to buy with that $10 and he really didn't ask
money very often.

The man went to the door of the little boy's room and
opened the door. "Are you asleep, son?" He asked.

"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.

"I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you
earlier," said the man. "Its been a long day and I
took
out my aggravation on you. Here's the $10 you asked
for."

The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
"Oh, thank you, Daddy!" He yelled.

Then, reaching under his pillow,
he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The man, seeing that the boy had already some money,
started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted the money, then looked
up at his father.

"Why do you want more money ! if you already have
some?" the father grumbled.

"Because I didn't have enough,
but now I do," the little boy replied.

"Daddy, I have $20 now,

Can I buy an hour of your time?"
Please come home early tomorrow.
I would like to have dinner with you."

******************************************************

So what is the moral of the story?
Don't work too hard.........and you know
what's the full word of FAMILY?

FAMILY = (F)ather (A)nd (M)other (I) (L)ove (Y)ou

THE MORAL OF THIS STORY :

Its just a short reminder to all of us working so hard
in life.

We should not let time slip through our fingers
without having spent some time with those who really
matter to us, those close to our hearts.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working
for could easily replace us in a matter of days. . . .
.

But the family and friends we leave behind,
will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. .!

And come to think of it,
we pour ourselves more into work
than our family.

An unwise investment indeed.......

"TO THE WORLD, YOU MAYBE ONE PERSON;
BUT TO ONE PERSON, YOU MAYBE THE WORLD"

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Dec 2^nd, 2005, 11:36am

on 11/25/05 at 01:20:00, Wicked_Witch wrote:

OMG! OMG! OMG! [smiley=omfg.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif] Awww witchy dear now im getting worried about my kids...when i read this dont know what to react...if i want to cry or want to laugh at it! but what i felt was my heart beats so fast..geesh! imagining my kiku will have a condom on her wallettttttttttttttt!! thats a big waaaaaaaaaaaaa [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif] [smiley=bigcry.gif] .... and my Machao [smiley=bigcry.gif] oh my god! Am i in a turbulance??? in a panic?? oh my i need to relax! [smiley=freak.gif] If i am in ure case...i would surely confront ure daughty but in a comedy way...i mean not to humiliate her...but for her to be open to u...especially when both of you are too busy to talk about anything...theres no harm in asking about her personal lives...i know thats her life...but we mothers should know there whereabouts... Why not try to ask it in a comedy way like...."Dear daughty next time u want some condoms ask me and ill give u a better brand", then wink her...then for sure she will laugh at it..then i guess that will be the start of a good convo right? ;D

Well i dont know if i will do the same at first lol! but ill try and i will not panic .... oh my oh my!! now i have a headache! lol :)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Dec 3^rd, 2005, 4:51am

As they say, enjoy, treasure, and grab the opportunity while your kids needs your company because time will come that they will have to be on their own company and parents will be left behind. This is true and at least the memories is there and its something that will be carved in children's heart and from time to time, they gonna miss that memories and will find time to spend with their parents. So Tinatins, we are not behind yet, and we can still do something to build a solid foundation...lets make the most of it.

As for your teens Witchy, all i can say is that, God will not give you any trials that you can't bear and handle. He permitted that trials, then i'm sure, He will give you wisdom on how to manage them. Just keep praying...and don't stop asking.

On my part, I can't prepare myself to that yet, we sure have different scenarios, but i'll just cross the bridge when i get there. ;D

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Justine on Dec 3^rd, 2005, 8:40am

Being a parent is a tough job indeed. I admire many single parents having the valor to assume great responsibilities. Hats off to you, Tins and Sistah. Hey, it's not so bad, really, I got 25 to deal with LOL

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Dec 3^rd, 2005, 4:20pm

Maybe I can breathe normally when my children finished college, at least by then I can presume that they're responsible enough and more wiser. Ohhh a long long long way to go...at least for you Witchy, you're almost on the finish line with regards to their education.

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Dec 3^rd, 2005, 4:51pm

on 12/03/05 at 04:51:42, Gracia wrote:

So Tinatins, we are not behind yet, and we can still do something to build a solid foundation...lets make the most of it.

;D

Yeah ure right there gracie dear..that solid foundation is the strength of bond to our kids, it might turn out to be well for them to be open to us. And for them to realize how much we do care for them.. togetherness always can be so effective but not to the point that they cannot stand on their own feet and do it on their own ways to decide whats best. We parents just can be always there to guide them, we are the ones who can build their personalities as a better person and not other people. Plus of course w the need of prayers, putting GOD between the family is the best. :)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Dec 6^th, 2005, 1:32am

I wish it were that easy, Tina. But if i make a joke about something as personal as condoms, I can already imagine how she will respond, something like "mom, don't be so vulgar!", and that's with some irritation, too! I know my daughter, she will not appreciate that kind of joke from anyone. But I try to talk sense into her. She has a friend in the neighborhood who got pregnant even before finishing highschool. I try to grill some sense into her by making an example of that friend. I will tell her "look at her, she's too young, she's supposed to be in school but she has to take care of a baby. And she's missing out on all the fun, too! Can you imagine yourself staying at home, taking care of a baby and not able to go out with your friends?" She will say "yukkk, mom! I like holding babies but not forever like!" That comment from her always makes me laugh! ;DI guess I'll just have to be thankful that she's being careful :-/ My problem with my son is he always manage to lose a celfon! That was the 5th he lost last month. Actually, it always get stolen, the 5 celfons he had before. But it is also due to his carelessness. He lost a celfon because he trusted a friend to hold it for him while he was playing basketball. And the friend said he gave it to someone else and so on and so on. His other celfon, he left it at his aunt's house and they were just outside the house playing with his cousins, when he went back inside, it's gone already. And several friends of my sister has been seen coming and going but so are some of his cousin's friends. He lost another celfon while recharging it here inside the house. People has been coming in and out of the house also, so we are not sure who took it. His other celfon was stolen by an addicted cousin who denied stealing it. ::)And he lost another celfon when we went to stay overnight on the beach in quezon province. He swears it was inside his pocket when he went to bed that night, he woke up and it's gone and he was sleeping with his cousins and some friends of them they invited to join us. ::)So far he's been a good boy. Always sleeping on time when there are classes the next day. But when he doesn't have to go to school the next day, he stays awake all night playing online games or out with his cousins. ::)Im not worried about him, I worry about the company he keeps, even though they are his cousins. Sheez...parent's problems seems endless!!!
Yes, Gracia, I always pray to God to take care of my babies so no harm will come to them.
Sistah...you are also a single mom, and with 26 kids to boot! :P Hurray to single moms!!!!Cheers!! [smiley=icon_drink2.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by thebeast on Dec 21^st, 2005, 12:23am

Problems I have with the teenage daughter.

1. She is so dramatic about everything. When I say no its like her whole world is gonna blow up.

2. She will not shut the damn door when she uses the bathroom.

3.The sarcasm I have has finally found its way to her using on me.

4.She makes very good grades but she thinks thats all she needs to do.

5.Its all about her friends now. Seems like they are the most important thing in her life now.

6. She is turning into a beautiful girl. This really isnt a problem but I really miss the pig tailed girl she used to be sometimes.

7. She is a beautiful girl but her room is always such a mess so she lives like a pig. Hell I am not the cleanest person in the world but her room looks like a tornado hit it.

8. Dorky sounding boys call her on the phone.

9. Her best friend leaves our house and then 2 minutes later she calls her on the phone. This happens every day.

In spite of all these problems, I am learning what my parents felt when I was her age. They laugh when I tell them about the stuff she does..then they spoil her which makes my job 10 times harder. I think this is part of thier revenge on me for all the crap I did. ;DIn some ways she is worse than I was, but for the most part I think she is a good kid. I have learned to take a lot of deep breaths before I speak to her. Its hard, but anyway you look at it, children with all of their faults, are still a blessing, because they really can surprise you sometimes. They can make life more difficult for you but it seems like their actions can also make you a better parent because you have to deal with them. ;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Dec 21^st, 2005, 3:26am

Lol, joel...let me add mine to yours:

1. I told them I do not want them hanging around somewhere else and I would prefer it if they would hang around at home. So they bring their army of friends in the house and I have to feed them all.

2. And too, now that they are staying home most of the time, they uses the phones for hours and do not answer incoming calls sometimes.

3. It always piss me off that when I try to wake them up to go to school, I always have to drag them out of bed. But when their friends come to call, they are up and already in the shower in a minute.

4. With my daughter, her friends are more important than her family. Even if she feels obligated to join us on some occassions, you can be sure she is bringing a friend..or friendS if she can get away with it.

But I wouldn't want them to be any other way. I want them to enjoy life as much as they can without overstepping the boundaries we have set for them. Besides, outsmarting them is a big challenge to us parents ;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by nOrKAy on Dec 21^st, 2005, 4:39am

Wowwieeeeeeeeee, this is making me excited ---to be a Mom and share about my encounters and stories about my children !!! My heart is pounding! Hihihihi.

I will be the best Mom, trust me !!! LMAO !!! :-[

on 12/21/05 at 00:23:04, thebeast wrote:

Its hard, but anyway you look at it, children with all of their faults, are still a blessing, because they really can surprise you sometimes. They can make life more difficult for you but it seems like their actions can also make you a better parent because you have to deal with them. ;)

Yeeeeeeeee, Joel !!! Now I feel like I want to hug and kiss you, for acting like my Dad ! Yehey! I love this statements !!! [smiley=icon_drink2.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Jan 4^th, 2006, 8:46pm

on 12/21/05 at 00:23:04, thebeast wrote:

In spite of all these problems, I am learning what my parents felt when I was her age. They laugh when I tell them about the stuff she does..then they spoil her which makes my job 10 times harder. I think this is part of thier revenge on me for all the crap I did. ;DIn some ways she is worse than I was, but for the most part I think she is a good kid. I have learned to take a lot of deep breaths before I speak to her. Its hard, but anyway you look at it, children with all of their faults, are still a blessing, because they really can surprise you sometimes. They can make life more difficult for you but it seems like their actions can also make you a better parent because you have to deal with them. ;)

Thats true...thanks for being an opener here Joel.

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by CapuchinO on Feb 11^th, 2006, 5:14pm

its happen this morning...when my mom called me and showing my lil bro ( 7 yo ) sleeping while using my dad's pants as his blanket..it was funny and sweet also...

my lil bro is very close to my dad cos he is the only son in my family and the youngest... he couldnt sleep without my dad sleeping next to him... well my dad went to out of town for like a month or so ( 2 weeks now )... so guess my lil bro misses my dad so much... while my mom finished her nights pray she saw my lil bro looking something in my dads wardrobe... but my mom didnt say anything just watched him doin that... when shes done she saw my lil bro already sleep with that pants as blanket... we thought he misses my dad so much so he did that... but then we think it over ... he was doin that after he watched a TV drama bout kids that loosed their parents... guess thats making him sad and wants his dad back... lol almost crying now.. i miss my dad too... :'(

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 14^th, 2006, 4:04am

Awww....I'm sorry to hear that your Dad is out of town, capu, but I am sure he misses you all also. That's the one thing that is good about having kids' parents work in some other countries. After my husband's death, we pretty much settled back in our daily routine. My kids never noticed much the difference because their father only came home every two years for 2 45 days when he was still alive. So they are used to not having him around most of the time.

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Post by CapuchinO on Feb 17^th, 2006, 5:29pm

yeah witchy...my dad is a businessman so he stays at home never go so far... but this time he has new business and required him to go and took him long time...first time ever since he retired from his old job...sailing::)...well he will comeback home soon.. i mis him so much ... :(

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Justine on Feb 18^th, 2006, 1:03am

Aws come here, soulmate, you need some TLC :-*

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by CapuchinO on Feb 20^th, 2006, 7:44am

ty soulmate...love ya..mmuah :-*

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Matthew on Feb 23^rd, 2006, 6:03am

Kids?...beat them regularly

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Feb 24^th, 2006, 3:05am

on 02/23/06 at 06:03:15, Matthew wrote:

Kids?...beat them regularly

[smiley=omfg.gif] [smiley=omfg.gif] [smiley=omfg.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Justine on Mar 1^st, 2006, 4:24pm

on 02/23/06 at 06:03:15, Matthew wrote:

Kids?...beat them regularly

huh ???

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Mar 1^st, 2006, 5:32pm

on 02/11/06 at 17:14:36, CapuchinO wrote:

Thats so cute capu of ure little brother...reminds me of my son when he was only 2 yo... i used to unwashed his dad`s shirt everytime he leave the country, cuz he used to cry a lot for 2 to 3 days everytime he goes to bed and sleep. So what i did was i put his unwashed left shirt beside his pillow so he can sniff his smell always....and it works. ;D ;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Justine on Mar 2^nd, 2006, 10:56am

Amazing how kids can move us adults with their sweetness huh....Whenever I'm away on business trips, my kids would call me to ask if they can stay in my room so they can always smell me. And when I get back home, the last PJs I wore will still be on my bed ;D so cute. Sometimes I wish they never grow up hehe

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 3^rd, 2006, 1:20am

Yeah sistah, imagine kids complaining this way "Parents are hard to understand. When you were small, they try their best and even help kids to take their first steps, and can't explain how happy they are that their kids are finally running/walking on their own. Now, when you go somewhere they complain a lot and would rather have kids stay at home and stop walkingm around!" [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif] [smiley=roll.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Justine on Mar 5^th, 2006, 7:56pm

True there, sistah lol
One more complaint is that when I feel getting disturbed with my work, I tell them to stay away for a while, you know, like do something, stay in their room. Then when I'm all done with work, they'll be asleep already and many times, I wouldn't help myself from waking one of them or all of them to stay with me til I feel sleepy hehehe

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Mar 17^th, 2006, 1:03am

Sometimes I wish they would stay kids forever. I used to dress my daughter up like a doll when she was a young girl. Now she can't even be bothered with ribbons or matching clothes. When I complain that her clothes don't match and that this or that would look better in this or that..she would say "Mom! ::)". Oh well.....

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Jul 12^th, 2006, 3:43pm

She is not a BArbie anymore, and she dont need it anymore...all she likes now is how her kikay kit be elegant, her new mobile mobile to be changed, the new gimmick in town, and the latest fashion u know....i wish my kiku would not grow up so fast :'(

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Jul 13^th, 2006, 5:11am

Tinatins, my 3 year old daughty gives me so much headache already especially in changing clothes. Sometimes, she'll ask me to remove my blouse that i wore because she finds it nice and wants to wear it. I acquiesced to avoid mayhem and tantrums. Sometimes when she saw her Papa wearing sando, she has to change into a sando also. But most of the time, i have no say of what she would like to wear, its always her choice. I can't imagine what it will be like when she'll be a little older. ::) My son never gives me that kind of headache.

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Jul 14^th, 2006, 8:30pm

on 07/13/06 at 05:11:37, Gracia wrote:

How nice to know that ure 3 yr old daughty can show the appreciation of wearing something in her own .... that means her cognitive mind is dealing into diffirent things...trying into different ways...In her young age we cant deal with them especially if theyre having tantrums cuz they are kids...we are not suppose to oppose but to give them some explanation that her age will understand...its like...in school they are teaching ...what dad`s wear? what mom`s wear? what baby can wear and boys and girls...and so on....or by u reading her some books about a boy and girls clothing the difference... in that way she will understand that its not appropriate for her to wear anything ... you can just simply say to her..."See baby, this girl wears skirt, blouse...and this boy wears shorts and undershirt...this daddy wears .... etc...and u can even let her color those illustrations that u will teach to her ...that way she will be able to become aware about things around her.... Im sure in her age she can understand u know...and will be enthusiased in everything she might wanted to know
;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Jul 15^th, 2006, 5:20am

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She's in the stage Tinatins that she have to try almost anything. But definitely she's a girl in all sort. I have to make sure to differentiate boy things and girl things to her. Its just that she's curious in a lot of things and i think that's very understandable but I have to be there when her curiousity strikes...to explain. It's fun but not easy, because she's stubborn too... [smiley=chillpill.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Jul 15^th, 2006, 9:31pm

on 07/15/06 at 05:20:20, Gracia wrote:

That is really normal at her age...but u should be happy about it...cuz her mental awareness has been being developed at her early age eh... ;) so...try to focus on her more..now that u know she is more inquisitive than ure other child...that means her intelligence is different u know ;)
;)

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Aug 16^th, 2006, 8:12am

I feel as if I'm losing control over my kids. :'( Are they really that old now?

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Aug 17^th, 2006, 6:25am

I don't want to control my children's life but i can't help being authoritative to some extent. Darn, lately, it's not working anymore. Just last night he informed me that his computer exam score was deducted 10 points coz he was running inside the computer lab with a classmate. Two weeks ago, he informed me too that he utter bad word.

I talked to his teacher and she was glad that my son is willing to report his behavior in school. Yes, I'm glad knowing that he's not a coward to report his misbehavior in school but it raises my blood pressure to hell [smiley=wall.gif]. Parenting [smiley=wall.gif]how difficult can you get. [smiley=icon_worship.gif]

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Wicked_Witch on Aug 18^th, 2006, 4:23pm

Well, gone are the days when I could just stare them down into stopping any mischiefs they could have done. These days, they only listen for as long as I am talking their ears off. The moment I turn my back, they are gone! Before, they only go out when they want to buy something to eat. Now, they only come home to eat and on days that there are no classes the next day, they are gone the whole day and until late at night!

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by Gracia on Aug 22^nd, 2006, 6:18am

i better enjoy my moment Witchy.... that is quite a headache to picture out..i prefer what I'm having now than what you're having at present. Oh what a choice!

Title: Re: Kids Forum! Lets Hear About Their World!
Post by okasantina on Oct 23^rd, 2006, 5:40am

A child who is not loved in his early life finds great difficulty in giving love later.......

"I love because my parents first loved me."

A child who is not loved in his early life finds great difficulty in accepting love from others........

A child who is not loved in his early life finds he has difficulty fitting in with and getting along with others.

*** Any reaction? ;)